u/AwareShower9864

My husband is 10 years out of a PhD and is still busting his ass in research labs at universities.

I have a masters in adjacent field (same degree, different focus) and my first post grad job in industry made more money than he has ever made. I made more money than him last year and I was on maternity leave for most of it!

Those who haven't been a grad student before: you are basically slave labor making minimum wage and working long hours and the payoff of that is you can take your research experience and shiny new degree and go get a better job. My husband has changed research labs many times and is making barely more than a graduate student, only because the university requires certain minimum wages for researchers.

Honestly I don't mind that the job doesn't pay great money but the problem is this job drains his happiness, his energy, and his time. He has told me many times how he hates his job and when I ask if he wants to quit and pursue something else he just shrugs and says he just doesn't want to work at all so I say fine stay home with our kid then I will work but he still wont quit. I even said okay how about we send kid to daycare and you can still stay home not working but he wont even do that he loves the misery.

Its always the same situation, he works 2 year contract jobs so there's no long term job stability, no retirement savings, and he works 10 hour days most days comes home stressed and tired. Then whoever he's working for wont renew the contract so he finds another research lab to hire him because he's getting paid 50% of what he's worth.

This current one is even worse because he's developing a new product and he's meant to have a % stake in the company but when i asked him he said he's never signed anything so he's just believing these lies the employer is telling him, whenever I ask him to talk to the boss he gets angry at me and tells me to stop bugging him about it.

So fine I said, if he wont get the employer to put him on the company like he promised I asked him to start collecting evidence that he is meant to have a stake in the company like emails and to forward them to a different email so that when this blows up (I predict less than 12 months) I can get my lawyer on it but he wont even forward a bunch of emails or initiate those discussions via email because he is so deeply non combative.

This employer has lied to him before, we planned me to go back to work from maternity leave and for him to stay home for 3 months with the baby but his boss didn't want him to and offered him $10,000 bonus to work those 3 months and that money never appeared and my husband gets angry when I bring it up so instead I stayed home longer and our income was significantly cut.

He gets defensive whenever I bring it up, I have tried to send him job postings in industry but he never applies because he says he's not qualified which I think because he's never been out of academia he doesn't understand that jobs will train you up from the basic scientific knowledge set.

This happens on a 2-4 year cycle, he works in a lab, believes all the bullshit the boss tells him, then is left holding his dick in his hand when he's no longer needed.

TLDR: My husband has been acting and treated like a graduate student for 10 years its draining his mental health which is draining my mental health.

Its worn off now but I felt appetite suppression for about two and a half days. I calculated my serum concentration to be around 0.35mg.

I did ask the NP through Felix if i could increase the dose and I got some AI generated response saying no.

Those who experienced similar were you able to stay at 0.5 for a prolonged time?

How can I stretch my hip flexors? What can I do for outer glutes as I cannot pigeon pose? I am almost 4 months post OP from an extensive knee reconstruction and have been told I may never bend my knee fully again PT told me to deep lunge on the bed but I can barely tolerate the weight on my knee.

I was in a wheelchair for 2 months my hips just feel so tight. I can backbend over a yoga ball and it helps but my knee wont tolerate deep lunges. I can also use a yoga strap lying face down pulling my knee back and doing a superman style pose, but are there other stretches i can do?

Criteria is basically no kneeling on knees, no tight knee bends but up to 120 is okay.

How can I stretch my hip flexors? What can I do for outer glutes as I cannot pigeon pose? I am almost 4 months post OP from an extensive knee reconstruction and have been told I may never have full flexion again (my knee was and is more messed up than the average reconstruction) PT told me to deep lunge on the bed but I can barely tolerate the weight on my knee.

I was in a wheelchair for 2 months my hips just feel so tight. I can backbend over a yoga ball and it helps but my knee wont tolerate deep lunges. I can also use a yoga strap lying face down pulling my knee back and doing a superman style pose, but are there other stretches i can do?

I'm starting my first dose this weekend and just wondering what other have had to give up. Can I drink things like bubbly or la croix? Can I still have toast for breakfast? What about bean salads? Is coffee okay?

My knee injury was really pretty bad I had an acl let and bucket handle meniscus repair amongst other things (a 4.5 hour surgery). I have been told I may never get full flexion back. I am almost 4 months post op and doing great.

I am ready to make a second child with my husband and how we have been doing it has been pretty boring lately.. I would like to be able to.. erm.. bend over on the bed and also be able to sit in my husbands lap. Basically putting weight on the front of my knee on a soft surface. I know you can stand with the surgical leg on the ground but I think my knee may be healed enough now to put the weight on.

I told my physio I wanted to be able to kneel down and play on the floor with my son and he said probably not for a while but this is different it would be kneeling on a soft surface. I cant think of a non dirty situation where you would be kneeling on a bed or a couch does anyone have any ideas? My physio is male and I do not feel comfortable telling him.

I'm 3 months post op and I'm at 130 flexion from ACL/meniscus/LET. I was NWB for 2 months. We are currently working on load bearing exercises and functional movements like descending stairs. They always gas me up but I don't know if I genuinely am doing well or they are just being nice.

Both my surgeon and physio have told me I may never get full flexion back and my physio never tests it or has me bend anymore, I made him measure my flexion last session which is why I know I'm at 130.

Reading this subreddit it seems everyone's goal is to sit on their heels and they have surgeons worried about their degree of bend but my team seems to be focused on the opposite.

After my vaginal foreceps delivery I found things were very different down there. I went to a pelvic physiotherapist and was diagnosed with a grade 1 cystocele and a grade 2 rectocele. I got the weights, the pessaries the physio sessions.. I couldn't use tampons. Any time I would exert myself (Im a powerlifter) I would feel like something was up there the next day. I worked my core obsessively..

I was in the facebook groups reading about how poor the surgical outcomes are, that they almost always take your uterus when they do the repair, the weight list for the surgery in Canada is years long. The environment was so negative and hopeless. I went through three different pelvic floor physiotherapists getting frustrated I wasn't seeing any results. I just wanted so badly to be able to return to powerlifting.

I'm 1 year pp and I don't have any symptom. I'm sure I still have the rectocele because those don't typically heal on their own but I was forgetting the biggest part of birth recovery.. time.

Things are normal for me now. I can use tampons, sex is great. I cant believe I was 3 months post partum crying because I couldn't hold the lightest keegel weight inside.. I had just given birth for goodness sake.

I use the seatbelts with my 13m old but its so tight on him already i'm not sure how it will continue to fit. Do they eventually just get big enough to not need to be belted in?

How does it work when you sell your primary residence but haven't found another home yet?

What about if you found another home but your house is still on the market?

Does the bank let you have two mortgages at once while you wait for your home to sell?

All I had to do when I purchased my first home was pay to break the lease and I was out of there easy peasy, but it seems a bit messier when you have a property you also need to sell.

The boob light in the gym hurts my eyes when I'm benching and I found a dimmable flush mount for $40 at costco.

I am allowed to replace my own fixtures in my location without ruining my insurance, and found several videos on youtube on how to do it. House built in 92' so im certain things will be straight forward.

I will get a non contact voltage tester, and a dimmable switch (the install looks straight forward for this also)

Is there anything else I need to consider before getting started on this project?

Im wondering if this is worth looking into an employment lawyer or if there is nothing I can do.

1. My maternity leave replacement was hired permanently while I was gone. They are also the daughter of a VP which may or may not be an important factor.

2. There is not enough work for two of us to do, the distribution list emails stopped being used shortly after I left and instead clients are communicating with my replacement directly, so I have no idea what is going on with bids and upcoming work. Furthermore she is very disorganized so is unwilling to loop me into things until last minute. (for the most part she is very competent at the job)

3. The team (5 people) has been having meetings without me I only found out this week (my third week back) that these meetings have been happening weekly and nobody has bothered to send me an invite.

4. So with no work to do I asked my boss (director level) for some work to do and I have been given some fetch quest for researching new opportunities. I expressed my worry at the lack of work and he assured me that things would pick up

What would you do in my situation? Should I lawyer up and find a different job? Would you wait and see if things get better?

Im wondering if this is worth looking into an employment lawyer or if there is nothing I can do.

1. My maternity leave replacement was hired permanently while I was gone. They are also the daughter of a VP which may or may not be an important factor.

2. There is not enough work for two of us to do, the distribution list emails stopped being used shortly after I left and instead clients are communicating with my replacement directly, so I have no idea what is going on with bids and upcoming work. Furthermore she is very disorganized so is unwilling to loop me into things until last minute. (for the most part she is very competent at the job)

3. The team (5 people) has been having meetings without me I only found out this week (my third week back) that these meetings have been happening weekly and nobody has bothered to send me an invite.

4. So with no work to do I asked my boss (director level) for some work to do and I have been given some fetch quest for researching new opportunities. I expressed my worry at the lack of work and he assured me that things would pick up

Do I have any legal recourse? should I be documenting what is happening? My understanding is that I need to be offered my job back with all its roles and responsibilities or a similar one with the same compensation.

I am considering purchasing a condo for a family friend to move to Alberta and live in. Ideally I would like to charge her a small amount of rent so that she has enough money to survive but also hopefully she can cover the fees and property taxes. I think I have enough savings and cash flow to be able to do this and she is facing homelessness in New Brunswick. She also has family here so they will be able to support her better than she is doing right now.

The market rent of the condo would be around $1900, I would have a rental agreement with this person but I am willing to charge them below market rate. They should be eligible for Alberta disability they currently have CPP-D which is around $700/mo.