u/Alphadog5678

I have nobody to talk to about this and I needed to get it off my chest/ask advice

Basically, last week I went to a party with an old friend. We planned ahead of time that she could stay at my house for the night because she would be drinking and wouldn’t be in a state to drive home.

Long story short, we both drank quite a bit, and ended up making out at the party. Once we got home, we ended up having sex.

The next day we cuddled in the morning, went out to get food, went back to my place, had sex again, then cuddled some more. Basically spent the day together.

I have always thought very highly of this individual. She is extremely emotionally intelligent and very mature, though I never considered her to be a potential partner until after that night and following day. She made me feel really safe, and I’m ashamed to admit, but the time i spent with her felt more special to me than just meaningless sex.

I feel like such a loser for feeling this way over a hookup, and I’m scared that it wont be reciprocated.

She is really open with her sexuality so I don’t think that this necessarily meant to her what it meant to me. She communicated to me that she has other sexual partners and practices safe sex with each of them. We have actually both had sex once before, years ago. (We are both in our late 20s)

Where do I go from here? This has been eating me alive for a few days now.

I really needed to get this off my chest, and have nobody to tell

Last week one of my close friends and I went to a party together. We had both drank a pretty decent amount. Her living far away meant she could not drive home. I told her she could stay the night at my place preemptively.

We ended up kissing each-other at the party, and once we got home we had sex. It’s worth noting that this individual has a very open relationship with her sexuality, and we actually did have casual sex one other time, years ago. (We are both in our late 20s)

The next day we spent together, we got food and hung out. Went back to my place after, cuddled some more, and had sex again.

After she left, I couldn’t help but feel like this meant more to me than it should have. I felt really safe with her, and I trust her a lot. I find myself extremely attracted to who she is as a person, and that combined with the way she made me feel when we spent that time together is what I think has me flustered.

I don’t really know how to proceed with this, and I’m worried it won’t be reciprocated. I feel like a loser for even feeling this way over a hookup.

I did ask her if she would want to hook up again, and she did say yes, but I’m scared to tell her how I really feel. To be honest I’m very confused right now.