u/BeastlyCait

Hey guys!! Lmk if this is too early to discuss right now mods but I’ve been super hyperfixated on what I want to do and how I want to raise my baby when they’re here.

One key thing that’s always been important to me since working in a nursery and working with kids up to 4 years is how many were not toilet trained at really, an unacceptable age to not be. It’s really inspired me to research lots into it and now from what I’ve read and learnt I think I want to start toilet training from around 2 months and especially to use cloth
nappies.

I picked up a preowned bundle of 20 nappies and inserts from fb marketplace last weekend and it’s the first proper thing I’ve bought for babe.

I’d love to hear all your opinions and experiences!

I know this is sort of not in the stand alone posts rules but I just feel as especially most of you from the poll are a few years older and have more experience that I could hopefully have some support and stand out from the daily chat threads.

I’m 22 and have been with my boyfriend (30) since March. We are so alike and mesh so well and my concerns are not to do with him or our relationship at all as he is very familiar with my family (my sisters husbands best friend so has been vetted by my sister over the more than a decade she’s known him lol) and his family is wonderful too. He’s always wanted to be a dad and we are both more than happy to settle down at this point in both of our lives.

I have an oftentimes strained relationship with my parents which led me to move out at 18 and have lived independently pretty much since then, working and supporting myself and a house and dogs until I moved back home at the end of January to save up for a mortgage. My timeline was that I wanted to be able to buy a house next January if I had saved as much as I had planned to.

I’ve always wanted to be married and have a mortgage before having kids, it’s always been pretty important and my family is pretty traditional in that belief of how it should be. Me and my boyfriend got pregnant accidentally as I took a morning after pill when we first got together and it offset all my cycle which is how we ended up here and now I am 7 weeks and 3 days. We had a serious discussion and thought about our options over a few days and both decided we really want this baby together and we’re really excited.

We’ve been looking at houses as he currently rents his dad’s girlfriends house with his brother and it would not be fair on his brother to have me and a baby thrust into his personal living space. We had our first viewing yesterday and the house we went to was absolutely wrecked by the previous owners or tenants. It was really disheartening already and I really wanted it to go well as the only feasible way I can see myself telling my parents at the minute is if we have a solid plan and lead on a house as I know the second I tell them they will be worried about me staying and will hassle me about being pregnant and it will be all they will want to talk about which will stress me out. I know that will possibly be unreasonable as I threw up at my boyfriends this morning and my parents house has very thin walls.

I just want to put that even if we don’t find a mortgage in time, we will still have somewhere to go and stay with the baby and be comfortable.

I don’t know what answers I’m looking for here, hopefully someone else who felt they weren’t ready in the place they wanted to be or still lived at home whilst pregnant and didn’t know how to tell their parents or hadn’t been with their partner too long or lived together and still everything worked out. Thank you in advance