u/Alert_Employment6553

Saw a post and curious to see what yall pick, as it shows what you prioritise. Also let’s say you pick 2 qualities, they are average on others. So for e.g. if you don’t pick emotionally available, then they’re not completely unavailable, they’re just average

(1)

1. Empathetic and supportive

(their attention revolves you and your feelings)

(2)

1. Very good looking

(3)

1. Emotionally available

(they’re dependent on you in a healthy way & match it)

(4)

1. Very funny

(5)

1. Very good in bed (we’re adults here)

I feel like this is something I’m kind of struggling with, and I would like insight from married people.

When you have an argument with your spouse about something they did, you think it was very wrong, and they don’t think it was that much of a big deal. How do you deal with that?

Especially when they’re not as apologetic or understanding of the issue, after you clearly communicated it.

Personally, in such situations, I tend to feel very frustrated and want to distance from them entirely. In does feel like I’m giving silent treatment in a way but I can’t let go and forget about what they did (and most importantly how they handled it afterwards).

This seems like a recurring pattern at the moment. Thanks

Ngl I’m barely active on here as I once was but if I had something of benefit to share it would be: to understand the opposite gender better.

This applies to men and women.

I feel like once I’ve understood women, what matters to them, their perspective, their needs, their concerns it’s a whole lot easier to empathise with them. (Can’t believe I have to say this but… this is actually important if I want to marry a woman and have a loving relationship with them…)

Social media tells you that “most if not all men/women are [insert negative adjective]” do you honestly think that’s true? Do you honestly believe that most men want a maid that shuts up? That all women are heartless gold diggers asking for high mahr? and so on…

There’s a great deal of nuance when it comes to understanding the opposite gender. Take the time to understand it, and use it to find genuine people.

Inspired by the post of a girl that thinks men seeking “feminine” qualities means submissive girl ?? anyway.