u/Beating-Hearts

I have quite bad PCOS/PMOS. I'm also really obese but I'm not sure if my mental health is affected by PCOS/PMOS. I know it definitely lowers my confidence because I am really hairy. I have a hirsutism, rapidly gained weight, have thin hair on my scalp and sometimes have irregular periods.

I am on medication for my mental health, but it doesn't always work that well. I have a diagnosis of OCD and autism. My moods are bad though. I get so irritable and annoyed when something even minor goes wrong. If someone doesn't hear me or understand me, I get frustrated. Around others I'm not comfortable with, I get scared and mask a lot. I'm scared of confrontation and speaking my mind. Being obese makes me feel like I'm also not allowed to stand up for myself.

For some years I have been so depressed and nearly you-know-what myself. Other years like in 2015, I lost so much weight that I think I went manic (not formally diagnosed with a mood disorder). I lost a lot of weight and sometimes would nearly pass out at the gym from not eating. I had so much confidence and felt like I wanted to meet so many college boys my age when I was 16.

This whole cycle of being high and then low and then high and then low has gone on for years. However, it's at a standstill now. Now that I'm so obese it's like I've given up. I want to lose weight, but it's really fucking hard because of my PMOS and mental health. Also kind of not relevant but I feel like I don't want to date even when I do eventually lose the weight because of my bizarre thoughts that feel real. I am on an antidepressant and antipsychotic. I believe maybe the antipsychotic hasn't helped with my weight.

My GP (who is a lovely guy!) referred me to the Female Hormone Clinic in London. I'm seeing them around December 2026/January 2027 time. If any of you have been there, please let me know!

Started Aripiprazole in 2017 for having severe OCD and weird thoughts. In 2017, I weighed about 250 pounds and now I weigh 350 pounds. I do have PMOS (formally known as PCOS), but I truly believe that it isn't all PMOS that caused my weight gain.

I went on a GLP-1 drug for weight loss and then developed thyroid cancer in 2024. I actually go to hospital on Sunday for my thyroid cancer treatment.

Before taking Aripiprazole, I was slightly overweight and actually lost a lot of weight by going on the strict diet. Then, in 2017 the psychiatrist put me on Aripiprazole. However, I'm still getting weird thoughts and since 100 pounds later in weight, I am still always hungry. I've gained so much weight on this medication.

Last night, I read through the aripiprazole leaflet and it said you must NOT take this medication if you gain a lot of weight (something like that). Also, it causes gambling addiction. I have had to ban myself online from gambling.

Has anyone else had this experience? If you gained a lot of weight, have you lost it now?

I opted for the lower dose, but was recommended to have the slightly higher dose. I'm worried because I decided to have the lower dose that it might not work as well. I did call the ENT nurse and left a voice message regarding the dose. I'm waiting to hear back from here.

The doctor said he didn't want me to do the 5 day inpatient stay because of my mental health. However, I'm now thinking I'd much rather be here than have to go on the low iodine diet again and have to keep repeating this procedure.

I know I'll be alone for days with little to no human contact, but I'm already laid up with a broken ankle. It's just that I'll be alone for a while. However, I've heard that the RAI treatment makes you really tired.

Just worried about all this stuff and it's causing me distress.

I'll be honest with you all, I've only ever had one job and it only lasted for 2 months in September 2022 to November 2022. I have lived with multiple disabilities and only starting to recover from them. I have wanted to work but again, my autism has let me down so badly in interviews. I get nervous and don't really know what they want to hear from me. Also, verbal communication isn't my strongest point, but I'm working on it!

Anyway, because I lack a lot of experience in work, I don't really know how to answer the following 2 questions.

1. Describe your experience working in a team environment toward shared goals and targets. What role did you play?

I attend Sixth Form 10 years ago and I did work in a team to complete my GCSE in Media Studies. However, I did all the editing of the video and some filming as well. One person in my group helped me and the other 2 didn't really do much. But I know being negative about others isn't advised.

I have no idea how to make this sound really impressive lol. What do I say if I completed most of the tasks? I was really motivated to get a C+ grade.

2. How you would handle a situation where you didn't have enough information to fully resolve a customer's enquiry.

For question 2, I thought I'd put something along the lines of, "Firstly, I would listen to their enquiry and confirm their concern/concerns and ask the appropriate questions to see if I can narrow their enquiry down to a specific department/team. If their enquiry is too complex, I would provide take their contact details and tell them "unfortunately I do not have enough information to answer your enquiry, however, I will take your number and/or email address and get back to you as soon as possible."" I know this answer isn't that good, but I genuinely don't know what else to say.

I'm in England.

I'm not sure how much I currently weigh - of course still SMO, but I broke my ankle 5 weeks ago and have been laid up for a while now and only going out when I have to. I'm literally going out of my mind because of boredom.

Anyways, I want to ask you all about bariatric surgery. It's my last hope really because even though Wegovy did work well, I believe it did cause me to get thyroid cancer. Luckily, I was only on Wegovy for 5 months from June 24 to Nov 24.

I have a ton of health conditions and I really am considering bariatric surgery because what I've noticed with me the only things that work are physical restrictions. I once had an online gambling addiction and I had to ban myself for 5 years through a proper service that bans online gambling in the UK. The same goes for food. However, I feel I need therapy or something to do with psychological treatment for binge eating disorder/emotional eating.

What I'm worried about and my weight management team are worried about is the psychological aspect of eating. The eating when I'm upset, bored, feeling low, etc. Also, I believe I might be depressed even though I don't cry every day, I literally cannot see a way out of this obesity. Even with surgery I can't help but think I'll still be like this.

I'm worried that if I do have to surgery I might become so ill because I'll be missing food so much. Then there would be an implications of physical and mental challenges. I know I'm thinking too far ahead, but it is a worry! I've got such an addictive mindset, unless it's my autism.

I know I'll have to make lifestyle changes which isn't an issue such as making healthier meals and swapping unhealthy foods for more healthier foods. It's the quantity of food that I'll be physically restricted from eating. Even though I may have binge eating disorder/emotional eating issues, I feel the only way to cope is to eat tons of food that then makes me feel even worse.

I'm in England and binge eating disorder/emotional eating therapy is near on impossible to get unless you're in the right area of the UK, but I'm not sadly. The local ED centre is for anorexia and severe bulimia.

I'd love to know your experiences and if you have similar worries to me.

Hey all, I'm new to this sub. So let me give you all a bit of background. Been morbidly obese for quite a few years. Obesity started when I was about 13 years old. I had mental health struggles and was going through puberty. I guess I turned to food for comfort. I was also getting bullied at school, so that didn't help. I had undiagnosed autism and PMOS (formally known as PCOS).

In 2015, I thought fuck this I need to lose weight. At 15 years old I weighed 19 stone. From Jan 2015 to Aug 2015, I lost 4 stone just by practically starving myself and only eating 2 meals and a snack or once or twice a day. I cannot believe how much motivation and will I had back then.

Anyways I regained all that weight and even more. In 2018, I weighed about 19 stone again. Now I currently weigh approx 25 stone give or take.

In 2024, I started buying Wegovy privately from Boots Doctor online. I believe this was the worst decision I ever made. Sure I lost some weight but I believe I got thyroid cancer from the drugs. I've had my thyroid removed but am awaiting treatment this month for the final part of the thyroid cancer medication where I'll stay in hospital for a few days.

I'm really considering surgery for my weight because I'm 27, getting no younger and I've been like this for fucking years. I'm so miserable and isolated because of my weight. I refuse to live my life because I'm so obese. I refuse to date, to go to college and to go on holiday, etc.

The obesity has made my physical health and mental health so much worse. I think it's also screwed with my perception of life so much that even I think surgery won't work, however, it's my last chance and if I want to lose weight I don't really have a choice.

So I have some questions for you all.

1. What kind of surgery did you have? Sleeve, band, bypass?

2. How did you learn to stop using food as a coping mechanism?

3. Be honest, do you miss food?

4. How much do you eat a year post op? (of course a lot less, but what does a day of eating look like to you?)

5. Before you had surgery, did you have any depression or lack of motivation? If so, has losing weight helped that?

6. Once you're fully established within a year's time, are you allowed to have treats? Like a donut or something you enjoy?

I'm in England and I've had tons of therapy for OCD. ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) worked really well for my physical and mental contamination OCD themes. I still even do ERP on my OCD now! However, lately I've been having strange beliefs and thoughts about eggs.

I've told my mental health team, but they're only offering 3 sessions for me to go over what I pretty much already know. Also, it's like no matter no many times I challenge these thoughts and beliefs, they never go away. In fact, they come back with even more force. To me, this doesn't feel like OCD unless it's really severe OCD without my realising.

I'm on a lot of medication for my mental health, but it doesn't take away the beliefs I now believe.

Here in the UK, we have the NHS. I am going to enquire about surgery but I think my OCD is now making me think I'll become braindead.

Please share your success stories!

I’ve got OCD and autism. Basically I experience symptoms of schizotypal personality disorder.

I get really bizarre thoughts, but am slightly aware they are strange because I’m told so by my mum and sisters.

I literally only have one friend who reaches out to me because I feel like such a pest and I genuinely think he probably thinks I’m annoying.

I have no motivation to do anything. I want to lose weight but just can’t. I have no interest in my hobbies anymore.

I experience a lot of repeating events. What I mean is deja-vu. I swear I’ve lived through certain events before. I also feel I’ve lived many different timelines.

I have bad social anxiety. For example I can speak to strangers like a shop assistant but that’s it. I would never make conversion with someone. Also I get scared of judging me and fear the worst. I cannot main eye contact because someone may verbally or physically attack me. The same goes for if I try to be assertive. I’m scared I’ll get attacked.

I’m under a community mental health team but they insist it’s OCD. However I don’t think it’s all OCD. Sure I do have OCD, but it’s not all of it. The doctor did try to refer me to a psychosis team but they rejected my referral because they said it didn’t seem like psychosis. However my doctor said I may be slightly psychotic - not majorly psychotic where people aren’t aware of their mental state, I’m not like that. However, some of the things I believe are really weird apparently.

A psychologist is coming in a few weeks to my house to do some sessions with me. I’ve told her my concerns but they aren’t listening to me. I don’t really know what more I can do!

OK, so let me provide some context. I have been diagnosed with OCD for a very long time. I got the diagnosis when I was a child. I know for sure I have OCD because I have had all the classic themes such as physical and mental contamination, worrying about being a pdfile (I hate using the actual word), having intrusive thoughts and images in my head, asking and searching for tons of reassurance, performing compulsions to get rid of contamination (handwashing for physical and throwing away objects that have been tainted by a thought/mental image).

So yes, I have OCD. However, my current thoughts are really strange and bizzare. I know this because my mum and sister told me so. I also have autism and thought that maybe my strange thoughts are to do with autism. However, a couple of years ago I asked on Reddit about one of my strange thoughts in an autism sub. They all pretty much said they don't have thoughts like that. The thought was this (read at your own discretion):

>!I !<>!was worried about a real horse being a human trapped inside a horse's body and mind. I felt like the horse was being mentally/emotionally abused by its owner. I reported the owner to a horse welfare charity. Turns out the horse being neglected physically. !<

>!The current one is now about human female eggs and the association of how they are large and visible like chicken eggs. This also ties in with how all men who claim are "straight" are ctaully gay because the size of women's eggs and also women have periods and bodily functions that men don't like. Also men find it weird because women eat, drink, have seneses (like seeing, smellig hearing, etc). Because I believe that men don't like these things about women therefore are all actually gay and misogynist. Please note I am a biological female. I refuse to date men now because I know they think like this. Also I am really obese so that's another reason why I won't date, too. I also have really vivid images of the eggs and it's like I can see them in women.!<

>!The last one is that I feel like Japanese people are the superior race because they have really popular cartoons and comics. I feel like my life isn't worth living but not in a 'I-want-to-die way'. I guess in a way that I'll never been as good as Japanese people.!<

All these beliefs have literally no rituals or hardly any doubt anymore because they all felt or feel factual now.

What I've mentioned doesn't seem like typical OCD. I am already on the highest doses of meds for OCD in the UK. The doctor I see for my mental health doesn't seem to want to change my medication. I think she said because I am so overweight, she doesn't want to risk me putting on even more weight. She also tried to refer me to the early intervention for psychosis service, but they said it doesn't sound like psychosis. However, I personally don't think it sounds like OCD either.

The psychologist said I'm only having 3 sessions to revisit my OCD therapy as I've had a lot of therapy for OCD. However, I'm pretty sure this isn't typical OCD. I know my OCD very well. The psychologist also said if things don't change she'll try to refer me again to EIP (early intervention for psychosis service). It isn't just the strange beliefs I have, it's also the lack of motivation to do pretty much everything, the strange feelings about the world, I also feel really special and like I'm the chosen one in life because of my connection with the characters.

I know a lot of you are scared of psychosis, but I'm not. I realise I am aware but I think that's because I've been told about my thoughts being strange. I'm not looking for reassurance, but I just wanted some advice.

I saw the doctor who deals with all my medication. She said she thinks I need therapy for my thoughts and beliefs. However, the psychologist said I've had a lot of therapy in the past and therefore need to use those skills I've learnt in the past. Therefore, I won't be able to see a psychologist for a while. She did say though she is going to ask her manager about a psychosis service which is different from the community mental health team (in the UK).

However, she also did say some of my thoughts don't seem like typical OCD thoughts. Examples being about how I was once convinced there was a human trapped inside this horse's mind and body.

My current theory is that all men are actually gay because women have eggs and then think of chicken eggs and therefore are actually attracted to men. Also, men don't like the fact that women bleed once a month and that they poop and pee too. Because of these thoughts I refuse to ever date a man because I know he'll be gay. He won't love me because I'm a woman. I also find it hard that men will date women because of the bodily functions and eggs.

I've asked ChatGPT and he is said he's unsure if it's obsessive thinking or psychosis. It isn't just my beliefs that are an issue. I also feel like I am the chosen one and that my connection to the anime/cartoon characters is really special and meaningful.

There's a lot more I can add, but I really need to see a professional but I feel like they are withholding services from me just because I've had therapy for my OCD before.

I've currently got a broken ankle and am bed bound. I want the help but the "professionals" are crap.

I’m so bored at home and have a ton of time to think. I’m really desperate to go out, even if it’s for an hour or 2 in the town centre, however it’ll be difficult because of all the hilly areas.

I’m in the moon boot and I can partially bear weight on it but I have to stay in the boot for another 3 to 4 weeks. I think it’s too early at the moment to say whether my physical mobility will be affected long term.

Has anyone gone out and about post 2 weeks surgery? I’m so bored in the house. :( Surely there’s something that can help me get out even if it’s once a week.

Hi all, I broke my ankle 2 weeks ago. I have what they call a trimalleolar fracture, it’s on my left ankle.

I went to the hospital today for an outpatient appointment and they removed the cast and replaced it with a moon boot. I have to wear this moon boot for 4 weeks and then I have to go back to the hospital and have x rays and other stuff done, I think.

Aren’t I a little bit early to have a moon boot on? I thought the cast comes off 4 to 6 weeks after the fracture.

I am based in England and was treated by the NHS. I wonder if it’s different over here? Also I am really overweight so I thought maybe I wouldn’t have a moon boot yet.

Hi all, I broke my ankle 2 weeks ago. I have what they call a trimalleolar fracture, it’s on my left ankle.

I went to the hospital today for an outpatient appointment and they removed the cast and replaced it with a moon boot. I have to wear this moon boot for 4 weeks and then I have to go back to the hospital and have x rays and other stuff done, I think.

Aren’t I a little bit early to have a moon boot on? I thought the cast comes off 4 to 6 weeks after the fracture.

I am based in England and was treated by the NHS. I wonder if it’s different over here? Also I am really overweight so I thought maybe I wouldn’t have a moon boot yet.

Hi all, I was walking down the steps near a pier to where I live half a day ago. All of a sudden I fell down and broke my ankle. I have never felt so much pain in my life and now I cannot walk. I had to wait an hour for the ambulance but then when I was taken to hospital I was seen pretty quickly. They did an x-ray quickly and later confirmed it was broken. Bloods were done too and I had to be sedated so they could put the foot back into place… kind of. Now I’ve got to have an urgent operation.

It’s currently early hours in the morning here in the UK. I just feel like utter rubbish because this could have been avoided. I’m not sure if it was the steps that were broken. They were quite damaged and this has never happened before.

I’ve had to use the toilet a few times but the nurses want me to use a bed pan and I just couldn’t use it because it was in the bed and I thought I would accidentally wet the bed. So I’ve had to use a commode or whatever they’re called. It’s been really difficult to manoeuvre, but I am so embarrassed about all this. I’ve lost my mobility for a while and I feel scared about that. Like how am I gonna wipe myself properly now that I can’t hardly move my leg and can’t move my ankle at all!?

What a year it has been already. It’s my birthday next week and it’s gonna be rubbish now. Got told I had thyroid cancer this year, then my mental health has been up and down, and now this! Life sucks atm 😭

Had anyone else been in this position before? :(

I'm seeing a lot of mixed reviews on services like Stackry and ShippingXPS. Are there any others?

Thank you.

Not looking for medical advice but your experiences as a SMO or ex-SMO person.

Basically, I am incredibly moody and irritable. Then a few hours later I might be alright but still quite snappy. However, I have periods of depression and then I've been ok, more depression and then ok, etc. This has been going on for many years - since 2012 time I believe. In 2012, I was 12/13 years old.

When I was a child (about 9 years old) I would have bad intrusive thoughts and the psychiatrist said it may be bipolar. However, then he concluded it was OCD. He missed the fact that I had ASD though.

I'm kind of going a tangent, but does being SMO affect your mood really badly? I'm sick of being SMO, but at the same time it's like I now know no difference. I am considering having surgery but I once went through a time where I one meal a day and lost a lot of weight because I forced myself to barely eat.

My GP has referred me to a hormone clinic for females in London. There's about a years wait. I also have no thyroid anymore because I had thyroid cancer.

What's your mental health like as a SMO person?

If you would, why?

If you wouldn't, why not?