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The guy I’m sleeping with gets dry really quickly during any kind of sexual activity, even when we use a lot of lube. He also told me he moisturizes daily because otherwise it gets uncomfortable/dry. I’ve noticed he doesn’t really seem to enjoy blowjobs either — sometimes it almost looks painful or overstimulating for him — and I’m trying to understand whether this could be related.

He’s been honest and reassuring, but part of me still wonders if it’s something I’m doing wrong or if my technique just isn’t working for him. I’d honestly just like to understand this better and hear from anyone who’s experienced something similar (either personally or with a partner).

Is this a skin sensitivity thing? Or just normal for some people? How do you deal with it? I’d like to give him blowjobs that he can enjoy

Hi everyone,

I’m a 27-year-old woman and I had sex for the first time about a year ago. Before that, I’d had a hymenectomy, but penetration was still painful and difficult. My partner at the time was above average in size, and his penis wouldn’t fully go in.

Now, a year later, I’ve started casually seeing someone new for the past few weeks. He’s also above average in size. We’ve had sex a few times, and while parts of it have been nice, I still feel like it’s not as comfortable or enjoyable as it could be.

The main issue is that penetration still hurts at first. Once he’s in, it usually gets better, but I still feel some discomfort, almost like a slight burning sensation. He’s also mentioned that I feel very tight.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that during penetration, I sometimes feel pressure toward my rectum, almost like I suddenly need to poop. I’m not sure if that’s normal, related to the angle/depth, or something else.

I also get extremely wet. Like, noticeably wet. He has commented on it, but in my head I’m confused because I don’t always feel especially turned on in those moments. Can wetness happen separately from feeling mentally horny?

This is all still very new territory for me, so I’d really appreciate any advice, especially from people who have dealt with pain/tightness, discomfort during penetration, or learning what feels normal during sex.

Thank you 🫶🏼

Hi everyone,

I’m a 27-year-old woman and I had sex for the first time about a year ago. Before that, I’d had a hymenectomy, but penetration was still painful and difficult. My partner at the time was above average in size, and his penis wouldn’t fully go in.

Now, a year later, I’ve started casually seeing someone new for the past few weeks. He’s also above average in size. We’ve had sex a few times, and while parts of it have been nice, I still feel like it’s not as comfortable or enjoyable as it could be.

The main issue is that penetration still hurts at first. Once he’s in, it usually gets better, but I still feel some discomfort, almost like a slight burning sensation. He’s also mentioned that I feel very tight.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that during penetration, I sometimes feel pressure toward my rectum, almost like I suddenly need to poop. I’m not sure if that’s normal, related to the angle/depth, or something else.

I also get extremely wet. Like, noticeably wet. He has commented on it, but in my head I’m confused because I don’t always feel especially turned on in those moments. Can wetness happen separately from feeling mentally horny?

This is all still very new territory for me, so I’d really appreciate any advice, especially from people who have dealt with pain/tightness, discomfort during penetration, or learning what feels normal during sex.

Thank you 🫶🏼