u/BarelyConvinced

Hi everyone!

I’m looking for recommendations for good Bharatanatyam teachers or dance schools in Kochi.

I trained in Bharatanatyam for almost 12 years but had to stop because of health issues. Now that I’m doing better, I’d really love to start learning again.

I’m also interested in learning Mohiniyattam alongside Bharatanatyam, so recommendations for teachers who specialize in either (or both) would be amazing.

Would love to hear your experiences and recommendations. Thank you! 🙏🏼

I met him in 2021. We connected instantly, but at that time he was still emotionally involved with his ex. He told me he had feelings for me, talked to me for hours, made me believe there was something real between us, and then one day told me he was confused between me and his ex. I told him to follow his heart. He chose her, blocked me, and disappeared from my life.

I spent the next two years trying to move on. I dated other people, but I never fully got over what happened.

Then he came back. He apologized for everything, told me about how toxic his relationship had been, and slowly we rebuilt our connection. We confessed our feelings and talked about a future together.

The problem was that I had trust issues because of what he had already done once before. I was honest about that from the beginning. He knew exactly why I was scared. He told me he understood and promised he would wait until I felt comfortable enough to meet him in person.

As I was finally starting to trust him again, my life started falling apart. Family issues, mental health struggles, career problems, and later serious physical health issues. He knew all of it. He told me to take my time.

Then after one silly talk, he stopped talking to me.

I apologized repeatedly and explained myself. I waited for a response. Days became weeks. Weeks became months. Eventually he blocked me everywhere.

What hurts isn't just that he left. It's that he knew my biggest fear was him abandoning me again because he had already done it once before. He knew how much damage the first time caused, reassured me he wouldn't do it again, and then disappeared from my life in almost the exact same way.

Since then I've survived sepsis, another serious blood infection, major surgery, and some of the hardest months of my life. Not once did he check if I was alive, okay, or even breathing.

Maybe there is another side to this story that I'll never hear because we never got a final conversation. But this is the side I've had to live with.

And the saddest part is that after all this time, after everything that happened, I still can't seem to get him out of my head.

I feel like I'm stuck in this forever. I want to get out of this.

He's happy now, enjoying his life, while I'm still struggling. I don't want someone to be happy after contributing so much to the destruction of my life.

We confessed our feelings, we were happy, but I initially refused to meet him because we already had a history. Years ago, he gave me hope, disappeared, and came back after 2 years. Those years messed me up badly. I couldn’t move on properly.

When he came back, he apologized and I forgave him. But because of that past, I wasn’t ready to suddenly meet in person. Of course I had trust issues. I kept thinking, “What if he leaves again after I get even more attached?”

I openly told him about my trust issues and he understood. He said he was okay with taking things slowly.

Eventually I started agreeing to the idea of meeting, but around that time my life started falling apart mentally and physically. I was exhausted because of family problems, career stress, and my mental health. He knew everything about my situation. He told me to take my time and that he would wait until I felt ready.

Then suddenly one day, after a very silly argument, he got angry and stopped talking to me completely.

I apologized so many times. Even after a week, no response. Eventually I cut contact because I started feeling like history was repeating itself again, and honestly I was already struggling badly with my health.

After that, my life became hell. I got sepsis and somehow recovered. Then the next month I got a blood infection. My career completely went downhill. My health got worse and I ended up needing a life threatening surgery too.

What hurts me the most is… when someone once claimed they loved you and promised to stay no matter what, how do they just disappear for over 6 months without even checking if you’re alive? Even just once?

He didn’t even know everything that happened to me during these months because he never reached out. Not even through my friends.

And now I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore. Part of me feels like I’ll burst if I ever see him in person. I want him to know how much damage he contributed to emotionally. How deeply this affected me.

I talked about him so much to my mom. He was the only guy I ever truly loved.

I was fucking genuine and loyal to you, and honestly… I still am. Even after everything, I still couldn’t hate you. And still, you chose to do this to me.

That’s what hurts the most.

And if by any chance he’s reading this here, please don’t ruin someone who is already walking through hell.

24F here. I need to lose around 6 kg for health reasons. Recently I’ve been developing a lot of health issues and my doctor strongly suggested weight loss.

What actually helped you lose weight effectively without destroying your health or mental state?

Would really appreciate realistic advice, routines, food changes, supplements, cardio or strength tips, or anything that genuinely worked for you.

There’s INSANE lightning every few seconds but barely any rain. I’ve genuinely never seen lightning this strong here before!!