u/AggressivePoet2

Guys growing up I used to listen to love songs from Sun Music - U1 - Harris peak era. Indha love songs ellam kettu etho love full of pure magic "aaah oooh" etho etholam kanavellam katti vachirnthen, adulthood la reality rmba different ah irukuthu 🥀🥀🥀.

First adi friend ku vilunthuchu, avanda ex enaya ave kitta irunthu pirika partha later innoru paiyan kooda parallel ah oru track poitu breakup, within 6 months antha paiyankooda dating - settled in foreign. Innum rendu my close friends fake promises koduthu hit and run pannirkanga; avangalku antha relationship workout agala nu thulium kavalai illa, chill than 😞.

Ithu mattumilama college la assignment - project pass out aga oru love apro clg mudiya love continue pandrathu illa ipdi pala pala stories. Enakku lovenu onnu amaiyala oru pakkam innoru pakkam ipdi suthi irukavanga trauma stories.

Apdi ipdi 25 years um achu after hearing all these trauma stories namku office la oru ponnoda oru crush vanduchu - friend agi nalla pochu, puthusu oruthe join pannan - rich ah apro ellam nottitu poirchu....

Ipa love mela interest eh ila - feels like it's all mind games and manipulation, athoda how to survive in this modern relationship world is not to participate in nu thonuthu.

As most of you share the same timeline similar to me, whats your opinion?

1 . Inda love songs ellam fake narratives ah? Propaganda

2. Namma generation true ah ilama more selfish ah maritangala?

3. Or am I the problem 🤡

Take 1 - Directly influencing a producer to boycott them just because they made out a joke, this confirms why GoSu were silent last 5 years - only Northie attack content pananga since it doesn't hurt these sore losers. Ithula sagipputhanmai, paasisathirku ethiranavargal podalanga nu class edupanga. Left Hypocrites.

Take 2 - Is Dawn Picture a binamy production of dmktards? They produced flop parashakthi and these guys are trying to influence them are not sitting well with me.

When did this obsession over North Indian actresses start? Is it after the late 90s? Yenna Aish and Manisha koirala ellam apa enter agirkanga, or even before that - Nagma was paired in Kadhalan?

Earlier Tamil girls admired charming Tamil 'chocolate boys' like Arvind Swamy, Madhavan, and Suriya. At least these actors were Tamil, avangalum ipa Korean pakkam poraanga.

Yen Tamil boys - Tamil girls mela obsessed ah ilama irukanga 🤔

Edit - sorry makka missed out the OG actress Kushboo 😭 now I know when this trend must have picked up😑

This is my life story!(bit lengthy)

Nanbragaley, I'm 28M and never been in love. Back in school/clg I struggled a lot so didn't get good grades (arrears). The struggles continued after school and college too, I was surrounded with nasty people at my first workplace, pushed me to quit. That led to a really dark phase of unemployment and depression, but I forced myself to start over (got my job back after 6 months). I spent years focusing entirely on self-improvement and worked hard to turn things. Now I'm financially stable, have a good career and family situation is also better now.

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about starting a relationship. But when I talk to people, seems like almost everyone has a complicated past even if their previous relationships have ended, they’re still in touch with their exes, and it just feels ugly.

Ivlo naal ennoda touch la irukatha old friends vanthu pesuranga palagranga ana enaku avanga mela oru interest um illa (they asked about my types 😒). Maybe because its the feeling that when I was struggling to survive, they were roaming with bf and chilling, and now I suddenly exist to them. Adding to that my friend recently tried to set me up with a girl, she was cute but later I realized they were been together and after some misunderstandings (or arrangements or whatever the fuck its 😡), he planned to involve in me into their drama. [ALL ARE EVIL]

So I have decided since I've no any past I should also find a girl, who has no past like me and get settling with her is good choice nu, after marriage kum athutha best nu yena, oru ex palaya photos leak panni prichina panalam, so I won't have those ugly scenes (now don't come up with what if her pictures taken inside changing room and got leaked, those were taken without her consent and I am not a stupid to fight over it).

I’m not a hypocrite who's expecting a good, traditional wife after years of partying and running wild. I struggled hard for everything I have, and I lived that same quiet, focused lifestyle myself. My intention is not to create a gender war or spread hatred, its just me with my life story and trying to get some thoughts from my introvert redditors since the real world is brutal for me. (I am being honest, if the mods feel like to remove pls go ahead)

TL;DR: I have no romantic past, and I expect the same from my future partner. What are my chances of finding this in the current generation? or arrange marriage is the option ah?.

Guys office la oru discussion thidirnu naanu zone out agi floor a parthute, opposite la iruntha girl skirt potrunthanga, na avanga kaala parthutatha nenachu table ulluku eduthutanga 😭😭😭 puppy shame

Nanbargale, don't harm yourself for social media trends🙌

Guyzzz..... Ennachuna

I fumbled a baddiee, pesinom palaginom but ellam sari warumbothu kurukka oru thailee wanduttan🥀

The girl had red flags and even most girls' didn't like her.

I ignored it all, considered it all stereotypes and jealousy.

But later, athellam correct oh nu thona wachita.

Too many male friends, NGL spam pannum, constant validation seeking, show off etc...

Apdi ipdi nu naa complete ah pesrathaye nippaatiten last 6+ months ana awa lite ah Kayadu Lohar mari irupa, so Kayadu timeline la warum pothellam 💔 bad vibes agiruthu.

Ella social media um deactivate panalama nu thonuthu😭 ena seiyalam.

PS: I'm not making up, unmaikume Kayadu mari tha irupa😭 not Tamil though. Wanna clarify cuz, it's wrongly conveyed - I didn't hurt her or anything, like saying you have a bad character and all(to her or her friends infact to anyone, only opening it up here), I just stopped it respectfully like a grown adult.

What really happened

Nandri

What you all think about having a past, do you prefer to have a clean past in your partner? Ore mixed feelings

Lately I am trying to become a person who's not judgemental, so past a pathi kanduka koodathunu, everyone has a journey nu , but past irukawanga knjm weird ah irukangale...

1. Move on agitenu solranga, but ex ipa ena situation la irukanga nu oru update la irukanga.. like are they doing good? and all. My issue is, it's not a friendship ryt, set agalanu pirinjitanga so ethuku 🤷

2. 5 year 4 years love panitu piriranga epdi within a year oru new relationship ku ulla enter aga mudithu iwangalala, so ithu awanga credibility a kelvi akuthu..

3. Past relationships experiences nala awanga oru game mode la love approach pandrangalo nu oru feeling, ithu sari waratti innonu sari warum mode. Quick quick ah analyse pandranga so Manipulate um easy ah panalam.( experienced vs non experienced mindset).🤜🤛

4. Problems coming from their ex. Like sharing pictures, threatenings... Etc...why we have to take part in those dramas...awanga bad people a choose panathuku nanga yen suffer aganum. (Unwanted stress)😭

Ithellam na last 2 years ah girls oda pesa start panna piragu kathukondathu, inum proper relationship level ku pogala,

Is there a problem or I'm the problem 🤣 overthinking oh 🫣help me out nanbargale

Guys recently I was bored and started watching My Dear Desperado (original version of Kadhalum Kadanthu Pogum). Interestingly, there's a scene where main leads end up having a one-night stand. However, in KKP, it was shown as both of them just gets drunk and falling asleep, no physical intimacy- This change has made me think a lot lately.

We all loved the Tamil remake, but this scene was altered from the original version and tweaked to fit our cultural background. What would have happened if the original scene had been kept the same way? For me, it would look like a girl who came to look for a job ended up getting physically involved with a local rowdy. (I am not shaming her, just trying to analyze - hold your guns - porumai porumai).

Personally, I just don't like hookups and that kind of culture, even if it is with mutual consent. I have seen in lots of instances where the boy gets easily moved on after breakup saying 'he had it all', while the girl struggles hard (dying her hair, coping tauma....)
therinjawangalku ithelam nadanthirku so whatever said I am not convinced with the idea, sometime pasanga faking all their personality to hit nu ellam iruku.....What are your thoughts on hookup relationships? Would you be okay with a partner who has a history of past hookups and high body count? unmaya sollunga guys you don't have to fake it 😒