u/AlphaDr1ve

Hi i just recently came back to the philippines after 3+ years but just for a quick trip lang and I wanted to have a date with my girls. I just wanted to ask if you could recommend some restaurants or cafe na maganda for pics but still serves good food. Since I am here for just a quick trip, I wanted to make the most out of it.

Is it normal to not be able to function normally again after pregnancy? Lately, I just cant seem to get any work done, any work that doesnt involve taking care of my baby.

Context and long rant ahead: I had a very rough pregnancy. As soon as the positive sign popped out of the pt, my boyfriend made me choose between letting the baby go or letting him go kahit na siya naman talaga nagsabi na gusto niya magkababy. And then I had some complications during my pregnancy na I almost had a miscarriage. So since pregnancy journey up until now, I somewhat felt alone at times. Kahit pregnant ako, I worked hard and never took day offs and leaves while I was working despite my work being onsite where I have to walk and stand for 8-10 hours straight. During childbirth, I was alone at the hospital and my mom visits naman sa hospital but like she couldnt stay with me there 24/7 so kahit CS ako wala kailangan ko kumilos kilos agad kasi magisa lang ako. My now ex boyfriend refused to acknowledge my baby and his family also chose to side w him. 1 year PP and still the same though his mom messages my parents to ask how the baby is doing at times but never messaged me.

I had to resign at my work then because no one could take care of my LO. I tried working in a wfh set up but in just a few months I had to resign because I couldn’t handle the toxic work environment and taking care of my baby at the same time since my baby got sick and was confined at the NICU for weeks so I had to go back and forth to the hospital as well kahit na kakapanganak ko palang.

Now, I’m suing my ex so my lawyer asked me to submit a good sum of papers BUT sobrang wala akong gana and unmotivated ako to do anything specially if it’s related to him. Although yes, I know naman na this would benefit my baby in the long run pero anything that makes me remind of him and his abuse, I just dont even want to think about it. It’s like I just want to take care of my baby and spend time with my LO 24/7 without thinking about anything else. I cant even find a wfh job again because of it.

I literally listen to anything and anyone so feel free to drop your fav artists or songs (except metallic rock sorry). I would love to hear new songs from niche artists.