u/Basic_Sail_5087

You know f*ck it, I am pissed off about this because I am the only one to blame. I do not want to make excuses for how I acted.

So I was dating this woman for about three months. We were getting closer and closer to knowing one another. However, there was a issue with emotional intimacy. It started out small, but became gradually bigger and bigger. It got to a point where she decided to break up with me. I felt confused at first because we talked about why I was feeling that way. So I thought everything was good. But I realize I was acting a shell of my former self.

You may ask why? And it was because I was dealing with domestic violence in my home life. One of my parents get extremely emotional violent ( rarely physically) at times even though I know I am not going to be unalived. My body believes it is in danger. I did not recongize it was taxing my emotional capacity, but she did notice early on. She does not know that's the reason I was acting that way. She only believes it was stress at work and losing my job. Not sure if I will ever tell her about this. But maybe one day when I am healed.

I can go into specific if there is any confusion on anything

For some background,

It was many years ago when this happened to me. So somethings are a little fuzzy in my mind. Back when I was young (7-8), I would go to these swim lesson at the YMCA. Now there was this boy in my lesson group that I was friends with ( I am also a guy). One day when we were causually sitting on the wall he grabbed my junk. It put me in shock for a moment, but then I felt a little uncomfortable. I ended up pulling away from him after it happened. Once the class was over for the day , I can remember feeling odd about the interaction. Now I am wondering if something else happened to me that my mind is making me forget. Or it was just a one time event that I am overthinking about.

How can I remember these events that my mind has closed off? What would be the first steps?

Not the type to cause confusion but does anyone else experience memory loss after DV events? What does that look like for you?

A few months back ,I got into an argument with a family member over washing the dishes. Now now, I always wash my dishes and others if people forget. But for some reason they were extremely upset that I left some plates out from earlier in the morning. It did get to a boil point where they threatened to throw a glass measuring cup in my face.

I wish I remember what I said to them to cause them to act in such a violent way. But it does not matter because they act aggressive even if you say nothing. It is interesting how the body remembers more than the brain at times. It makes me recognize my mind cuts certain traumatic events out of my mind the project me. I almost thought a knife was pulled on me t some point, however my memory is not the best.

May be the wrong place to post, but I have been dealing with domestic violence issues ( mainly verbally, financially , and emotional) for over a decade. It's intermittment violence at sometimes, so it does not always impact my mental health.

Recently, I noticed it has been impacting my connection in my dating life. My relationship will start out well, but the moment there iare some DV( domestic violence) in my parent's home I will become emotionally aviodant. This will confuse my past partners because it will show a lack on interest in them. However it is simply my mind not feeling safe in my environment. At times I want to mention this early on in dating but never know the right time to open up about it.

Not sure if this is the right place to post, but I believe it is.

I have been dealing with a verbally and emotionally abusive family member for the last several years. For some context, I am man in his late 20s based in the MidAtlantic region of the USA. The verbal abuse will be simply yelling at the top of their lungs when there is an minor disagreement. Othertimes, it will become emotional when they use your dating experience against you or your academic acomplishments against you. I could go on and on about the different fear tactics you used but I will not

The only issue I have is sometimes it's not always bad, but the bad times are not actually good they are just neutral. This family never apologizes for how they acted when they are no longer upset. It has not been physically violent in the last few years. There are fears that it will be if they get too mad. However, I do experience constant threats of the police being called on me or being kicked out of the house for minor disagreements (i.e who should wash the dishes).

My question is would you consider this domestic abuse? I could be overthinking it and maybe it's just bad disagreements

Not sure if this is the right place to post, but I believe it is.

I have been dealing with a verbally and emotionally abusive family member for the last several years. For some context, I am man in his late 20s based in the MidAtlantic region of the USA. The verbal abuse will be simply yelling at the top of their lungs when there is an minor disagreement. Othertimes, it will become emotional when they use your dating experience against you or your academic acomplishments against you. I could go on and on about the different fear tactics you used but I will not

The only issue I have is sometimes it's not always bad, but the bad times are not actually good they are just neutral. This family never apologizes for how they acted when they are no longer upset. It has not been physically violent in the last few years. There are fears that it will be if they get too mad. However, I do experience constant threats of the police being called on me or being kicked out of the house for minor disagreements (i.e who should wash the dishes).

My question is would you consider this domestic abuse? I could be overthinking it and maybe it's just bad disagreements