u/Alterigo-

I know the title may come across as pathetic or bait, but I really don't have many options rn

Got a DUI wayy over the limit in SoCal which was entirely my fault due to negative coping reactions from a conjunction of both a separation and being laid off this year, but at this point I consider my life belonging to my kids and what I can do for them, I don't want any luxury or material value in my life that wouldn't affect them in a positive way

That being said there may be an argument to be made about needing my car for a job, both for presentation as a decent father but also for employment reasons, I could make it work job-wise but I want to be on the best position I can so that it doesn't reflect on my kids in any negative way

At this point I have nothing but the truth, there were no injuries or other vehicles involved, just me and the reparations to the vehicle which have already been addressed and fixed, since the incident to the court date this week I have faced internment in a mental hospital facility (voluntarily) as well as a whole summer watching my kids seeing as I have the time now since I have been laid off since February and my unemployment is running out

This is my first experience with the legal system and I just want the best outcome for me to still provide as a father, without jail time or fines. I can take classes or service, suspensions would inhibit my ability to find a job and provide but wouldn't be as bad, just hard time and fines would severely inhibit my future and my kids. Do I admit this to court or would it negatively impair me or seem otherwise pathetic?

Thank you all for the time and perspective in advance, I really want to do better

Edit: Wanted to clarify I was compliant with the police and could not have any chance of affording a lawyer, had so much to juggle and this is my first experience. Thank you all for the grace and consideration

*WARNING: MAJOR SPOILERS FROM GRUMPLOCKE EP. 52*

>!The Aringance finally caught up to him, and the daunting possibility of a TPK from the Elite 4 finally came to fruition. !<

>!Question is, for those familiar with Platinum, what could realistically BE the best party they can build from here based on who we have and what we can catch? !<

>!I haven't been keeping steady track of which areas have already been utilized or are still left as available, but even if we're left with what we have, how much would Arin realistically need to grind to beat the game?!<

No matter what, I applaud the boys' tenacity no matter what happens. Gosh dang that man's hubris, love this series.

Hello everyone! I can use some support from parents of shared neurodivergency with their children focused on hyperactivity, volume and low-attention span to help my kids 'cut loose' every once in a while.

My wife (F27) and I (M28) have 2 sons that seemed to have inherited our mental disabilities, with our oldest (7) diagnosed with autism (which she has), and our youngest (5) exhibiting STRONG qualities of ADHD (I myself was diagnosed with ADD, although he is still too young to be officially diagnosed).

Other than the periods of overstimulation or random bursts of energy, our eldest son is the calm, creative type who's usually quiet and independent enough for us to take advantage of and encourage nicely, as we live in a household that values structure, discipline and routine. However, this makes it harder for the youngest as you can imagine where enough nuisance and exhaustion from the other occupants (mainly my wife and her parents whom we also live with) will cause them to yell and rebuke him, even though I know from personal experience how difficult it could be to even be in your own skin sometimes without needing to constantly move and make noise and such.

The fact of the matter is I don't mind who he is as much as everyone else, but I feel it's because I'm able to handle it better. The background noise, the energy and constant stimulation or interaction needed is tiring to everyone else but me, and I even delight in it, but I don't want to seem lax or impartial to disciplining him or setting good boundaries and methods to explain how he should control his behavior; It would just be nice to establish an event where he can be as loud and crazy and distracted as he wants, particularly with a parent that encourages that the troublesome behavior isn't something he is but something he has, and he's still perfect the way he is.

I'm outnumbered in thinking this way lmao but if there's an opportunity for him to not worry 24/7 about maintaintaining the most pristine and polite behavior I feel that can help alleviate a lot of the stress I myself built up as a kid all the way into adulthood. I was diagnosed at 22 and always thought the failing grades and low discipline was always because of me as a person, it was a dark road but I feel like a balance is the best way to go for considering his difficulties while still establishing and affirming good behavior ethics. I'm just not sure where to start, even if it's just him and I since we're so in sync but I would love for his brother to be involved too if able, as they both get energized being around each other lol

I can definitely understand the difference in difficulty and treatment but I would hate for him to grow up feeling like he isn't good enough as he is because of something he can't control. A bit of normalcy from a parent (in a responsible and healthy way) might do him some good, but I don't want to spoil him, which is why I could use some perspective and experience to keep myself in check and not step on anyone's toes either.

TL;DR What are some wholesome activities a parent with ADHD or similar condition can share with a child with the same to make them feel normal and healthy while still maintaining balance and control in a manageable way even afterwards?

Any and all advice is appreciated, thanks so much in advance!