u/Apprehensive-Key5665

Ok long post ahead but would love everyone’s opinions.

Here’s the situation, my toddler is 15mo & he’s been with me (he is EBF) full time as I am a SAHM. He is fed to sleep (which I love so not looking to change this) and breastfeeds on command but also eats solids like a champ.

I’m considering starting daycare ASAP bc I just need a break, I need some time for myself again. I feel a bit selfish saying this.

I am considering enrolling him into daycare 3 days per week for approx 6h or so.

The main issues I’m having with this are:

- since he feeds to sleep, how will he adjust to getting to sleep on a mat without me?
- his sleep schedule doesn’t really match what the daycare normally follows (they said he will get used to it, it will take some time of course and I can then follow the same schedule at home) but will this be detrimental for him as he will most likely be overtired in the beginning? Am I expecting too much out of him at this age to adjust to going to sleep on his own when he has always had me to get him down?
- how will he adjust to the separation anxiety? Will he feel like I am abandoning him? I follow attachment parenting so don’t want to cause any undue psychological harm with the sudden change.

Thanks so much in advance for your input & experience

ETA: the director assured me that they do not believe in or employ CIO or sleep training which is very important to me as I am adamantly opposed to this for my child, they mentioned they would call if he isn’t napping or having trouble under their care

You see someone running / walking towards you, you’re blocking the entire sidewalk, you make eye contact with the person coming your way, and you still don’t move. No amounts of polite “excuse mes” will get you and your dog to move.

Also unfriendly reminder to PICK UP YOUR DOG’S POOP

OAD by choice for a myriad of reasons. I always dreamt of having two, then reality hit and my husband and I decided that being OAD would be best. I am happy w the decision to be OAD. Yet sometimes I am also upset by the thought of OAD.

Sometimes I feel so sad about the last “little moments”, essentially the feeling of “I’m not going to experience x again”.

I try to be in the moment, but as a SAHM I am so busy taking care of everything around the house and sometimes I feel like I can’t enjoy my child as much as I would like to. The time is passing by so quickly. In a way, I think to myself, thank goodness because it is so tough (baby is 15mo), but on the other hand I feel guilty and sad that these moments are so fleeting.

Although im relieved to not have to go through this all again, I’m so sad that he’s growing up so fast. I am sad that I may be missing moments bc I’m so busy. I don’t want to look back and think “I wish I was more present, especially bc I’m only having one”.

It is a complex and convoluted emotion.

Anyone else feel this way?

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