u/Appropriate_Chair803

i really hope this doesn’t sound like a sob fest but i need new friends. i am f17 and had really good friends in 7-9th grade, but a big switch came when I started dating my boyfriend at the time. Long story short, he was a good friend of mine who really liked me and i liked him too so we dated. It was a tumultuous relationship that went on for two years, until one night we used the google wheel to decide whether or not to break up. Forever grateful it said we should, but at the time I thought my life was over. Once everyone in our grade found out, it was sooo much bs about how everyone thought we’d stay together and how we were so cute. But I think what was worse was how my ex took us breaking up as an opportunity to spread all of my personal business, like ALL of it. I was naive enough to send him nudes while we dated, but I personally deleted every trace off his phone when we met in person. He did however, take every argument we had and show people (out of context) the stuff i said to him and claim that I was horrible to him. 

Now I made the mistake of dating Mr. Popular, so he went and spread it EVERYWHERE. By the time the summer of 9th (when we broke up ended) and we entered 10th grade, I had a handful of friends who would speak to me. I knew they talked about me but it was better than being alone, and everyone at that time talked about me. It was the worst year of my life, especially coming off a year where I had a huge friend group where I felt I finally fit in. Those same friends wouldn’t even look at me when we were partnered for projects. I ignored it as best as I could, drowning in the work 10th grade brought but it always hurt. Eventually some of them came to me and apologized when they realized my ex really wasn’t a good person or even telling the truth. I was so forgiving I invited them to my sweet 16 and acted like they didn’t shit on me for a whole 8 months. I was so depressed and what’s worse is my ex tried to come back too.

I was under spellssss like it’s so insane that my ex almost got me back too, in feb. But again proceeded to make me look crazy by taking my rejection and flipping it, making me seem like i was an asshole for rejecting him (especially after the year of hell he gave me). Towards the end, a lot of people apologized about believing him but I really was just so over it at that point.

okay that’s backstory for this next part

so those handful of friends were great to me, of course they talked about me but who didn’t at that time. At least they stayed. But as I entered 11th grade, I realized that the less I do the less people talk. So i became a lot more quieter, despite my love for talking. What hurt worse was those handful of friends had created a group chat where they go out and do stuff, without me. then went as far as to add my ex to that group chat and invite him everywhere. gosh it hurt so bad, i cried to my mom for days. I hated being left out, but it hurt even more that the guy who is terrible to everyone he meets is the guy who everyone wants to hang out with. i talked to them about leaving me out of stuff, not even about my ex and the response I got was “We didn’t know you wanted to be anything more than school friends”. maybe my constant planning of hangouts wasn’t enough, but idk. 

TLDR; i need new friends because the ones I have are very weird with me, but I don’t know how to make new friends outside of school.

i really hope this doesn’t sound like a sob fest but i need new friends. i am f17 and had really good friends in 7-9th grade, but a big switch came when I started dating my boyfriend at the time. Long story short, he was a good friend of mine who really liked me and i liked him too so we dated. It was a tumultuous relationship that went on for two years, until one night we used the google wheel to decide whether or not to break up. Forever grateful it said we should, but at the time I thought my life was over. Once everyone in our grade found out, it was sooo much bs about how everyone thought we’d stay together and how we were so cute. But I think what was worse was how my ex took us breaking up as an opportunity to spread all of my personal business, like ALL of it. I was naive enough to send him nudes while we dated, but I personally deleted every trace off his phone when we met in person. He did however, take every argument we had and show people (out of context) the stuff i said to him and claim that I was horrible to him. 

Now I made the mistake of dating Mr. Popular, so he went and spread it EVERYWHERE. By the time the summer of 9th (when we broke up ended) and we entered 10th grade, I had a handful of friends who would speak to me. I knew they talked about me but it was better than being alone, and everyone at that time talked about me. It was the worst year of my life, especially coming off a year where I had a huge friend group where I felt I finally fit in. Those same friends wouldn’t even look at me when we were partnered for projects. I ignored it as best as I could, drowning in the work 10th grade brought but it always hurt. Eventually some of them came to me and apologized when they realized my ex really wasn’t a good person or even telling the truth. I was so forgiving I invited them to my sweet 16 and acted like they didn’t shit on me for a whole 8 months. I was so depressed and what’s worse is my ex tried to come back too.

I was under spellssss like it’s so insane that my ex almost got me back too, in feb. But again proceeded to make me look crazy by taking my rejection and flipping it, making me seem like i was an asshole for rejecting him (especially after the year of hell he gave me). Towards the end, a lot of people apologized about believing him but I really was just so over it at that point.

okay that’s backstory for this next part

so those handful of friends were great to me, of course they talked about me but who didn’t at that time. At least they stayed. But as I entered 11th grade, I realized that the less I do the less people talk. So i became a lot more quieter, despite my love for talking. What hurt worse was those handful of friends had created a group chat where they go out and do stuff, without me. then went as far as to add my ex to that group chat and invite him everywhere. gosh it hurt so bad, i cried to my mom for days. I hated being left out, but it hurt even more that the guy who is shitty to everyone he meets is the guy who everyone wants to hang out with. i talked to them about leaving me out of stuff, not even about my ex and the response I got was “We didn’t know you wanted to be anything more than school friends”. maybe my constant planning of hangouts wasn’t enough, but idk. 

TLDR; i need new friends because the ones I have are very shitty to me, but I don’t know how to make new friends outside of school.

i really hope this doesn’t sound like a sob fest but i need new friends. i am f17 and had really good friends in 7-9th grade, but a big switch came when I started dating my boyfriend at the time. Long story short, he was a good friend of mine who really liked me and i liked him too so we dated. It was a tumultuous relationship that went on for two years, until one night we used the google wheel to decide whether or not to break up. Forever grateful it said we should, but at the time I thought my life was over. Once everyone in our grade found out, it was sooo much bs about how everyone thought we’d stay together and how we were so cute. But I think what was worse was how my ex took us breaking up as an opportunity to spread all of my personal business, like ALL of it. I was naive enough to send him nudes while we dated, but I personally deleted every trace off his phone when we met in person. He did however, take every argument we had and show people (out of context) the stuff i said to him and claim that I was horrible to him. 

Now I made the mistake of dating Mr. Popular, so he went and spread it EVERYWHERE. By the time the summer of 9th (when we broke up ended) and we entered 10th grade, I had a handful of friends who would speak to me. I knew they talked about me but it was better than being alone, and everyone at that time talked about me. It was the worst year of my life, especially coming off a year where I had a huge friend group where I felt I finally fit in. Those same friends wouldn’t even look at me when we were partnered for projects. I ignored it as best as I could, drowning in the work 10th grade brought but it always hurt. Eventually some of them came to me and apologized when they realized my ex really wasn’t a good person or even telling the truth. I was so forgiving I invited them to my sweet 16 and acted like they didn’t shit on me for a whole 8 months. I was so depressed and what’s worse is my ex tried to come back too.

I was under spellssss like it’s so insane that my ex almost got me back too, in feb. But again proceeded to make me look crazy by taking my rejection and flipping it, making me seem like i was an asshole for rejecting him (especially after the year of hell he gave me). Towards the end, a lot of people apologized about believing him but I really was just so over it at that point.

okay that’s backstory for this next part

so those handful of friends were great to me, of course they talked about me but who didn’t at that time. At least they stayed. But as I entered 11th grade, I realized that the less I do the less people talk. So i became a lot more quieter, despite my love for talking. What hurt worse was those handful of friends had created a group chat where they go out and do stuff, without me. then went as far as to add my ex to that group chat and invite him everywhere. gosh it hurt so bad, i cried to my mom for days. I hated being left out, but it hurt even more that the guy who is shitty to everyone he meets is the guy who everyone wants to hang out with. i talked to them about leaving me out of stuff, not even about my ex and the response I got was “We didn’t know you wanted to be anything more than school friends”. maybe my constant planning of hangouts wasn’t enough, but idk. 

TLDR; i need new friends because the ones I have are very shitty to me, but I don’t know how to make new friends outside of school.

i really hope this doesn’t sound like a sob fest but i need new friends. i am f17 and had really good friends in 7-9th grade, but a big switch came when I started dating my boyfriend at the time. Long story short, he was a good friend of mine who really liked me and i liked him too so we dated. It was a tumultuous relationship that went on for two years, until one night we used the google wheel to decide whether or not to break up. Forever grateful it said we should, but at the time I thought my life was over. Once everyone in our grade found out, it was sooo much bs about how everyone thought we’d stay together and how we were so cute. But I think what was worse was how my ex took us breaking up as an opportunity to spread all of my personal business, like ALL of it. I was naive enough to send him nudes while we dated, but I personally deleted every trace off his phone when we met in person. He did however, take every argument we had and show people (out of context) the stuff i said to him and claim that I was horrible to him. 

Now I made the mistake of dating Mr. Popular, so he went and spread it EVERYWHERE. By the time the summer of 9th (when we broke up ended) and we entered 10th grade, I had a handful of friends who would speak to me. I knew they talked about me but it was better than being alone, and everyone at that time talked about me. It was the worst year of my life, especially coming off a year where I had a huge friend group where I felt I finally fit in. Those same friends wouldn’t even look at me when we were partnered for projects. I ignored it as best as I could, drowning in the work 10th grade brought but it always hurt. Eventually some of them came to me and apologized when they realized my ex really wasn’t a good person or even telling the truth. I was so forgiving I invited them to my sweet 16 and acted like they didn’t shit on me for a whole 8 months. I was so depressed and what’s worse is my ex tried to come back too.

I was under spellssss like it’s so insane that my ex almost got me back too, in feb. But again proceeded to make me look crazy by taking my rejection and flipping it, making me seem like i was an asshole for rejecting him (especially after the year of hell he gave me). Towards the end, a lot of people apologized about believing him but I really was just so over it at that point.

okay that’s backstory for this next part

so those handful of friends were great to me, of course they talked about me but who didn’t at that time. At least they stayed. But as I entered 11th grade, I realized that the less I do the less people talk. So i became a lot more quieter, despite my love for talking. What hurt worse was those handful of friends had created a group chat where they go out and do stuff, without me. then went as far as to add my ex to that group chat and invite him everywhere. gosh it hurt so bad, i cried to my mom for days. I hated being left out, but it hurt even more that the guy who is shitty to everyone he meets is the guy who everyone wants to hang out with. i talked to them about leaving me out of stuff, not even about my ex and the response I got was “We didn’t know you wanted to be anything more than school friends”. maybe my constant planning of hangouts wasn’t enough, but idk. 

TLDR; i need new friends because the ones I have are very shitty to me, but I don’t know how to make new friends outside of school.