My wife told me she wants to quit church.
This is going to be long but I’m a bit lost as to what to do. My wife and I have been married for 2 years. She’s from Japan and she never really had any context for religion before coming to the USA to study English. Her family was sorta Buddhist but if you know much about Japan it’s not really based in religious theology and more just tradition. When we met I still had a bit of bitterness (tbh I still do) towards the church here in Utah. I was in a relationship with someone who felt like every suggestion by the church leadership was a commandment and that she would be a sinner if she missed institute for example. Because of this I never really connected with members here. (I grew up in Chicago only the second member in my school). I met my wife and I loved her. I still do. We’re very happy. We have a son on the way.
When we got close to getting married she met with the missionaries and got baptized. But I was never a great example and we were inconsistent with our church attendance. She never really connected with the teachings. She sorta went through the motions because she knew I wanted her too. I was hoping that something would change but I think her core worldview on religion is too different from mine for me to know how to help her. She doesn’t even know if she cares to know. I served my mission in North Carolina and I didn’t really have any real baptisms either. I’ve struggled with my faith as well. And I’d say currently I know more with my head that the church is true than feel it in my heart. Idk I’m rambling. I just don’t know what I can do. I told her we’re gonna go to church more often now and that I’d donate plasma to start paying tithing without putting a strain on our finances. I’m trying to increase my activity. But I don’t want to do it alone. And I know that language barrier and just culture differences are a big factor. She doesn’t really relate with testimonies of people who grew up in the church. Idk. I’m just looking for any advice.