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It is usually believed that tense aspects create problems for us, make us somehow not right, and that we need to immediately solve them and remove their influence from the chart. But in reality, they have a very useful role because they are the driving force behind our development. All your squares and oppositions reflect certain psychological discomforts that you live with, that bother you, and that push you to work on yourself. Those planets that are under tension represent the sides of our personality / phenomena that create inner conflict and that we spend our whole lives learning to compensate for. They reflect what we are insecure about, our sore spots, and the areas where our self-esteem is lacking. And through these tensions, we can often see “what hurts” for a person.
Throughout our lives, we “mask” this sore spot through overcompensation, which often brings us good results. Because it is difficult to ignore, it is unpleasant, it constantly reminds us of itself, and something needs to be done. This is how tense aspects become useful.
For example, tense Jupiter aspects to the luminaries can create a feeling of “not enough” when it comes to grandeur, success, being impressive, and scale. A person usually feels that other people have it better, that others are more successful, richer, wiser. And then compensation begins (what kind? That already depends on the path the person chooses). Some people want to show off and brag just for the sake of it, without having any foundation behind it, in order to get that Jupiter too (approval and recognition for being cool). Someone gets depressed and sad while looking at others and does nothing. And someone starts developing this Jupiter in every possible way — striving, setting goals, achieving, studying a lot, putting in effort, encountering problems along the way and learning how to solve them. The aspect and the root are the same, but the effect is different.
There are charts where there are a lot of tense aspects, and psychologically they feel heavier because many inner problems are bothering the person at the same time. But these people also have a greater supply of energy and potential. And there are charts where almost everything is harmonious. And it’s like there aren’t that many problems, just go and do things, but there isn’t really that much need to do so either.

How do the tensions in your chart feel for you?

Guys that are in a relationships, have you noticed that your partners moon sign becomes more prominent over time as you go deeper into relationship? I’ve had this experience myself and with my clients. For example mercurial moons (Gemini / Virgo) tend to be the ones who take care of small things in a relationship such as documents, tickets, planning, booking appointments, etc. Or moons in Leo / Cancer take care of shared activities, home, like they feel this is their responsibility somehow but it uncovers naturally. What’s your experience with it?

Saturn gets blamed for a lot in astrology, but let's talk about the loneliness angle. One of the Saturns symbols is restriction, and wherever it sits in a chart is the area where you learned early to expect less, including less connection.
The house matters more here. A sign is generational, shared with everyone born the same couple years, so knowing your house is more important in this case.

Saturn in the 7th house - relationships feel like work from the jump. You may feel like closeness has to be earned, you may need more time to adjust to a person. This is the "married late but married right" placement.
Saturn in the 3rd house - you can be surrounded by people and still feel unheard. You may also restrict yourself in communication which often leads to confusion.
Saturn in the 11th house - the friendship one. Groups always feel slightly out of reach. You're not antisocial but want deep friendships much more instead of a whole friend group.
Saturn in the 4th house - loneliness or strict parenting starting at home, sometimes from childhood. Being alone ends up feeling safer.
Saturn in the 1st house - restriction in your own actions, you need a plan first and then you feel safe to act. It may also indicate restrictions regarding your physical body, often a better discipline.
hard Saturn placements (1st, 2nd, 4th and 5th) are just the areas where you're being asked to build slowly instead of expecting it to show up easily. Every hard Saturn house eventually becomes your most solid one, it just takes way longer than anyone wants.

Jupiter stays in a sign for a whole year, so it's shared by a ton of people your age. The house it's in makes it personal, the sign is the vibe, the house is where it shows up.
Wherever Jupiter sits, you get more of everything, including overconfidence. Ancient astrologers called it the "Greater Benefic," but even they clocked that it can inflate things past where they should go.

Examples:
Jupiter in 3rd house - you talk your way into rooms you had no business being in. But you also talk yourself into stuff you didn't think through.
Jupiter in 1st house - you may attract a lot of lucky circumstances, your may look like you’re a resourceful person, like you have some sort of authority.
Jupiter in 8th house - there’s always may be a way for you to avoid crisis or potentially risky situations, at the same time there might be too much confidence so it is important to give yourself a reality check.
Jupiter in 4th house - classic luck through family and home, often getting support that looks accidental but really isn't. At the same time jupiter may bring a lot of chaos to your family life, so that’s the other side as well.

I’ve been thinking a lot about karmic nodes lately and would like to hear your thoughts. So as most of us know, karmic nodes represent dragon tail and head which means they balance each other and you cannot live without one or other. Since the dragon head (aka the north node) is the place where we are supposed to gain new experience (the head consumes, eats), the dragon tail on the other hand is the place where we see the results of our actions. And its like an eternal and very balanced process.

And when we come to life, we already have certain baggage (south node, the results from our past) from our past lives, or family karma whatever. So we already have the potential in our South Node, but to realize that and uncover the potential, we have to go through the North Node experiences.

For example that’s why I see so much great teachers with the South node in Sag / Pisces or 9/12 house. They had the potential but they needed to go through their Mercurial North node to learn how to be the student, how to systematize their knowledge, how to be in smaller position first in order to make it to the South node potential. So guys I would appreciate your thoughts, how your Nodes are showing?

Have you ever analyzed your Sun house? Since houses are more like traits / persona / areas of life we’re trying to learn and develop through our lives, usually we start leaning towards the house traits in late teenage years. In my practice people tend to want those 9 / 10 / 11 Sun house cause it’s much cooler and means that Sun in its highest position. Even though that may be somewhat cool, I see a lot of people struggling with those placements. Because they’re trying to “learn” those qualities and traits, they’re just making everything harder for themselves - often picking harder major, job, etc. Basically they’re turning into the last four signs as they age. So what’s your thoughts on your Sun house position? Especially those with 9/10/11 house Suns :)

This summer has been a lot astrologically plus we have nodes coming to Leo and Aqua at the end of July. So the next 1,5 years is going to be interesting. Remember what was happening to you since May 2017 till November 2018, this time it’s the opposite! Like the situations may feel and look very similar but the results are probably are going to be opposite. Especially fixed signs - Leo, Aqua, Taurus and Scorpio (Sun or rising), how do you feel about that?
You can drop your chart here and I’ll try to look into that

Cancer placements especially- how was your past year with Jupiter sitting in Cancer? Since it’s moving to Leo on June 30 I’d like to hear from you how it went. Did it expand something in your life? Some issues, or opportunities? Or did you feel more chaos?
Personally I don’t have any Cancer placements, it’s my 12h so for me Jupiter expanded and brought back A LOT of past connections. My friend who’s Cancer Sun told me she felt a lot more emotional, but also had more energy for the past year.

What moon signs are the most underrated in your opinion/from your experience? I always see people shading Scorpio moons saying they’re too much, or too intense etc. For me they’re one of the most underrated - if you’re entered their circle, they are ride or die people. Very protective, caring, you feel so seen around them, love this so much about them!