u/AssertiveTarsier

I feel like it's always just something to overcome. Is there even any benefit to it at all?? (like even in nature)

(To skip to the "crazy" part see below)

You know the drill, forever alone and all that. I have tried being myself, I have tried being assertive, I have tried being energenic, I have tried being (more) amicable, I have tried being more sociable, I have tried being the "fun jerk", I have tried being more outgoing. All of that while developing hobbies such as dance, skateboarding, basketball, climbing, etc. Hobbies all of which I genuinely like to do.

What did it bring me? I'll be honest, friendship. It did bring me friendships. Which I am grateful for, I really am. But never a relationship. For one reason or another that's still a too high enough call to make.

THE CRAZY PART

So as a final hail mary I figured this plan:

I am going to stop looking for a girlfriend until I can lift 18kg (in each hand) with the bicep curl exercise. I have been somewhat selfconcsious about my body for a while. Especially my arms, for I am quite a skinny dude. I also have a terrible time of gaining weight through eating and I have been to multiple dietitians also have done multiple tests to see if I may have some condition that keeps me from gaining weight (by eating).

I concur there is a small female audience for this body type but alas to no vail of my own. (In fact from my anecdotal experience more often then not women have told me they aren't into skinny guys.) And given how it is a wildly considered fact that the well majorty of women prefer a muscular body type I figured pandering to the largest audience might also give me the relative highest results.

END OF CRAZY PART

However people have called me crazy and some even went as far as to call me anorexic. When I told them I didn't want to look for a girlfriend until I reach the 18kg in the gym. (For the record I do a complete push, pull, leg routine. I workout everything three days a week. But I view the bicep curl exercise as the marker).

Anywho, what do you guys think? You can tell me I'm full of shit, I won't mind. I just want to know what internet strangers think.

Note: I am in my mid twenties, 5'10, right now I'm at 14kg bicep curl but really close to hitting 16kg. I can definitley see a difference from when I first started but not quite where I want to be yet.

I am looking for dancing shoes that could be worn when you're like bar/club hopping you know what I'm talking about? Anyone got some recommendations?

Note: I really like to make spins when I'm dancing

Maybe it's not supposed to be anything, maybe it simply is. But all I know is that I hate it and it has been very disappointing so far. So I wondered what the actual, general consensus about it is.

Is that the moment to try something? Or should you let her take the lead?? Or is that her taking the lead?? I am dead serious with this question.

Edit: Judging from the comments, I'm just gonna let her take the lead.

Edit 2: Check out throtic's comment I'm gonna try and apply this.

There is a person I know who recently told me they don't like going to beaches/pools because of they don't like their body (I was inviting them to go). All I could say to them was I was sorry for them they felt that way.

This person also hates being patronised. Things like "you are beautiful" or "you have nothing to be ashamed about"(though I do agree with this one) don't land well.

I sort of understand (and at the same time I really don't understand) they may feel ashamed but it's nowhere as bad as they think it is. I just feel bad they feel this way because it's ungrounded but I also don't want to be disingenuous en just fling buzzwords at them.

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