u/Alone_Sun803

the main compliments i get are about my deep and soothing voice, my apparently "nonchalant" and
"mysterious" aura (multiple people have told me this at school and in public, i was convinced that i came off at awkward and insecure but i guess i came off as someone thats cool to other people? ), my clothing (i get lots of compliments about my outfits and often get asked about clothing details), my thick lips/smile, and sometimes my cheeks and dimples because i have a pretty round and wide face. i am a taurus rising and i have no idea why its so accurate to me, its so weird. im also incredibly passionate about humanities and am working towards a career of the sort.

tldr: i feel like i match up well with the descriptions of a taurus rising

i only got into astrology recently, and i guess im just confused on how to form an opinion on it, and how it makes sense...

my offer got revoked due to not reaching my conditions. it happened about a week ago and i need some opinions on how to convince my dad to take a gap year. or any advice on building a reliable plan for a gap year

im not sure what information i would have to provide but i do want to become some sort of detective or csi, or work within humanitarian aid. he's someone who would want a reliable, well-thought out plan for the gap year and some really good convincing points that aren't emotionally driven. he's be willing to financially support anything i do as long as i show him that i have a reliable and realistic plan. please help, if you have any questions, please ask, ill respond within like point two seconds because im desperate for a solution, if i tell him about my offer he's genuinely going to perform some tusk level mutilation on me.

my university offer got revoked an hour ago and i was first panicked but honestly it was for a bio/chemistry program and thats not where i want to head towards in the future. im thinking i take a gap year so i can use it to travel for volunteering opportunities and also to live independently and work. or i call the university right now and basically beg them to reconsider. i know my dad would be willing to support a gap year, i just dont know if i should tell him that my offer revoked or if i just want to take a gap year. he knows that a gap year was on my mind a couple months ago and he wasn't against the idea. the only thing holding me back from telling him about my university offer is that he gets physically violent and im genuinely not trying deal with that.

the only comments i see about goodnight punpun is about how disturbing and traumatizing it is and how no one should read it, but its soooooo so much more than just "disturbing." the art is beautiful, the storyline is very well done and you can tell its so intentional, the characters are very well done and complex, along with how much symbolism there is throughout the movie and the amount you can dissect. its incredibly raw and real. for me at least, it helped me reframe myself, my depression, my relationships with people, etc etc. i have never related to a character more than pun pun (not his actions, but his thought processes) and it was incredibly relieving to see that being portrayed. i do agree that there are many many disturbing moments in the manga, but it was comforting to see the amount of things that were accurately represented (for example, his family dynamic). i also feel that inio asano did a phenomenal job at portraying how the events in pun puns life impacted him in the future, through the subtle development of his issues throughout the whole story. personally, i loved the ending, i loved how we were able to witness the tragedies of pun puns life, how much it consumed him, and how he was able receive somewhat of a "happy ending" regardless, and surround himself with people that wanted the best for him. i havent read it in a while so i have probably forgotten a good chunk of detail, but i do know that when i read it, it hit me super hard and has stayed as my favourite manga ever since

my dog is 3 years old, and was diagnosed with addison's disease a year ago. he's been under the care of my grandparents at their home within the past couple of months because i have gotten incredibly busy with school work. i am the one to contact his vet for appointments, medication, etc. he is with me now, but they had run out of medication and let me know the day of, it takes 3-5 days for medication to come in. i was able to get the medication but im not sure how many days of medication he went out with. hes very very sick now. hes been vomiting the past 2 hours and has been trying to diarrhea but cannot. im not really sure what to do. his shaking has been increasing, hes able to walk normally. i tried to give him his medication but he drank water before so he threw it up. how can i help him pass his stool and should i keep water and food from him? should i try to give him his medication again ? should i call the vet ? and how can i make him the most comfortable right now?

i am 18F. the women in my life and ones on social media have this specific beauty about them when they hit their 40s/as they age. im not sure what it is though, maybe its the mature look..?

edit: i feel like its partially because of the wrinkles on their faces make them beautiful

18F, 5'8, 130 lb, Asian

Bad brain fog, anxiety, paranoia, worsened executive dysfunction and cognitive function.

Symptoms have been ongoing for 3 days after I stopped

Diagnosed with ADHD and MDD, currently on 50 mg Vyvanse and 20 mg Prozac.

No smoking or drinking, will consume shrooms occasionally.

Context: I haven't taken edibles for 3 years so I had no tolerance going into this 5 day period. I will not be doing this again in the near future.

What can I do to make myself feel better? and, if possible, is there any way I can minimize the severity of the side effects? Also about how long would these symptoms last?

In all of my friendships throughout middle school and high school, I would just change depending on what type of person they were so that we would get along better. If someone is more high energy, I would reciprocate and just mirror the way they talked. If I was with a friend group, I would just adopt behaviours from them. I thought this was normal and that this was proof that I am able to socialize well. I also really cared about my appearance so that I could look more normal.

At some point in time though, these relationships would become so exhausting from performing all the time which would impact my ability to show up. I would start cancelling plans bc I would be so overwhelmed by everything, so many of my friends would say how much they miss me and how close we use to be but it was always confusing for me to receive that because I never felt any attachment or closeness to them. (I realize now that this is unfair for both sides).

I came to the realization that I didn't know myself at all. I didn't have a specific type of humour (i would just try to laugh at the things that my friends would send me), I didn't have any hobbies, or any interests like tv shows or movies I liked. I didn't even know how to describe myself as a person.(besides going to the gym, ive had a pretty rocky past with being obsessed with going to the gym and macros but i never told anyone about it. all i would consume was fitness content and im genuinely not showing people that😭) I was constantly molding myself so I never let myself interact naturally with people because I knew if I didn't act a certain way, a lot of people would just think I'm rude.

One day, I made the decision to just try and be myself, to do whatever comes naturally to me. The next week at school, all I remember is just being very expressionless, quiet, and monotone. I mainly just listened to people talk. Growing up, I never naturally smiled or was physically expressive but I always felt like it was just something I had to do in order socialize with people, so a lot of my interactions with others were tedious bc I would have to calculate when to smile, how to respond in a way that showed that I was listening, etc etc, like my brain would just overload with things to do. After a couple weeks of no longer masking, I realized that I drifted from a lot of my friends and that it was just so much harder to meet new people.

Anyone else relate ?

I'm 18F and I am graduating high school in a couple weeks. I'm incredibly behind in school work, but school is not something I am passionate about. I don't want to go to university, I want to get my own place, start working, and figure it out from there. I told my dad my wishes, but he says that it'll be a total disaster for the family if I decide to take a gap year. Its just weird because he says he wants the best for me but gets so bent out of shape and really emphasizes how me taking a gap year is going to cause a "tsunami" for the family and wipe everything out ??? I asked him to specify and he quite literally said "I don't know specifics but I know it's going to be really bad."

It's not like we are financially struggling and they're relying on me to become successful to support the family. In fact my dad is incredibly rich, like I don't have to work for the rest of my life if I don't want to. I have always been able to participate in club sports, go traveling, ask for anything, live in big houses. I also have a huge amount of inheritance money from my mother's side of the family, I won't specify, but it's a huge amount.

I feel so trapped because I am young and I know I have no idea what the actual world is like. There are so many things I have to learn but theres no one I can comfortably lean on. My family has always been toxic and psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. I was diagnosed with cptsd a while back. All I want is to get out of here. I don't want to deal with the pressure of my family members, I don't want to walk around egg shells and do what they want me to do so that they don't explode at me or threaten me. I don't want to be scared of coming home from school. I don't want to go to university and do terribly causing my parents to get upset at me and punish me. I don't want to be financially dependent on my family either, because they are incredibly transactional and conditional with their love, if we have a conflict, they take away my belongings and quite literally bully me, they'll humiliate me, glare at me, threaten me, they'll take away my devices and my ability to leave the house to prevent any form of communication, they'll say horrible things to me.

At the same time, I feel like I'm unreasonable to feel this way. I think theres a part of me that is weak willed and sensitive to small things. Maybe going to university and functioning like a normal human being shouldn't be this exhausting for me. I was diagnosed with severe depression, a generalized anxiety disorder, inattentive adhd, and possible bpd, so I feel like that could be why. I feel like I should have my future planned out. Like I should have a passion, good grades, that I should be more mature and move on from the past because it's obviously not helping me. Maybe I am just lazy and maybe I am spoiled rotten, maybe I don't recognize the amount of support I have had in my life. I can't tell what it is. I feel like theres so much going on in my head and theres so many things I have to unpack before making my life busy again with university in a couple months. I want to live alone and just feel at peace for once. Be away from my family and heal. Just focus on myself without there being something I have to worry about, or an expectation I have to reach. I'd be okay with working a full time job, as long as my home life is okay because thats all I have ever wished for.

I'd love any advice on how to move forward and how to become more independent because I'm really lost and stressed. I want to have control over my life, I want to go out and just live without being stressed out because of family. Please be brutally honest with me as well and don't be afraid to clock my shit.

I have a friend and whenever we talk, theres things that he does that genuinely just bothers me, but it's so hard to tell what it is because it's so subtle. My guess is that he's incredibly insecure and has a huge ego, but has been trying to disguise it this way.

He does this thing where he speaks as if he's an intellectual and as if he's emotionally intelligent when he's not. A lot of the time, during our conversations, I'll bring up a point and most of the time he just misses it, like it'll just fly over his head and he'll start talking about something completely different. He has a tendency to give me unsolicited advice and whenever I open up, I can tell he's really eager to lecture me and will often go on tangents about life and relationships whenever he can. He acts as if my life experiences are identical to his and as if he understands everything I go through. He's like a crazy people pleaser and runs away from telling the truth about anything because he thinks its better than hurting people with the truth, and then when people get upset at him, he isolates and ghosts people and spirals. He'll cry for hours, shut down, not eat for multiple days and take his emotions out on everyone. He also does this thing where he makes "sarcastic" self deprecating jokes ?? 😭 and it's just tiring to be around sometimes. He says he's "hyper aware" but I don't think he is, he just seems super selfish and self centred. I feel like the only reason why he does what he does is because he wants to feel good about himself. Theres other things that he does but those are the main things and it all feels so performative.

I just can't tell if my perception of his actions are right... Just how he moves in general is really off putting but I doubt myself because he has so many friends and is incredibly out going and social. We have been friends for more than a year now and we have had many fun moments together... I don't know what it is about him and so I'd love for people to give me advice on how to go forward with this and if I can do anything to help him.

I have a friend and whenever we talk, theres things that he does that genuinely just bothers me, but it's so hard to tell what it is because it's so subtle. My guess is that he's incredibly insecure and has a huge ego, but has been trying to disguise it this way.

He does this thing where he speaks as if he's an intellectual and as if he's emotionally intelligent when he's not. A lot of the time, during our conversations, I'll bring up a point and most of the time he just misses it, like it'll just fly over his head and he'll start talking about something completely different. He has a tendency to give me unsolicited advice and whenever I open up, I can tell he's really eager to lecture me and will often go on tangents about life and relationships whenever he can. He acts as if my life experiences are identical to his and as if he understands everything I go through. He's like a crazy people pleaser and runs away from telling the truth about anything because he thinks its better than hurting people with the truth, and then when people get upset at him, he isolates and ghosts people and spirals. He'll cry for hours, shut down, not eat for multiple days and take his emotions out on everyone. He also does this thing where he makes "sarcastic" self deprecating jokes ?? 😭 and it's just tiring to be around sometimes. He says he's "hyper aware" but I don't think he is, he just seems super selfish and self centred. I feel like the only reason why he does what he does is because he wants to feel good about himself. Theres other things that he does but those are the main things and it all feels so performative.

I just can't tell if my perception of his actions are right... and I wish I understood him more. I don't really know how to go forward because I have so many mixed feelings. I've created some space between us and I've stopped opening up to him about certain things. What should I do?

I am 18F and I have been pretty lost on my stance in my sexuality. Throughout my life I have always been unsure about who I'm attracted to. I am looking for any sort of advice or thoughts. Anything would be greatly appreciated !! I have written my experience and my thoughts below.

In elementary school, I remember being very drawn to both boys and girls, I'm not sure if they were considered "friend crushes" or if it was just the excitement of getting to know someone new or if it was romantic attraction. I remember finding girls pretty and really wanting to be friends with them. In middle school, I never had a crush on guys in my school, but I remember being very very attracted to masculine and androgynous women, but never men or feminine women. I definitely thought there were guys in my school that were objectively good looking but I never felt as if there was any potential there. It was the same in high school, where I had some sort of attraction or inclination towards masculine women but mainly androgynous women, but I also had attraction to guys. There were definitely guys that I had my eyes on and I had a couple talking stages with them but the chemistry was never really there even if they were my type or objectively good looking.

My previous relationship, which was my first ever serious one, was with a guy. Yes he was physically attractive and there was excitement when getting to know him, but I could never imagine myself with him or being dependent on him, emotionally or physically. It just never felt right to me. For my whole life I have never been able to imagine myself in a relationship with a man, it just doesn't seem like a possibility. But it's confusing because I have so many male celebrity crushes and male fictional characters that I go crazy over. Men are very attractive to me but I genuinely cannot see myself or feel the need to get with a man. If I do, ideally it would be purely sexual where the man is submissive, nothing long term.

I'm not sure if this is because I like women or if it's because I am just a hyper independent person. I also dont know if it's because of the fact that I grew up only with men, I feel incredibly masculine around my girl friends, I basically feel like man around them. I don't have as big of a list of female celebrity crushes or fictional characters as I do for men, but there are definitely a few that I find incredibly attractive. I've also recently realized that talking to good looking women is very scary to me, I'm so intimidated by them. But I'm not scared when it comes to good looking men, I genuinely don't know why. I have also had a couple dreams about being in a relationship with a woman and even getting intimate and it gets me all excited and nervous just thinking about it. I am very certain that I am physically attracted to women's bodies. But I also don't know if that is something I can rely on because I am aware that most of the time reality does not live up to my fantasies or expectations. At the same time, the thought of liking a woman or being in a relationship with one grosses me out, and it fills me with guilt and shame. As if I'm doing something horribly disgusting.

I have only been in one serious relationship in my whole life, so other than that, my romantic life has basically been nothing so I think that is also why I don't know where I stand. I think my lack of experience and knowledge with relationships is keeping me stuck but I really want answers and some clarity because my sexuality has felt like a blur my whole entire life. In my opinion, men are generally more good looking than women, but I can't ever imagine my self long term with one. Adding onto that, I am incredibly picky with my type when it comes to women, I don't like feminine women at all, just masculine and androgynous ones, so do I actually even like women? If you got to the end of this, thank you for spending your time reading all this blabber, it is greatly appreciated.

Also side note that I thought would be interesting to add: Since middle school, I have consistently gotten gay allegations and consistently get asked out by women. I have only gotten asked out by a man once.