Just a genuine question
I’m a 23-year-old guy. I’ve been working out consistently for over 3 years and training heavily in Muay Thai. I’m also in mechanical engineering, read a lot, and over the past few years my entire lifestyle, mentality, appearance, and discipline have completely changed compared to who I was in school.
I’ve been single for over 2 years now, and honestly the more structured and disciplined my life became, the more disconnected I started feeling from most people around me.
When I try talking to girls, I rarely meet someone whose lifestyle or mindset aligns with mine. Most people I come across are into partying, clubs, drinking, casual stuff, etc. Nothing wrong with that, but it just doesn’t resonate with me anymore. I’ve even lost a lot of my old social circle because my priorities changed so much.
Now I’m wondering if this is just part of growth, or if I’m becoming too disconnected from normal dating culture. Does becoming more disciplined and focused naturally make dating harder because your standards and values shift? Or am I unintentionally isolating myself and expecting too much from people?
Curious if anyone else went through this.