u/Aggravating-Key-8867

My mom has had a major decline in her cognitive abilities over the last year. She's always had depression, which has to impacted her ability to function from day to day. Now she has cognitive decline similar to dementia. I'm trying my best to help her with doctors appointments and making sure she gets what she needs. I've been working hard to find senior living for her, and this week/weekend was supposed to be her move in to assisted living. Well, my mom's doctor filled out an intake assessment incorrectly and today I was told she couldn't move in until the doctor fixed the form. I called the doctor's office and learned that the doctor is on vacation until next week. I had a moving van rented and have 3 days off from work to help with the move. I had a panic attack. Not my first in the past few months trying to deal with everything.

I don't really have support. I vent to my wife about these things. But she doesn't have sympathy for my mom - and rightfully so I guess. My mom has burned a lot of bridges due to her depression. Part of the reason I'm doing all this on my own is because other family members aren't willing to help (not even my brother). My wife loves me, but tonight she told me to basically stop crying to her about my struggles because she doesn't know how to help.

TL;DR: my wife doesn't want to hear me talk about how hard of a time I'm having right now.

What can I do to ease this strain on our relationship? I hate the idea that there is something major going on in my life that I can't discuss with my wife.

I know there are a lot of car recommendation threads here. Well let me tell all of you I solved it. I had to rent a 9' cargo van today and the driver's seat was amazing! For once I sat high enough with enough leg room and headroom that I didn't even think twice about either of those things. I was able to sit up tall the way I like, the rearview mirror didn't obstruct significant portions of my field of view, and I felt like I had great command of my surroundings.

It was a little loose on the steering, the MPG is crap, and the materials they used on the interior were a little too utilitarian. But on the whole I think we should be seriously considering cargo vans in any future car threads here.

The Virginia Department of Health put out a clinician letter on Wednesday advising people of a localized outbreak of measles in Buckingham County. Buckingham is a rural county west of Richmond and south of Charlottesville.

Let's say that a utility company is laying new wire in their easement but to do so they cut a square out of your concrete driveway. By cutting the square, the contractors create cracks through a significant portion of the rest of the driveway. Can the contractor just patch their hole or do they have to restore the driveway to the condition it was in prior to doing work?

I know the obvious answer is "No, you pretend to like that gift as if your life depended on it!", but hear me out:

Late last year I got prescription glasses for the first time in my life. My distance vision is slowly getting worse, and wearing glasses while driving has been a true game changer for me. But I found myself having to choose between wearing the glasses or wearing my cheap sunglasses while driving. Earlier this year I mentioned to my wife that I wanted to get a pair of prescription sunglasses, but just said it as a general wish - no specific plan to purchase or request for sunglasses as a gift. Well, a few weeks ago my wife surprised me with new prescription sunglasses for my birthday. The only problem is that they are the exact same frames as my regular glasses with the sunglass lenses instead of normal lenses. The frames look good as normal glasses, but as sunglasses they kind of give off this "Elijah Wood in Sin City" vibe. Plus the frames aren't actually that large, so I still get bright light coming in through my peripheral vision.

If I don't say anything and pretend to like them, then I'm probably going to have to wear them for the next 5 or so years.

Dads, do I say something? Do I live a lie for the next half decade?

Has anyone here built up a successful career only to lose interest/burn out? Did you make some drastic switch in your job? Tell me your stories, please!

Honestly, I've had a ton of stress at work recently. I had to cancel a vacation to complete a big project and I don't have any guarantee of making it up at any point before the end of August. It's made me pretty bitter and this morning I think I had a panic attack over it. I work this white collar office job that requires advanced schooling. But more and more I'm daydreaming about quitting and working at a golf course or being an auto detailer.