u/AideReasonable1996

To those of you who are one and done by choice, what is your go to way to end any questions on “why”?

I’m getting tired of being pressed.

How are you transitioning baby from one side to the other. My 10 month old is starting to get heavy and I nurse her to sleep in cradle, but to switch sides I pick her up completely and lay her back down.

This is so dumb, but is there an easier way to do this instead of lion kinging my baby 5 times a day?

Edit: she always has taken both sides, I exclusively nurse so no idea what output is, but she’ll wake up hungry if I only do one!

Hello all!

About a week ago my husband and I made the mistake of not having enough lubrication during sex. The next day I woke up and was very swollen, followed by a couple of days of dryness/irritation. Then it started to itch around the vulva. I thought I had maybe developed a yeast infection, however my only symptom was the itching. I tried to treat with Monistat 7 but had an adverse reaction and my doctor recommended to start boric acid suppositories instead. However, I’m still not even positive I have any infection at all, or am dealing with more of a friction burn.

My OBGYN said to come in if after 5-7 days of the suppositories there was no improvement. But I read you shouldn’t use it on broken or already irritated areas, so I’m hesitant as I think the Monistat already really inflamed the area. I was almost in pain from the itch/burn it caused and didn’t get relief until I washed as much as I could off, now that area is extremely red and inflamed. Does anyone have any relatable experience?

Hello! I wanted to post here as I figure it can’t hurt to exhaust all options. Any recommendations for driving jobs in the OKC area?

I am actively looking on job searching websites and applying however I just recently received my license and am just needing to get my foot in the door and am looking to progress for my family.

Like the title says, my husband and I are constantly at each others throats dissecting every little thing and I’m really looking for advice on how to end it.

For example today we’re out, and we get to the store and I say “we only really have 15 minutes to be here” because it was time for our daughter’s nap soon. He then says “so what does that mean, we should just go home?” To me, it meant exactly what I said, we have 15 minutes. This is just one example from my perspective but I know for certain I do this to him as well so it’s not an individual problem.

It’s exhausting, I’m exhausted having to explain myself constantly. I’ve tried to be more vigilant about just taking whatever he says or does body language wise at face value, but this has been going on honestly since the beginning of our relationship. We’ve been together 4 years and it got much worse when our daughter was born.

This is pretty much the only issue we deal with but it leaves us going back and forth constantly. Does anyone have any advice we could possibly apply?

I have 2 lbs of stew meat cooking in the oven at 300 degrees Fahrenheit, it’s been in for 3 hours in a Dutch oven with the lid on. I decided to try the Dutch oven today instead of the crockpot because I keep getting dry meats. My plan was to cook it for another hour as I just added my potatoes, and my meat is already shreddable, but dry. It is cooking in plenty of liquid (beef broth/tomato sauce because I didn’t have paste, red wine vinegar)

If I keep going is it going to be dust when it comes out? What am I doing wrong?

If you are reading this post and you have disliked your breastfeeding journey, I wanted to open up a safe space here for you to say so.

I dreamed of this magical breastfeeding journey that everyone talked about. This special bonding moment with my baby. Yes, while there is nothing like continuing to nourish your baby outside of the womb with your body, it is tiring. It is exhausting not just physically, but emotionally as well.

My baby is 10 months old. She doesn’t take a bottle. I haven’t gone one month without pain at some point (yeah, I know breastfeeding isn’t supposed to hurt, but no one can figure out why it does). I have nursed her to sleep for every nap, and every middle of the night wake up since she was 2 weeks old. She has extreme caregivers preference because of it. Would my life still be hard if she took a bottle? Yes. Would me and my partner be able to share the load and I wouldn’t feel like I’m going insane. Also yes. Breastfeeding with my extremely active baby is more like a UFC match at least 5 times a day. (We call babe “the vampire”). To add: we dealt with lip, buccal, tongue tie release, clogged ducts, milk blebs, nipple blisters, physical therapy, failure to thrive, lactation consultants, if it is possible, I’ve had it).

While there are certain aspects of breastfeeding that have been cool to see, overall I’d say I didn’t exactly love the experience. As we’re coming up on the year mark I am so ready to have my body back. I thought I was going to go to two years, and I have finally accepted that we will begin our weaning journey at one year for my own physical and mental health.

If you had a peaceful and relaxing journey, that’s great! This is not your space. PLEASE TELL ME IM NOT ALONE IN CELEBRATING THE IDEA OF WEANING! And also I’ve exclusively nursed for 10 months, and will absolutely be going to 12, I fucking DID THAT.

I am 10 months into my breastfeeding journey. My original goal was 2 years. We had a very rough start with excruciating pain, tongue tie release, physical therapy, etc to help her latch. The pain has come and gone the entire time, there hasn’t been one month where I’ve breastfed completely pain free.

My baby also wakes, of course, 1 to 2 times a night and she doesn’t take a bottle so I’ve handled every single night wake for the last 10 months. She also feeds to sleep so I handle every nap time as well. She has taken to solids so I’ve gotten a little freedom back there which has been nice.

I am reaching a point where I am too exhausted to continue on. The pain is getting to be too uncomfortable. I know there are so many benefits to extended breastfeeding and I’m absolutely crushed that I can’t handle it.

I will continue up to a year and since she feeds to sleep probably longer than that, but at minimum I feel as though I need to night wean at the year mark, and I’m sure things will drop off after that.

I honestly don’t really know what I’m looking for here, I just feel like this sub has been my only major support during this journey and I feel like I’m failing by stopping at a year.

As of late every book I have picked up has been a 4 to 5 part series that just gets to be worse as the story progresses.

Things I’ve read recently that have really let me down:
Lightlark
Powerless (before I knew it was plagiarism and just bad)
Red Queen (I know!!!, but I think I’m just past the prime audience for YA)
Crown of Nyaxia series (DNF on second book, I may pick this one back up again.
One Dark Window

I am really into fae, gothic, vampires, mages, pretty classic fantasy elements. I am not really into werewolves or creatures, but am not completely against reading something with those types of characters.

Open to any and all suggestions! I fear I’m spending too much time in the realm of booktok.

I’ll go first, I’m halfway through War Storm in the Red Queen series and I’m having the hardest time finishing it.

My almost 10 month old has started dropping/barely doing feeds after her first and second nap, but is eating quite a lot of solid food at lunch and dinner.
She drinks off of both breasts before each nap (feed to sleep) then is typically up 30 min to an hour and a half later.

My pediatrician advised it was normal for them to start dropping off feeds, but I always hear that bf babies still nurse a lot at this age.

Is it okay to stop offering her the lunch/dinner milk feed since she’s only taking nip sips anyway, but continue to give if she seems like she wants milk, or will I be depriving her and I should keep trying to push milk at those times?

Here’s what a typical day of feeding looks life for us:

7:15 -wake and nurse
8:30 - solid breakfast
10:00 - nurse to sleep/ first nap
11::30 - wake and offer breast (refusal or very short session heavily distracted)
12:00/12:30 - solid lunch
2:45 - nurse to sleep/second nap
3:15 (she barely takes this nap) -wake offer breast (again refusal/distraction)
5:30-6:00 solid dinner
7:00 - nurse to sleep/ bed

Add one or two wakeups overnight with nursing sessions.

Apologies for formatting I am on mobile! Any advisement would be greatly appreciated!