u/Ancient_Vegetable502

Last try na to before I take a long hiatus na ulit sa dating because honestly it's getting exhausting HAHAHA

About Me:

- Very straightforward and low drama (what you see is what you get, promise, tubuan man ng cactus sa noo yung cheater na kapitbahay namin)

- I require honesty and transparency (extreme scenarios being if you want to cheat because you're getting bored or you fell out of love and you really want to explore, just get my consent, make sure it's safe, and you're good to go)

- I have a strong staying power sa relationships as evidenced from point number 2. Just as long as you don't hurt me physically, be dishonest, or make me look like a fool, wala tayong magiging problema. I tend to fix stuff immediately because I don't like dwelling on issues that are not complicated to resolve.

- I'm 5' and has normal body shape and weight (I think I'm fit? Not very sure lmao I can consent to you stalking me on socmed though if you want to check)

- I support myself, have a stable job, I live solo and independently so hindi mo need mag-worry on that aspect

- I'm currently not looking for fun times, I want a constant fixture in my life who I can run to if the day is hard or who I can depend on if there's a rare moment I'd ask for help (doesn't happen very often because I'm annoyingly self-sufficient based on what my exes said lmao)

- I thrive on routines and making plans ahead. I don't like surprises (except if it's a good one), I don't like major upheavals in my life because it disrupts routine so when there's a problem leading to that happening, I tend to go into troubleshooting mode

- My humor is a mix of very kanal (lmao), dark, and sometimes awkward (like I'd probably strike a joke in a funeral I'm sorry)

- I'm a Scorpio (if that matters lol because I know Scorpios tend to have a bad rep) but I believe I'm an evolved Scorpio so you're safe lol

- I write novels (formerly my job, recently just as a hobby) so I tend to hyperfixate when I get started and I can sometimes lose myself in it so you'd have to constantly bring me back to the land of the living when that happens

- I like being baby'd and sometimes I tend to defer small decisions to my partner because I'm tired of making one na all my life but of course big ones are still up for discussions

- My love language is primarily physical touch (to give and to receive) and secondary is acts of service (to receive). I like giving gifts to my partner too especially on milestones or just when I feel sentimental

About you:

- I don't fuss much on physical appearances but bare minimums in hygiene is of course a must lol

- Someone okay with the list of flaws I listed above

- No longer in their playing-the-field phase (kasi life partner ngani ang hanap)

- I'm okay with people who have kids BUT be sure there's no problem with the ex, it's a clean break, and the mother of your child is very open to having a blended family

- Very patient in guiding me about what they want me to compromise

- Masarap at nakakatawang kausap

- Maginoong bastos HAHAHAHA

- May plano sa buhay at sa akin

- Has a strong staying power as well

- Likes to build a strong foundation first (friendship with the intent of taking it seriously)

- Someone who's not afraid of being stalked sa SocMed (I have trust issues, we all do lol)

Just hmu and I'll try to respond as fast as I can 😄

I've had these thoughts for awhile now and I don't think the intended recipient of this would appreciate me voicing it out to them, but it's bothered me, most especially when I continuously see cycles of this through stories I've read and was shared here.

Women tend to be long-suffering. If a man cheats on them, most of the time, a second chance is granted. Being a product of a toxic family dynamic, I cringe on the idea. I guess I understood why my Mom stayed the way she did when it happened repeatedly to her. She wanted us to grow up knowing a semblance of a complete family. I can't imagine the toll of that though: the sleepless nights, the anxiety, the niggling doubts creeping in when my father isn't home on time, the constant wanting of a fresh start she could never have because she had to think of her kids and what's best for them.

The sacrifice.

But I wondered if both of them even thought of how we, as kids, would perceive the setup. When you're a female child witnessing betrayal in its rawest form, and seeing your mother tolerating and letting it happen again and again, something changes in your psyche.

You either grow up believing that's how it's supposed to be when you're a woman—you let it go, turn a blind eye, and live in sacrifice; or you see her as a cautionary tale—someone you wouldn't wanna be like in the future.

To the women who think staying is sacrifice for their children: Know that kids sometimes don't see the family you think you preserved—they learn what love looks like by watching you.

And sometimes, showing them how to preserve your self-respect is the greater gift than showing them how to endure. Because a woman who grows up seeing a mother choose dignity learns that love should never come at the cost of herself.

Bakit kung kelan nagsitanda tong mga trentahin na lalaki saka kumukupal? Hahahahaha hindi siguro lahat pero sunod-sunod na encounter ko this year sa mga married guys or with LIP na magpapanggap na single or single dads para makipag-date or makipag-hookup. Pare-pareho lang yung butas namin guys bat ba need nyo maghanap ng iba habang committed kayo? Sinasayang nyo time ng mga genuine na naghahanap ng real connections and life partners :(

Tas ang matindi ang gagaling na nila magtago ngayon huhu dapat extra vigilant na talaga mga girls, extra stalker-ish mode, mala-NBI level na pag-iinvestigate and interrogate. Nakakasayang ng oras at pasensya waaaaaaaaaa

Hello baka may nakakaalam here. It's been 2 years na yung refund na ineexpect namin from Bria (Baras Rizal) and until now hindi naman din developed yung land sa phase na kinuhanan namin. Wala nang responses sa kanila and pag pupunta sa office nila sa Shaw wala rin silang masagot. Wala ring urgency to move ang DHSUD and I don't have much confidence with HSAC na. Super hassle and costly to get a lawyer. May naka-experience ba ng ganito here and what did you do?