u/AlternativeHot7491

A question I never dreamt to ask. But I for sure won’t be asking my dentist!

Giving blow jobs and kissing: with or without trays?

The thing is, I’m super self conscious about my attachments. I wonder if kissing is better with trays on just because of that.

Blowjobs? I don’t know why I think in my mind that giving a blowjob with trays on is ok. Just checking here.

Also, if there are men here or people with male partners, can you tell the difference with or without trays while receiving BJ?

I’ve had my therapist for about 10 years now. I’ve had some breaks in between, but of course she knows me well. I really think I’ve progressed a lot and learnt about myself a lot.

Lately, the last 3-4 months I’ve had - I think - some breakthrough insights of things I was stuck with. And it’s been a turmoil, emotionally draining for me. I think I’ve started getting tired of therapy - not because it’s interfering with my life or anything bad, it’s just become a task that I begin to think can end up being exhausting. And just to clarify, my therapist doesn’t push me… I just start talking and sometimes a light bulb appears and it hits me.

Last session I talked to them and told them I had a topic I never discussed in therapy or anywhere else. I haven’t discussed with friends or family, it’s a boundary I created and never let anyone cross and that I felt I want it to talk about it because I was thinking it connected to other issues we’ve discussed… but I told them I fear too much being judged.

And I talked for about 30’… during which they asked me some questions (more to clarify the situation) and then at the end I throw up a phrase like “I do this…. To avoid…” and then they said the same phrase I used in a “harsher” tone. Not bad, not mean… kind of using a slang or more informal terms. Then they told me they think we could wrap the session. We still had 15min left. They asked if I wanted to talk about something else. I said no.

Look, I felt judged.

And I regret talking about it.

I regret it because I kind of knew I’d felt judged. Which is exactly how I feel. And now I’m wondering if I should stop therapy with them.

I don’t know how to move on. I don’t want to face them in our next session. It’s a stupid topic, it’s not even shocking or damaging. It’s just something I don’t like to talk about of my personal life.

And I’ve thought about just dropping therapy because I don’t think they understand that it was a big deal to me. I talked for an hour and I think it’s such a superfluous topic that it can pass as me being over dramatic. But I wasn’t. I don’t like to talk about it and now I feel exposed.

I don’t know how to talk to them anymore.

Hey guys,

I have a question, I like to give head and I don’t usually receive (just a personal preference). And while I absolutely love to suck cock, I’ve seen some guys like to take control and thrust. And sometimes that makes you choke / gag. Thing is that I’ve perceived that some guys seem to like when you choke.

My question is: when you’re receiving a blowjob, does it feel good / what do you feel in particular when the other person chokes? Is it a sensation in the penis, or is it more psychological? I want to know if there’s a physical sensation perhaps on the reaction of the gland to the throat or if it is perhaps a dominant feeling?