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I’ve had type 1 diabetes since I was 4, and I’m turning 29 soon. I’ve struggled with my blood sugar pretty much my entire life. It’s been extremely difficult to manage at times, and I’ve been hospitalized several times because of it.

One thing I’ve always wondered about is my dental health. My teeth have been horrible for as long as I can remember even tho no one else in my family seems to have the same issues. I’ve had alot of cavities and other dental problems and I can’t help but feel that years of extreme blood sugar swings and prolonged highs have played a role. At one point I also developed severe insulin resistance while my endocrinologist kept pushing to increase my insulin doses and overall my diabetes was just a roller coaster for years.

I haven’t been to a dentist in over 10 years. I know that sounds bad, but a huge reason is shame. Every time I’ve gone in the past, I’ve felt judged about the state of my teeth rather than like the dentist understood that living with poorly controlled T1D for so many years could potentially be contributing to what was happening.

Now my gums are looking really inflamed and I’m noticing some other issues, so I know I can’t avoid the dentist anymore. I’m going to have to make an appointment soon, but I’m honestly really nervous. I’m especially scared of being judged or made to feel ashamed after already feeling terrible about my teeth.

Has anyone else with T1D dealt with significant dental or gum problems, especially after years of difficult blood sugar control? Did you find a dentist who actually understood the connection between diabetes and oral health? I’m so embarrassed and I feel disgusting

I’m in a situation I never imagined I’d be in, and I genuinely don’t know what the right thing to do is.

I’ve been with my partner for six years and we have a child together. We never got married because it just never happened, and in our home country it’s pretty common for couples not to marry.

Over the course of our relationship, I’ve experienced a lot of abuse. There’s been cheating, manipulation, financial abuse, and much more. He’s currently cheating on me as well. I know a lot of people will probably say, “At least you’re not married. you can just leave.” But with a child involved, it really isn’t that simple.

If I leave today I have almost nothing. I have no income, no meaningful savings, and no job. Finding work won’t be easy either. I’ve spoken to two different lawyers and both told me that I wouldn’t be entitled to much financial support if I left. The government assistance I might qualify for wouldn’t even be enough to cover my child’s kindergarten.

Now I’m in a strange position. My partner wants to get married, mostly for legal reasons related to his visa status. The reality is that I already know I want to leave this relationship but I’ve also realized that my exit plan is going to take years because of my financial situation.

If I married him and then divorced him later I would likely have far more legal and financial protection than I do now. Ironically marrying him could actually make it easier for me to leave him in the long run.

I hate that I’m even considering this because it feels so backwards. Part of me thinks I should never marry someone who has treated me this way. Another part of me wonders whether I’d be making a huge mistake by walking away now with absolutely nothing, when waiting could put me and my child in a much more secure position.

Has anyone else been in a situation like this? What would you do?

It hurts me to write this, but I think I regret having a child. I hate my life. I miss my freedom, and I know a big part of why I feel this way is because I had a child with the wrong partner.

He constantly micromanages me and always tries to convince me that I’m the problem. He presents himself as someone who always admits when he’s wrong, while constantly criticizing me for supposedly never doing the same. It’s exhausting. There have been times when he’s outright told me I’m a bad mother and thrown other insults at me simply because I struggled to cope with our daughter’s severe colic when she was younger. I was only 4 weeks postpartum the first time he threatened to call CPS on me because I was crying in frustration because she wouldn’t stop crying and wouldn’t ever sleep. I was exhausted.

Our daughter is now 15 months old and I still struggle to feel a real connection with her. It feels awful to admit but it’s the truth. I’m currently away attending a close friend’s funeral, and I’ve been gone for 6 days. I haven’t really felt the urge to FaceTime her. The other day I felt obligated to call but I was outside walking and had to glance away from my phone occasionally to make sure I wasn’t walking into traffic or getting lost. Instead of understanding my partner complained that I wasn’t giving her my full attention on the screen.

Yesterday he brought it up again saying I don’t FaceTime enough. The truth is I avoid it because I’m so upset with him. It feels awkward knowing he’s sitting on the other end analyzing my every expression only to text me afterward asking if I really miss her or lecturing me about how she’s my only child and how I should feel. After spending the last 15 months as the primary caregiver with absolutely no village or support system, I’m honestly enjoying having some time where I don’t have to constantly take care of someone else. Instead of understanding that, he’s now ignoring my messages and giving me one word replies because he thinks I’m the one acting strangely.

I feel completely trapped. I don’t know how to get out of this situation. I don’t have a work visa in the country where we live and I know he would never agree to let me leave his home country with our daughter. I’m so unhappy that I’ve lost more than half my hair, and I’m convinced much of it is from stress. I have almost nothing financially. I have about €4000 to my name and that’s it. It wouldn’t even last a month in the city where we live. Everything is in his name. If I left I’d have nowhere to live and no real way to support myself.

The hardest part is that he refuses to acknowledge how miserable I’ve become because of the way he treats me. Every time I try to tell him how I’m feeling, he twists the conversation until somehow I end up being the problem. It’s never him it’s always me. I honestly don’t feel like it’s possible to have a real conversation with him anymore.

Has anyone else noticed that their narcissistic partner seemed to resent them even more after having a child together?

We had a daughter about a year ago, and since then it feels like he genuinely hates me. I know that sounds extreme, but my partner is honestly my biggest hater. The way he speaks to me and treats me has completely changed. There’s so much resentment and anger directed at me. He always seems to be looking for an excuse to unload on me, and he goes from 0 to 100 over the smallest things.

Something else I’ve noticed is that it almost feels like he’s trying to pit me against our one year old. It’s hard to explain, but he seems to do little things that undermine my relationship with her, while at the same time accusing my own mother of sabotaging my relationship with him. The irony isn’t lost on me.

He also seems to favor our daughter in a way that makes me uncomfortable. Obviously it’s his child and it’s normal to adore your kid, but it feels less like healthy love and more like he’s using her to create distance between us or make me feel like the outsider. It’s a really strange dynamic.

I’m already on my way out of this relationship, and mentally I’ve been done for a long time. I’m mostly wondering if anyone else experienced this shift after having a child, or if it’s just me. Because honestly sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy

I have PCOS, and ever since I had my baby in May last year and got my cycle back about 4 months ago, I’ve been struggling with PMS like never before.

The luteal phase is absolutely horrible. The few days before my period are the worst. I get so angry, overwhelmed, and honestly feel mentally unsettled. It’s like my brain is spinning and I feel disoriented. It’s hard to explain, but I don’t feel like myself at all.

I’m currently in my luteal phase and have been solo parenting my 1 year daughter for the past 10 days while my husband travels for work. The last few days have been especially rough. I’ve ended up turning on Bear in the Big Blue House, Ms. Rachel, and other shows because I’m just so overwhelmed and easily irritated right now

I don’t have a village so there’s no one helping with childcare. My daughter is wonderful, but she’s also very intense and demanding which can be exhausting when I’m already struggling.

Today really pushed me over the edge. She refused to nap and spent over an hour climbing on me, pulling me, stepping on me, pinching me, and generally not settling. Eventually I completely lost my patience and put her in her crib and let her cry for a while so I could step away. I feel guilty about it but I was so drained that I genuinely didn’t know what else to do. Thankfully today is my last day alone before my husband gets back.

Has anyone else experienced significantly worse PMS after having a baby with PCOS? I eat a blood sugar friendly diet, I’m active, and walk a lot but I still feel like my hormones are completely out of control during the luteal phase.

I’d love to hear if anyone has gone through something similar or found anything that helped

Okay, so I’ve sold a lot on Vinted and thankfully never had any problems until now

Apparently, Vinted provided the wrong shipping label/tracking info and everything got messed up. The tracking number on the actual shipping label was different from the tracking number shown in the app to me and the buyer. I only discovered this AFTER I had already dropped the package off with DPD.

I still have the receipt from the drop off point showing the buyer’s ZIP code and proof that I shipped it, but the receipt has the “other” tracking number on it. I thought I was doing the right thing by sending the buyer the updated tracking number manually

Big mistake.

Today the buyer got refunded AND apparently received the dress too. So now she has both the item and the money back.

Vinted support is basically telling me it’s my fault because I “used a shipping label not provided by them” even tho it literally WAS the label generated thru Vinted.

Has anyone experienced something like this before? It was only €20, but honestly it’s made me really anxious about selling on Vinted again because I don’t want this happening another time

My fiancé likes taking our 1 year old to the park on weekends. I usually don’t go, and instead stay home and clean the apartment. Honestly, I enjoy it. It’s the only time I get to be alone without someone constantly needing something from me. I vacuum, do laundry, clean the floors, everything. I’ve even joked that he should see it as having a free housekeeper. Now he’s turning it into a whole issue. He says I’m “avoiding” the park and that it’s sad I don’t go with them. He’s even suggested I have some kind of problem and claims our daughter is going to “pick up on it” or sense I have social anxiety (??). She’s ONE.

The thing is I don’t have a problem going outside. I just don’t want to sit in a hot park on a blanket. I never get alone time at home, so when they leave, I actually look forward to that quiet. On top of that, I’m still not comfortable in my body after pregnancy. Most of my clothes don’t fit, I feel super pale, and I developed keratosis pilaris, which has made me even more self conscious. The idea of sitting in the sun in summer clothes just makes me uncomfortable not relaxed.

I don’t understand why this is so hard for him to accept. It’s not like I’m refusing to ever spend time together or go outside I just don’t enjoy that specific activity right now. But he keeps pushing and getting annoyed like I’m doing something wrong

Am I being unreasonable here?