u/AdventurousWay1583

I’m honestly getting pretty annoyed with my job and I’m wondering if I’m overreacting.

I started working at a small grocery store and I’ve been training for 2 weeks, Monday–Friday, about 4 hours a day. One of their main requirements was that I memorize all the PLU codes, which I’ve actually have memorized all of the commons one. I understand wanting me to learn the codes, but they literally have the codes programmed into the register and they also have charts with the codes available.

Today I was talking to my manager and she told me I’ll be training for another week, which would make this my third week of training as a cashier. I’m kind of confused because it’s a small grocery store and, at the end of the day, it’s a $17/hour cashier job. It’s not like I’m training for something extremely complicated.

What really annoyed me, though, is that they also cut me from Friday, so now I’m losing another day of pay.

On top of that, I realized I still hadn’t received my paycheck. I’ve been working for almost two weeks without getting paid, and my manager never mentioned anything about it until I had to blunt it out . I actually had to ask her, “Am I not getting paid this week?”

I feel like I shouldn’t have had to ask in that way but I just got really annoyed . If you didn’t want me to come in the actual payday, shouldn’t my paycheck have been given to me or at least communicated to me? Especially when I’m only making $17/hour and obviously can’t afford to go three weeks without getting paid.

Apparently, since they don’t want me working tomorrow, I have to come back just to pick up my money the next day.

Maybe I’m just frustrated because everything is taking so long. I’ve been showing up consistently, memorized what they asked me to memorize, and I’m still being kept in training while also losing hours making no money.

Am I being unreasonable for being annoyed about this, especially having to ask about my own paycheck?

I booked a hotel reservation about 6 months ago and have stayed at this property several times before. Every previous stay, any fees were charged directly by the hotel at check-in or checkout. Now, only 5 days before my arrival, the host is telling me that I need to pay a cleaning fee directly to them. The issue is that the booking policy states that this fee would be charged at the hotel, so I'm concerned about being charged twice. I told the host that I'd rather wait until after checkout. If the hotel doesn't charge me the fee, I have no problem paying it directly to the host afterward. I just don't want to risk paying the same fee twice. Am I being unreasonable, or is it fair to ask to wait until I can confirm whether the hotel charges it first?

I booked a hotel reservation about 6 months ago and have stayed at this property several times before. Every previous stay, any fees were charged directly by the hotel at check-in or checkout.

Now, only 5 days before my arrival, the host is telling me that I need to pay a cleaning fee directly to them. The issue is that the booking policy states that this fee would be charged at the hotel, so I'm concerned about being charged twice.

I told the host that I'd rather wait until after checkout. If the hotel doesn't charge me the fee, I have no problem paying it directly to the host afterward. I just don't want to risk paying the same fee twice.

Am I being unreasonable, or is it fair to ask to wait until I can confirm whether the hotel charges it first?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. We basically live like a married couple already. He owns the house we live in and he got me the car I drive because I got pregnant before and sadly miscarried. He also makes about triple what I make. I still work and pay for my own personal things like clothes, nails, food, etc. I’ve never been the type to constantly ask him for money.

Today we were in the car and I asked him if we were getting engaged this year. He responded with, “I’ll see if I can make it happen.” That already bothered me a little, but I let it go.

Then I mentioned what kind of car I’d want next once my lease is up. He works as a manager at a dealership, so getting another car wouldn’t exactly be difficult for him it would be discounted for him and the car company will give monthly check for him to pay for the car half . He immediately said, “I’m not getting you a car. You’ll have to get your own car when the lease is up.”

Honestly, that felt like a slap in the face. Not because I think I’m entitled to a car, but because for 4 years I’ve been doing all the “wife” things and building a life together with him. From the beginning of the relationship, I made it very clear that I wanted a provider-type husband and eventually wanted to be a stay-at-home wife/mom. He knew exactly what I wanted and agreed with that lifestyle.

So hearing him suddenly say that made me feel like I’m basically playing house without any real

I (29M) have been with my now fiancée (24F) for about 4 years. Me (29M) and my fiancée (24F) have lived together for the past 2 years and built a life together—we even have two dogs.

After I (29M) proposed recently, my fiancée (24F) sat me (29M) down and admitted she (24F) hasn’t been honest with me (29M) about some big things.

First, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) was my age (29) when we met, but she (24F) is actually 24. Second, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) doesn’t currently have legal status. She (24F) said she (24F) came to the U.S. on a visa as a child but overstayed.

My fiancée (24F)’s explanation was that she (24F) was scared to tell me (29M) the truth early on because she (24F) thought if we (29M and 24F) ever broke up, I (29M) might report her (24F) to immigration. She (24F) also said that once she (24F) lied about her age, she (24F) didn’t know how to fix it.

Now that we (29M and 24F) are engaged, my fiancée (24F) says she (24F) wants to be fully honest, and she (24F) also mentioned that marrying me (29M) could help her (24F) get legal status and that her (24F) case might be relatively straightforward.

I (29M) care about my fiancée (24F) a lot and we (29M and 24F) have built a real life together, but I (29M) am struggling with the fact that she (24F) hid something this big for years and only told me (29M) after I (29M) proposed.

I (29M) don’t know if this is something I (29M) should try to work through or if it’s a major red flag I (29M) shouldn’t ignore.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I (29M) have been with my now fiancée (24F) for about 4 years. Me (29M) and my fiancée (24F) have lived together for the past 2 years and built a life together—we even have two dogs.

After I (29M) proposed recently, my fiancée (24F) sat me (29M) down and admitted she (24F) hasn’t been honest with me (29M) about some big things.

First, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) was my age (29) when we met, but she (24F) is actually 24. Second, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) doesn’t currently have legal status. She (24F) said she (24F) came to the U.S. on a visa as a child but overstayed.

My fiancée (24F)’s explanation was that she (24F) was scared to tell me (29M) the truth early on because she (24F) thought if we (29M and 24F) ever broke up, I (29M) might report her (24F) to immigration. She (24F) also said that once she (24F) lied about her age, she (24F) didn’t know how to fix it.

Now that we (29M and 24F) are engaged, my fiancée (24F) says she (24F) wants to be fully honest, and she (24F) also mentioned that marrying me (29M) could help her (24F) get legal status and that her (24F) case might be relatively straightforward.

I (29M) care about my fiancée (24F) a lot and we (29M and 24F) have built a real life together, but I (29M) am struggling with the fact that she (24F) hid something this big for years and only told me (29M) after I (29M) proposed.

I (29M) don’t know if this is something I (29M) should try to work through or if it’s a major red flag I (29M) shouldn’t ignore.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I (29M) have been with my now fiancée (24F) for about 4 years. Me (29M) and my fiancée (24F) have lived together for the past 2 years and built a life together—we even have two dogs.

After I (29M) proposed recently, my fiancée (24F) sat me (29M) down and admitted she (24F) hasn’t been honest with me (29M) about some big things.

First, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) was my age (29) when we met, but she (24F) is actually 24. Second, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) doesn’t currently have legal status. She (24F) said she (24F) came to the U.S. on a visa as a child but overstayed.

My fiancée (24F)’s explanation was that she (24F) was scared to tell me (29M) the truth early on because she (24F) thought if we (29M and 24F) ever broke up, I (29M) might report her (24F) to immigration. She (24F) also said that once she (24F) lied about her age, she (24F) didn’t know how to fix it.

Now that we (29M and 24F) are engaged, my fiancée (24F) says she (24F) wants to be fully honest, and she (24F) also mentioned that marrying me (29M) could help her (24F) get legal status and that her (24F) case might be relatively straightforward.

I (29M) care about my fiancée (24F) a lot and we (29M and 24F) have built a real life together, but I (29M) am struggling with the fact that she (24F) hid something this big for years and only told me (29M) after I (29M) proposed.

I (29M) don’t know if this is something I (29M) should try to work through or if it’s a major red flag I (29M) shouldn’t ignore.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I (29M) have been with my now fiancée (24F) for about 4 years. Me (29M) and my fiancée (24F) have lived together for the past 2 years and built a life together—we even have two dogs.

After I (29M) proposed recently, my fiancée (24F) sat me (29M) down and admitted she (24F) hasn’t been honest with me (29M) about some big things.

First, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) was my age (29) when we met, but she (24F) is actually 24. Second, my fiancée (24F) told me (29M) she (24F) doesn’t currently have legal status. She (24F) said she (24F) came to the U.S. on a visa as a child but overstayed.

My fiancée (24F)’s explanation was that she (24F) was scared to tell me (29M) the truth early on because she (24F) thought if we (29M and 24F) ever broke up, I (29M) might report her (24F) to immigration. She (24F) also said that once she (24F) lied about her age, she (24F) didn’t know how to fix it.

Now that we (29M and 24F) are engaged, my fiancée (24F) says she (24F) wants to be fully honest, and she (24F) also mentioned that marrying me (29M) could help her (24F) get legal status and that her (24F) case might be relatively straightforward.

I (29M) care about my fiancée (24F) a lot and we (29M and 24F) have built a real life together, but I (29M) am struggling with the fact that she (24F) hid something this big for years and only told me (29M) after I (29M) proposed.

I (29M) don’t know if this is something I (29M) should try to work through or if it’s a major red flag I (29M) shouldn’t

I twenty-nine have been with my now fiancée twenty-four for about 4 years. We’ve lived together for the past 2 years and built a life together—we even have two dogs.

After I proposed recently, she sat me down and admitted she hasn’t been honest with me about some big things.

First, she told me she was my age when we met 4 years ago, but she’s actually twenty-four Second, she told me she doesn’t currently have legal status. She said she came to the U.S. on a visa as a child but overstayed.

Her explanation was that she was scared to tell me the truth early on because she thought if we ever broke up, I might report her to immigration. She also said that once she lied about her age, she didn’t know how to fix it.

Now that we’re engaged, she says she wants to be fully honest, and she also mentioned that marrying me could help her get legal status and that her case might be relatively straightforward.

I care about her a lot and we’ve built a real life together, but I’m struggling with the fact that she hid something this big for years and only told me after I proposed.

I don’t know if this is something I should try to work through or if it’s a major red flag I shouldn’t ignore.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Edit : I make about $200k a year and own my home. I’ve been financially supporting my fiancée even before she became my fiancée. I cover her car, insurance, phone, and most other expenses. She works occasional small jobs, but nothing consistent.

That said, she’s been great in a lot of ways—she takes care of the home, cooks, cleans, looks after our dogs, and always makes sure I’m okay. She’s loving, attentive, and supportive.

So financially, marriage wouldn’t really change much for me since we already live like a married couple. But the lies about her age and legal status are really weighing on me, and that’s what I can’t get past right now