u/Bag0Chips

TRIGGER WARNING: Sexual Assault, Sexual Harassment and Ableism.

Autistic women have to be on their best behavior 24/7. I’ve noticed a trend where any disabled man gets a free pass to do literally whatever. Society sees them as some sweet, cute little forever baby that can do no wrong.

They aren’t.

They are MEN.

And just like any other man, they are capable of being predators. They are no more or less likely to be one- but they are still MEN.

From the ripe age of 11 I’ve had boys with disabilities in SPED classes just- allowed to sexually assault me. It’s fine, right? Because he has a disability- he can’t control himself. I should be kind- forgiving, and keep myself in a horrible situation so he doesn’t get sad like some kicked puppy.

I’m sick of it. Today, I was at a meetup- trying to find other autistic people. Well, this one guy, we’ll call him G- (29M) kept following me and another woman- J- around. He kept asking, weird questions, which was fine, but then he continued to follow me around, sit next to me, even though I kept making it clear I was uncomfortable, and even told him a couple times. He wouldn’t listen. He wouldn’t do anything besides look me up and down, stare at my breasts etc. Eventually, he just came up to me- asked for my Instagram- and this is how the situation went down.

G: hey, can I have your instagram?
Me: No thank you.
G: Are you sure?
Me: Yes, I’m sure.
G: Are you sure?
Me: I’m positive
G: So just not today?
Me: Never

So everybody looks at me like I’m an asshole- but I’m sorry this is a six foot something man harrassing a 5’1 woman; not leaving me alone, following me- not letting me be- so I tell my care provider, and she has 1 million excuses for him.

I kind of shut down, walk to throw my water bottle away, and he’s fishing it out of the recycling. I keep telling him not to, but my care provider keeps saying ‘he likes to recycle stuff at home!’

It has my spit on it. I don’t want him to have my water bottle.

I demand she take me home, over and over and she keeps defending him and being like ‘but he’s just a sweet boy, he doesn’t mean anything- he just wants friends’

He was only doing this to other women, he was only following women. Young women.

Eventually I get home, I tell my mom and she too has 1 million excuses for this guy, saying that he’s probably just not as smart as me and he doesn’t understand right from wrong.

I tell my dad and he says that “some people with disabilities just can’t control themself!”

Bruh

So, it’s been a while since I started dating again. I was in a really dead relationship for about a year and a half, and finally got out.

I’ve been on a couple of dates before this guy, and they were all fine I guess, but the one I had with him really stood out.

First off, the things I look for in a man (or woman, I’m bi) are the ability to work on yourself, independence, kindness and putting in effort.

This guy has his life decently together for our age- he’s independent- he’s got goals, he’s one of the kindest people I’ve met and has not only treated me but others around me too- same with animals. Fuck, he saved a baby bird from its nest the other day. Not to mention how he just…. Goes out his way to get me stuff and show he cares.

his breath is terrible.

I’m talking unbearable. It smells like literal poop.

I don’t know how to tell him that I desperately need him to brush his teeth or have a mint, I desperately wanna kiss him, but it just stinks so bad. Is there any way I can tell him? I don’t want to hurt his feelings- I feel such a connection, but it just stinks