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We have never traveled with our 15 month old before now.

6 hour car ride was great. Woke up at 4am, nursed, she conked out, made 1 stop, she was fine.

My parents are divorced and live all over 1 state. We visited 1 first. Pack n play with a cheapo amazon blackout sheet thing over it because we never travel and can’t justify the slumberpod expense right now. She slept great on nights 1 & 2. We brought her stuffies, blanket, and her sleep sack and sound machine and all was well. We were room sharing with her with parent #1 and it was fine.

Now we’re in a state that is not known for heat waves and in the middle of a bad one. Our host just installed air conditioning in all the windows of the house but they are so LOUD. Our room is small and the pack n play only fits under the air conditioning. Not an option to turn it off. Only options to put her in another room are not air conditioned. But it’s like 95 degrees everyday. We keep our house at 65 at night at home. 🥲

She is a GREAT sleeper at home and we have a strict schedule. 7am, 12-2 nap, 7:30 bed. We are trying to follow it but not she has started doing split nights. She falls asleep great at 7pm but then is up at 1/2/3am and just cannot self soothed herself back in the pack n play. I give up and bring her into bed but she just can’t get back to sleep by that point and she just starts kicking and rolling all over, giggling and whatever.

We are offering and she is taking long 1.5/2 hour naps midday. But I don’t even know how to do the nap math. When do you start counting hours awake when they’re up at 3am, and might go down for another hour or so by 4/5 (but also maybe not?) how do you calm them down from a split night? We are still nursing but cosleeping and trying to nurse seems to be waking her up more??? My husband is currently desperately walking her around outside to try to tire her out because she is just not falling back asleep. And how early do you offer bedtime if they just inevitably use that to wake up earlier????

I’m not really someone who considers this bc she’s too young, but I’ve been googling melatonin for babies. I knew it would be hard but I’m just struggling with how to cope and feeling guilty for how to best protect her sleep.

We took this trip because we don’t have a village at all in our state. Grad school. I just needed to see my friends again bc I’m so lonely some days. I know traveling is so hard and we never did it because I dreaded it. But I just wanted to see my friends. And we are and it’s so nice. We are just miserably exhausted and I feel totally at a loss for how to help her sleep better.

Hi friends,

I’m a new-ish mom and a therapist who rediscovered ACNH recently. By rediscovered, I mean I grew up with the OG population: growing game, was obsessed with New Leaf in undergrad, and stopped having time for video games when I got married and started grad school. Now I still don’t have that much time, but I needed a fun outlet that could be easily interrupted and restarted - and I’ve realized I can get most daily chores done in NH during the morning hours before my 15 month old wakes up! It really is the perfect sort of game for me rn.

But I’m oldschool so I don’t like to time travel. It’s been 2 in-game weeks and I just hosted KK, got Island Designer, unlocked the extended part of Harv’s island, got the Hotel. Man there is so much to do! And I still have dreams of decorating my island eventually! But I’m also trying to just enjoy it and take it slow.

So I don’t have a ton of bells (constantly trying to pay off bridges, houses, etc etc). My island is super bare bones. I know there must be thousands of items in game. so I am just wondering, for those of you who have been playing for years - how long did it take you to start seeing the huge, rarer outside items in Nook’s Cranny??

hey all,

our girl is just about 14 months old. She got sick with her first ear infection a month ago simultaneously while cutting 6 teeth at once and started waking up very reliably between 1am to 4am and because I became desperate to sleep I started nursing her in the middle of the night just to quickly get her down, but that has really effected us at this point.

it has been 4 weeks straight of her waking up at this time. I first posted here our schedule, which had been working for so long - 12 hours of sleep at night from 7pm to 7am, then 3/3/4 for naps. about 2.5-3 hours for naps altogether. I was told I was expecting too much daytime AND nighttime sleep, to cap naps to 2.

okay. so we did that, now for 1 week. it has not changed anything. she is still waking up every day, like clockwork, at exactly at 1 am usually. she will NOT sleep unless I nurse her, despite going down independently for naps and nighttime sleep. We have attempted to switch to ONLY my husband going in to hold her so that she understands there’s no more milk at night, but this arrangement is not going well because he cannot get back to sleep after going in/out and holding her for these short bursts where she finally quiets down nd then screams on contact with the bed. But she ALSO screams worse if either of us goes in and just pats her from the side of the crib - this is definitely worse than us trying to let her CIO, and she almost seems to panic until she’s picked up.

so we tried to just drop her to 1 nap in the middle of the day: 7am wake, nap around 11am, up 2 hours later. she’s been fighting the second nap anyway. Sometimes if she’s needed it I’ve offered a 2nd nap and now she just won’t take it. She’s been acting REALLY tired by 630pm, so we just do her bedtime and put her down then; she’s usually asleep by 7. On nights when I don’t nurse her to sleep, she’ll complain for an hour straight before she falls asleep again - so, she’s not getting the full 12 hours. It’s usually more like 11.

I‘m just at a loss. I really dont want to nurse her at night for so many reasons: its disruptive to me and usually means I won’t sleep for hours; it’s bad for her teeth and could cause cavities. she’s eating PLENTY of calories during the day. So many snacks and large meals.

so I am just needing advice. what in our schedule needs more tweaking? what is the most productive way to approach the night wakes without causing more sleep habits that we’ll need to break?

A few weeks ago, my 13 month old was very sick - congested, fevery, etc, and teething 6 teeth at once. Sleep was impossible and we began bringing her into our bed for just a short reprieve of her crying and congestion because she could not sleep without being elevated.

It has been a month since then and she is waking up every single night absolutely inconsolable from 12am sharp to 2am. I try to feed her to sleep and it doesn’t work - she nurses and then climbs all over us, hitting and slapping. I tried to switch her to one 2.5 hour nap in the middle of the day, which did not work. I tried to make her daytime schedule more rigid. This did not work.

She goes down independently for naps and nighttime sleep. We use the same wind down routine every day. She is getting plenty of movement, sunlight, and calories during the day; last night we even made sure to feed her a snack before bed in case she’s really just not getting enough calories during the day.

her schedule is 7pm down to sleep. Now, awake from 12-2am. Wake up for the day at 7am. First nap at 930, latest 10am. She sleeps for 1.5-2 hours, so wakeup around 11. Second nap 2pm, wake up 1 hour later, at 3pm.

I have no idea what the hell is happening but we cannot do this anymore. We fall asleep for the night (parents) at 10 and with the 12 wake up there are some nights we can’t fall back asleep because the crying is so stressful/intense and we only get those 1st 2 hours of sleep from 10-12. My health is declining.

there is no change if we give her ibuprofen. There is no illness. She is just acting like she is starving despite refusing much of her solid food during dinner time (with us presenting many options).

Do we just need to CIO these wakes to break the habit? We tried this one night and she still cried for 1.5 hours straight, which made me feel so horrible I was on edge for days and broke down the next night when it just happened again.