How do you date or “date”?

I’ve managed to self-isolate and not date so long I’ve gotten wildly touch starved. I don’t necessarily want a regular ole FWB, but maybe? If I one time, “break the seal” and then the next day I’m starving again. That is not going to help me any.
I’m in my 50s healthy attractive employed, have a car, blah blah blah. do not wanna go to a bar (often) have limited energy (50’s!) as it’s very easy to stay home. Want to maximize my going out.

I hesitate putting my face on any of those dating apps it just seems like a way to get catfished, and unicorn hunted, and all that out there crazy stuff that happens..which is part of how I got myself in this position in the first place (the overwhelm of even starting). Ideas?
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u/AnnaNimNim — 1 day ago

Support Others: I’ve lived long enough for skinny to be an insult (Here; ironically)

Always support others on this journey. Especially on this sub-Reddit (How could you do otherwise??) I was always “big boned” and tall. I spent 45 YEARS overweight and/or obese. I am now 56 and was young when skinny-skinny was the norm and had the toxic fat-phobic family and the whole 9 yards.

Even after WLS at 47, I never got out of the “overweight” BMI category, until THIS drug. The freedom this gives I am thankful for daily. I pray it continues to work and that I can afford it..and am enjoying it while I can. I hit “normal“ BMI last year and am maintaining. For the first time since 20 years old, I have a normal BMI & weight (a bit on the lighter side of that line in fact). Feeling good, looking good.

But today a woman called me, “bag of bones” from my self-congratulatory post. Here. Yes, it’s been reported and removed, blah blah blah. But, wow. Insulting other IN this group with our struggles and dysmorphia and whatever is low behavior.

After I got over myself, I realized I’ve reached the stage where skinny can be used as an insult! Who-hoo! That is LITERALLY the best NSV I’ve had in months!

“Bag of bones” signing off :)
(I tried to attach pics, with no luck-but I did drop a few in the comments)
TY XOX

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u/AnnaNimNim — 25 days ago

Feeling Slightly Pleased With Self

Just general chatting. Been on meds since August 28th 2024, after semi successful WLS in 2017. I am a 56 yr old woman. 5’10 CW 145 +\- SW 235 HW (2017 B4 VGS surgery) 288. Happy as a clam. The FOOD NOISE is mostly gone. The never ending urge to eat eat eat.
Hit my LOW final goal over a year ago. Been trying to reduce my dose. Had to go back up, in part because I was both spacing out and reducing dose in the summer (typical weight gain time for me). I’ll try to drop my dose again shortly-mainly to save money.

Have loose skin everywhere. Annoying. Wish I could get a lift/reduction and a belly tuck! (Booty and bat wings, thighs as well). Honestly, my flapjacks are part of the reason I do not want sexy times with anyone. I’m also post menopausal, over the drama and disruptions of my peace, and this medication DOES affect my libido.

Thinking I need to just save for tattoos of my upper flabby arms (it is literally a visual trick!) Inked skin hides creepy skin.
Should weight train. “Tomorrow” :)

one major change that I have done is I’ve gone to thrift stores and bought dresses that are mini dresses or whatever and I don’t care if a bra would show. I just don’t wear one! I’m from the generation of your boobs need to be perky and up, and then go through a nightmare of undergarments to try to achieve that effect.
I wore a cute mini red halter dress to a party the other night with no bra which means my flapjacks are halfway to my waist lol and I still looked smoking.
I do think I look slightly older because I’ve lost weight, but I’ve just got a lot of skin but oh well I feel better. My KNEES and back are thanking me.
The main thing I do is I watch my carbs. A lot. Usually in the morning, I skip breakfast and I’ll just have a couple bites of leftovers from the night before before and I drink my coffee. A light snack in the afternoon saving, my main meal for dinner. I will eat anything I want, but make good choices.
For me, even ON meds, as soon as I turn that food faucet on, it’s over (hence the delay in eating). I still struggle daily. The longer I can prolong my first food of the day the better off I am.
sneaky carbs (soda, juice, breaddd) is what makes my weight go up. This month alone I have literally gone up and down 9 pounds…carbs!
One thing I find annoying is that I’ve gotten sometimes negative comments about my weight, but y’all weren’t that concerned when I was obese? I don’t hide my GLP1 use from anyone (except my son for a specific reason). No shame in my game. I hope my body continues to respond to this medication. The reduction in sexy drive is worth the reduction in appetite. I feel SO free not being tortured by the non-stop noise!
Xoxo

u/AnnaNimNim — 26 days ago

Big Purge Garage Sale

Massive Garage Estate Sale TOMORROW Friday July 10th-12th. Saturday, Sunday 9 AM - 4 PM
2416 Redbrook Court Arlington, Tx 76014
Apps or Cash. Massive Garage/Estate sale. Shade. Everything must go by Sunday 5 PM! OBO Over 60 boxes of priced items.
Most items $.25 $.50 $1 $5
Mid-century modern 70s 80s
Antique and vintage jewelry $.25 $.50 each
Fabric $.50 $1 a yard (or less)
Craft items from the 60s, 70s, 80s and 2000 priced super cheap
Older women clothing
plus size clothing 1x 2x
Wal-Mart brand t-shirts 3 for $1
Men’s clothing pants 32 x 30
Coats, blankets
survival food
vintage items
kitchen items
Art Vintage Paintings
Ceramic Crafts
Vintage acrylic sweaters..you know the ones!
90’s Vintage ladies work clothes
Wallpaper
Tanks used for Ox
Camping items
Haunted Dolls
Not Haunted Dolls
Fancy Stuffed Toys
Holiday Decor
(A few items are “estate sale” priced, most Garage Sale Priced)

All large reusable plastic bins $3 each
All cash type apps accepted
9 AM Friday till 5
8 AM Saturday till 4
8 AM Sunday till 4

Priced to move.

u/AnnaNimNim — 1 month ago

Power hub 1800 and other equipment DFW

A double powerhub 1800 by Xantrex. The date is 2010. Yes, 2010. Been unplugged for about two years now .
A ProWatt SW 1000 by Xantrex. A whole crate of wiring. The instruction manuals. Three or four older solar panel panels. A MPPT Solar Charge Controller.

This was owned by my stepfather. He is long gone. It has been unplugged for about two years. I don’t know the value, but I’m not desperate to get it out of here. I wanna sell it for a reasonable price.

I’m not gonna sell it to a garage sale and I’m not gonna sell it on eBay. Just a normal door pick up in the Dallas Fort Worth area.

Pictures more pictures in comments

u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Power hub 1800 and other equipment DFW

A double powerhub 1800 by Xantrex. A ProWatt SW 1000 by Xantrex. A whole crate of wiring. The instruction manuals. Three or four older solar panel panels. A MPPT Solar Charge Controller.

This was owned by my stepfather. He is long gone. It has been unplugged for about two years. I don’t know the value, but I’m not desperate to get it out of here. I wanna sell it for a reasonable price.

I’m not gonna sell it to a garage sale and I’m not gonna sell it on eBay. Just a normal door pick up in the Dallas Fort Worth area.

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u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Value?

This was my stepfather’s. He’s long gone. I’ve just been letting it sit. It has not been turned on in a few years. I’m not trying to sell it here fyi (in case this is a rule).
I’m literally trying to find somebody to tell me what I should sell it for.
As you can see, I believe it is a double power hub 1800.
A massive box of wires that attached to the four solar panels in my window (disconnected)
A MPPT solar charge controller.
A Xantrex power watt SW 1000
If there’s something else that goes with it, it’s around here as well.

I guess I could plug it in, but I don’t know what I’m looking at. I know that after my stepfather passed it started beeping and I couldn’t figure out how to get it to stop and my Brother said he would look at it next time he came………
(I found the manuals later)

I am in Dallas Texas. I need to sell it and I haven’t the Phoenix idea what to sell it for I’m gonna sell it on FBMP not eBay or anything like porch pick up.

Any advice?
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u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Struggling with Summer Food

The siren call of carbs is getting to me. It’s summer in Texas. I gain in the summer. It’s hot. Protein and Veggies sound awful. (I do eat carbs..but cheap junk ones..) Honestly, what to eat? Maybe some sort of cold bean and vegetable salad?

I want cold drinks and soothing carbs. (yes, I know I can eat anything I want in indeed I do. The problem is eating too much of the bad stuff ..)
I’m also super stressed RN..and apparently I haven’t come up with any better coping mechanisms beyond crunchy/tasty treats.

Currently my fridge has thawed pork chops (might cook em for the dog), fresh brussels sprouts, broccoli, and corn and cabbage. BLEH.
I don’t wanna eat any of that.
What’s good when it’s hot?
Tilapia? Beets? Watermelon?

(If I I have watermelon, cantaloupe or cheese in the house, I won’t stop grazing until it’s all gone…even with WLS AND GLP-1’s.)
Summer is passing too fast (I’m a teacher trying to price for Mom’s estate sale but I live in this house full of like 40 boxes improved).
Summmmmmer

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u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Too Hot :(

I’m in Texas. I’m a teacher. (So off work June and July.) Every summer I have great plans and it’s too hot. I need to move. Looked at cost of living in states like Utah, Idaho, Oregon, and Washington….hahahaha. The south to humid. My dad‘s in Virginia too many ticks. Eternally regretting not getting my grandparents house in Milwaukee. It was massive. It was beautiful. It was central and it’s worth more than mine in Austin now.
I took my camping stuff outside yesterday cause I’m about to have an estate sale and there’s stuff that needs to be sorted through.. I went out this morning to fill up the double inflatable kayak im gonna sell and check my air mattresses and the humidity and heat drove me right back inside…
I’m almost in tears. I just can’t do it. I’m 56. This sucks.
(the dog and I laying in My Son’s single wide Tenat for tax)

u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Traditional Mattresses Still Exist?

I’m in Dallas, Texas. My college son (or myself) desperately need a new bed. I’m very much not made of money. I was even willing to buy a used bed, but I can’t tell what’s good or not! All these beds with these ‘button tucks’ sewed on the top on are obviously trying to cover up the weak foam. We need comfortable, comfortable!. (Don’t we all..) Currently sleeping on a bed in a box with some Amazon foam on top and that’s very much NOT working. In fact, right now he’s on the 25-year-old sofa….
He is an extremely HOT sleeper. But he also hurts a lot (auto immune issues). My Best bed was a old school, traditional mattress with a thin memory foam on top. it was ever so slightly firmer than I would’ve liked, but still quite comfortable It’s long gone now…
I looked at Texas mattress company. They’re in Houston. My credit somewhat tanked right now but I might be able to swing $1500? I don’t think that’s gonna get me much though.
Just a good bed apparently is prior to 2010! Halp

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u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Beauty rest used price?

WDYT? Used Beautyrest recharge signature select Ashway plush queen size for $475? (No box spring?)
Owner claims it has been spare room covered for most of its life after a short time with an elder who went into a facility.
I already have an uncomfortable full bed in a box and with pointless foam toppers (spent $150 this spring alone and those are for a full…)
I’ve need soft, stable and not too hot (got an old school wool blanket I’m going to put under the sheets to try). I’ve got a broke teacher budget and have to get my 220 lb adult son (still in college) into a different bed stat!
Facebook marketplace seems to be such a red flag. Hundred dollar beds $200 beds $800 bed some of them brand new many of them out of boxes….i think the prince is a bit steep? Idk what to offer or take or look for instead (used).

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u/AnnaNimNim — 2 months ago

Arlington ISD Invasive Question

Applying for a job, they want to know my salary. That is rude. How much are you going to pay me? (Yes, I saw the pay scale). What do YOU pay for the job I am applying for. I literally do not remember what I earned prior to COVID…you also can’t skip it or write anything other than numbers.
I also do not know my supervisors email from pre-COVID. Besides my current district, my prior district they are all GONE.

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u/AnnaNimNim — 3 months ago