u/Affectionate-Sail614

It's all about balance...Not a real serious tangent, but it's just a little frustrating to keep seeing posts asking how to sustainably get specific garments, fast fashion crap and ads. Mindset is the biggest part of practicing sustainability.

Your wardrobe is already sustainable! More likely than not, you already have more than enough clothes.

Please accept that ready to wear is generally not sustainable instead of trying to find loopholes or wishing for a shop that's magically guilt-free and has exactly what you like.

Not everyone needs to be some ultra eco warrior. Making the effort to be aware and make even one mindful choice matters. I'm sure people just want to check if there's an alternative to losing out on something they were eyeing. But it's just a lot of posters with unrealistic expectations.

If you never ask, you don't get to learn. But just keep this in mind that sustainability involves letting some things go, making compromises....people also act like claiming to care about the enviroment is a blood pact and they'll get smited for going to target

Edit: Was going to mention making and altering clothes yourself. It's great advice and was the norm for most of history. I think people recommend this a lot but ignore that this is a skill that takes time, equipment, material, practice and space. It's not something every type of person's just gonna go and start learning. It's not an immediate solution either if a poster at least hasn't ever had a reason to learn basic stiches, buttons etc. by hand sewing

"A lot of neurodivergent people tend to...." doesn't mean it's an actual thing. MAYBE you just hang around the same types of people and spaces? Confirmation bias?

These people act like being in nerdy spaces, dressing alternatively, or being queer is borderline a diagnosis because they overlap online.

I get it. These types of interests have always had people who struggle expressing themselves and fitting in. But there are a ton of adhd/autistic people that AREN'T into these things at all. They're not synonymous because you think it all just magically blends together. (For the record, I'm all of the above)

A post where a bunch of people said they experience something specific DOESN'T mean it's a sign or underreported symptom. Sometimes that case can be made, but the reason some things aren't symptoms is they take time to study!!

A good example is RSD. It's talked about like it's documented but it's purely internet speak. It helps people identify what they're feeling and how to resolve it for sure. But no proof it's an actual AUDHD specific phenomenon...or just people having trauma, anything.

People go to school for years to understand our regular body and mind, and then abnormalities and all their factors. It's another thing to actually get out in the field.

A lot needs to be better understood about these conditions. Especially in women and other marginalized groups. And getting a diagnosis can be very expensive or hard. But doing a bunch of research and having the condition yourself doesn't mean you went to school!!

Just a bit frustrated with this general attitude I see online

Home life was traumatic and I was just focused on survival, not my future or school. My best friend had more severe anxiety and other issues instead of abusive parents

I lost friends constantly being in crisis, venting. Nothing changed no matter how much my friends supported me even though I wanted to heal. I don't blame them. They're healthy people that set boundaries. It's just too much to deal with constantly. But I only left myself with other unstable people.

Eventually I decided to do what I could since therapy and moving out weren't options. Research, reading, a lot of introspection, reddit.

Over the years I dropped all of the toxic friends, a lot of bad habits and made lifestyle changes. I'm in a much better place

As adults I'm see my best friend just doesn't have the same drive in life even with more resources. They're very aware of their issues but still choose unhealthy dynamics, are constantly down on themself. They want to stay dependent. Sure I'm naturally more extroverted and sometimes a leader type. But I've tried giving them the lead to make things more equal, and even with simple things they don't try and don't want to learn.

They make reckless decisions. They're not reliable. And In a not insulting way they've always seemed a little behind in maturity.

I want to support them but it's hard to say if they'll grow past this or if they're just like that. I've talked about what kind of things have helped me improve without giving unsolicited advice. Now it's not about a friend being toxic, but seeing our goals and mindsets are mismatched after all this time. Maybe they'll learn the same lesson I did with those that grew apart from me. It's hard to say what's the right call after knowing each other close to half our lives.

I'm 20 but 5'1 and under 100 lbs. I feel like I'm just cooked. I've always been small and skinny

I feel so defeated when trying on mens clothing. Even the brands that run small are way too big. My waist is 24" and most things start at 28 at the lowest. Small slim fitted stuff is too big. I take an XS in womens so there's just no way a mens XS will fit.

It would be too expensive to get everything tailored

I'm genderfluid and have transphobic family so not going on hormones. Ordering from trans clothing companies is out of the question because my family absolutely cannot find out.

I've found some xs women's clothing that works but materials and cut just aren't the same in most cases.

But anytime I try to dress masculine I feel like I look like a lesbian, which I'm just not. I'm generally a confident person but I hate being so small.

It's borderline unworkable and extremely buggy. On DAWs you can zoom in/out of the recording for smaller measures like this:

x1 zoom [ | | | ] (four measures)

x2 zoom [ | | | | | | | ] (eight measures)

But it is CONSTANTLY, and I mean CONSTANTLY zooming out and/or jumping to the last position you were at when you add or delete notes. So they end them in the completely wrong spot and length.

It freezes often. It even crashes a lot of times trying to add new midi instruments. Say goodbye to hours of work.

Maybe there's a shortcut, but the only way to change instruments is to double click in a specific spot off the side, then right click the instrument which is loaded in as a plug-in, and hit replace. Just seems like bad design

Most if not all samples and loops are paywalled. Kind of a pick your poison thing but for a DAW aimed at beginners I think it would benefit to have a couple ready to use.

There's a lot of potential. No one's expecting ableton or logic but it's WAY too buggy.

This has ALWAYS been a problem on reddit, over the years it really gets annoying.

I now have to either re-explain and/or mention I said this in my post. Like if I asked for budget dinner ideas and said I have celiacs. It's annoying when you finally get suggestions and it's all pasta. You then have to re-explain and/or mention you already addressed this

It's even more annoying when it's a serious problem you've need help with or a long complicated post. Like it's not annoying that people are trying to help but why comment without actually reading??

Safe to assume customer problems are their fault until proven otherwise. This post I'm just absolutely fed up with coworkers but this is a retail issue in general.

If you're getting customer complaints monthly, arguing with customers, constantly getting frustrated...customer service just isn't the line of work for you.

Some of you out here just phrase things wrong. There's a difference between "Anything you don't want, I can put away for you on the rack." and "If you're gonna try things on, just bring it out..." The latter is phrased like you're already annoyed with them trying on clothes and assuming they're going to leave it there. The first is focused on the convenience of the customer.

And you NEVER want to just straight up tell the customer "no." You always provide next steps, alternatives without just telling them they're screwed.

Look, everyone's got different skills. Retail is hard man. Customers are often very entitled, messy, immature. But it's a service job. Every service job means you are representing the company and SERVING the customer. Most issues are not personal. Bad customers see us as part of the company as a whole to begin with. It means being able to take a reasonable amount of disrespect, unfortunately. Some of you have unresolved issues and get defensive as soon as you feel like someone's walking all over you again. A cash register interaction isn't the place for that. It's not about gaining control or winning. Call another staff, manager, whatever the protocol is. If that's not an option focus on getting the customer the fuck out instead of buying into their bullshit when they're trying to get a reaction out of you.

The customer is NOT coming in being magically aware of every behind the scenes operation and rule. They're not people just visiting our jobs. Just because we hate our job or have shit going on outside of work has absolutely nothing to do with the customer. We're understanding of it of course, but you don't like bad service when you're casually out shopping do you? Some of you are quick to jump to conclusions about a slightly tense worker and one interaction but do the same frequently at your job. It's a given customer service requires a high frustration tolerance

if it's your own shop then by all means set the tone. I'm all for it. Ban customers, leave signs. Big companies are detached from what the front lines look like and only care about profit.

But it's annoying to have coworkers never improve their customer service and complain about having constant issues. Frequent, again FREQUENT customer issues are largely poor emotional maturity. Area, clientele, your actual service are all big factors as well. This post just isn't applicable to thousands of different interactions and variables.

I've never had a baseline for showering multiple days in a row. When deodorant stops working I take hooker baths for the important parts. I go weeks or even a month without a proper shower. I brush once a day. I rewear dirty clothes, if I run out of clean underwear I just go commando

This is how my whole life. Being dirty IS my baseline so I never have that "I haven't showered in 3 days, I feel grimy!" feeling. I just make sure me or my clothes don't smell and that's it. I take into consideration nose blindness though. If I think I might I do my best to not get close to anyone or use light body spray.

I never grew up with a hygiene routine. It's just never been a priority as long as I fake it till I make it. Due to a couple invisible mental conditions & disabilities, I also just don't have the energy or executive functioning for a lot of hygiene stuff and I have no regular routine built, so I only cram in hooker baths before work or when it's apparent I'm not clean. Anything that's not apparent from the outside I don't really pay attention to like behind the ears.

And yeah, this is gross. But I'm writing this to give perspective and be vulnerable. Many people that struggle with hygiene don't want to be dirty. We don't like smelly people either. They just have a completely different relationship with it that's been a lifelong battle. I've been learning things I never did with this sub and using hygiene hacks. I carry a travel toothbrush and paste, deodorant, wash up in the bathroom quickly when it's not busy. Consistency is a goal I've been working towards for years

E.g. "you can't participate, comment, vote, upload, but you can still view posts."

I hate when platforms have a smart ass message if you're functionally or literally blocked from using it.

If you don't give c. ai your sensitive into you're stuck in "reading mode." Who the fuck opens a fantasy chat app to read their or other people's old chats?

Hidden profiles on here say "____ likes to hide their posts, but check out their stats to learn more about them." No one is going to someone's profile because they're curious about someone's fucking reddit achievements. How is seeing how many bananas someone scrolled showing me more about them?

Just say a user can't use the main service at that point instead of pretending someone's going to still use it for some random fucking feature