u/Any_You1968

Imam druga (ili sam imao) s kojim se druzim od ranog djetinjstva, 20+ godina.
Sve faze zivota smo prosli zajedno.

Prije par godina kad sam upoznao svoju suprugu, nase prijateljstvo je pocelo da se rusi.
Preuzimam donekle odgovornost za to, jer sam od tada smanjio izlaske s drustvom, prestao da pijem, izlazim u klubove (dijelom zbog zene a dijelom jer sam se vise okrenuo vjeri), bukvalno fokusirao se na karijeru, vezu sa njom, treninge boksa i namaz. Dok je taj moj drug nastavio istim putem (i ne osudjujem, neka je).
Nista nisam od ovoga shvatio, ponasao sam se normalno, zvao na kafe, pricao mu o svemu i svacemu, i dalje ga smatrao za najblizeg prijatelja. Kad smo sami ponasao se normalno a cesto me u drustvu pasivno agresivno podbadao kroz salu, sto nisam shvatao ozbiljno jer stvarno nisam osjetljiv na te stvarj.

Kad sam zarucio djevojku, pitao sam ga da mi bude kum. Od zaruka do vjencanja je proslo 7-8 mjeseci, nikad me nije upitao kako se osjecam, treba li sta pomoc, kako mi je djevojka, nista. Tad sam ga zovnuo na kafu i lice u lice ga pitao jel nesto ljut, jesam li ga uvrijedio, jel ima neki problem na sto je on odgovorio da naravno nema, te da bi on samo volio da se cesce druzimo. Ja sam uradio sto je do mene, nastavio ga zvati na kafe, druzenja, i sve ostalo.

Sve sam ovo shvatio kad je on mjesec dana pred vjencanje pocel da prica iza mojih ledja kako smo mi neorganizovani, kako ne moze da vjeruje da na svadbi nece biti alkohola, da ja “idem u vehabije”, da sam se ja totalno promjenio i da mu se ne svidja moja zarucnica.

Sve razumijem i mogu podnijeti kritiku. Ali da mi ne mozes bar 10% od toga reci u lice to ne mogu shvatiti. Bilo je vec kasno da mijenjam kuma te sam odlucio da ostavim na njemu tu ulogu ali muci me to da nisam te stvari uvidio ranije, i da nisam stvarno mozda ja kriv?

Jeste li imali slicnu situaciju?

Today I sparred a friend of mine after having not sparred seriously for over a year. We only did 2 rounds but it was very intense. First round I did great, second round I had nothing left in the tank, it was survival mode. Obviously since I was sparring a close friend he didn’t set out to hurt me but he pushed me to the limit.
Additionally, since i’m taller and lankier, I naturally always box with a long guard. My coach wants me to learn how to fight on the inside equally well and today I fought on the inside non stop, which only plays into the hands of my friend who prefers that style.
Any tips on regaining my conditioning as well as inside fighting for taller boxers?

Hey all,

today I had an interview for a b2 visa in Sarajevo. I was refused (214b).

Here's my situation.
My wife is a dual (Bosnian-American) citizen. Her parents live in the US.
Her father had a serious open heart surgery and could not attend our wedding, which is why we want to go visit them for 3 weeks.
I have a stable career,, well paying job, apartment lease, car, family and friends here. I do not plan to immigrate to the US.

My interview lasted approximately 7-8 minutes. The visa officer was an American lady, very friendly woman. She asked me why I'm traveling, how long I plan to stay, whether I have a job, whether I have 'fear' of returning to my home country, and what my wife does for work. After I told her my wife is unemployed at the moment, she left the window (presumably to consult a colleague), came back and told me that my visa has not been approved.

Here's some mistakes I think I made:
I didn't volounteer any info such as the stability of my job, my father-in-law's health situation, other ties to my home country, and I didn't show her any of the documents I brought (job contract, payslips, apartment lease contract, father-in-law's diagnosis), I was just too nervous and confused and it honestly didn't even cross my mind to do so.

I plan to re-apply, quite soon. Do you think it will be enough for me to submit a better, more detailed DS-160 and go into the interview speaking more proactively? Honestly I don't care about the fee, I just want to try again, because I'm deeply confident that I am eligible for the visa and that I need to do a better job in interview and the preparation.

For details there was an old lady that went before me, she was asked one question only (why she plans to travel), her answer was 'i miss my grandchildren' and she was immediately approved.

Pozdrav ljudi,

radim kao full-stack inzinjer vec 7+ godina.
Vecinu svoje karijere proveo sam radeci na contractor/consultant/freelance rolama sa stranim firmama. Zadnjih godinu dana radim u jednoj lokalnoj kompaniji.

Do prije godinu dvije, nisam imao problema da imam opcije za part-time poslove i projekte, sa strane uz full-time posao.

Sada, kada bi mi bas dobro dosao part-time posao i dodatni prihodi, apliciram vise nego ikad i jednostavno ne mogu da ubodem, sto kazemo mi u Bosni 'zanedalo se'.

Imate li neki savjet, gdje traziti takve poslove, gdje aplicirati, da budem iskren, verzija CV-a koju saljem mi je AI-generated, da li je to mozda problem?