u/Beautiful_Bunch_8139

Tell me if I’m blowing anything out of proportion.

I have a group of friends that includes my sister and her fiancé. We love having people over and hanging out with our friends. The past few times it either seems like they (my sister and her fiancé) don’t want to be there or they always find some excuse as to why they can’t come/have to leave. My sister has been going through some health issues so I understand like sometimes you just don’t feel good. However, it’s basically every single time. We had our son last November and I’m finally getting around to decorating his room and making it cute for him. I invited them over last night around 6pm and didn’t get a text back that they weren’t going to come until almost 9pm. I get people are busy as am I but I make time for those I love. I work full time, have a 9 month old, planning a wedding and god knows how many other events to attend to along the way. I just feel like people have lost their sense of community. Our friends don’t hangout as much as they used to since we’ve had our son. My fiancé feels it too and seeing him bummed about it also bums me out.

Hi, I 26 F have been diagnosed with multiple mental health disorders since the age of 23. I do struggle with day to day life, things I think have gotten better but I can feel like I’m struggling. If it helps you understand I have been diagnosed with bpd, bipolar, severe anxiety (panic disorder) and depression and CPTSD. I don’t think anyone in my life understands how my brain works. I just keep getting told to keep pushing and I can do what I need to do. When I got pregnant last year I had many fears on what could happen when I had my baby. How my mental health would do was my main concern. But everyone just kept telling me “oh you can do it!” Without knowing the extent of my “issues”. I had my baby 7 months ago and after birth I experienced postpartum psychosis. Wasn’t hospitalized thank goodness but while I was going through this it was like I had almost no support. Family members telling me that I need to get over my fears and when I told them I was having a hard time they told me that I needed to get over it. I don’t handle stress well and have a history of self harm and have been hospitalized because of it. Thankfully I am 2 years clean from self harm. Most days I do just want to be at home with my baby. I struggle at work a little bit, like not meeting deadlines. I feel like I can’t tell my work that I need an hour out of my time a week for therapy and to see my nurse practitioner for meds that I should be on. I feel like I’m a disaster waiting to happen. I feel drained all the time. The only things that truly make me happy are my baby and fiancé. Any thoughts on my experience are welcome.

My fiancé were thinking about maybe getting a cocker spaniel in the future. Like far future as we already have 2 dogs and 2 cats. One dog is 15 years old. We also just had a baby 7 months ago so this would definitely be far into the future. Anyway, I came across a Facebook page Summers Hill Spaniels-Missouri. I know there’s a difference in American cocker spaniels and English cocker spaniels but to me hers look like neither. I could be completely wrong. Does anyone have information on if this is an ethical breeder? Or any ideas on places that are? It also should be noted that we’re not dead set on a specific breed all of our animals were adopted or rescued.

I had my son almost 7 months ago and I still don’t want anyone touching my baby, let alone holding him. Don’t get me wrong I love my family and adore my fiancés family bet everyone feels so overbearing. I understand that babies are exciting and everything lovely but I’m almost at my breaking point.

For some background, while in the hospital I cried every time they had to take him to get vaccines or tests. I had dreams in the hospital that someone was going to come in and take him. The day after we got home from the hospital my grandma came over and asked to hold him. I did not want her to. She told me to “get over your fears”. Which made my fiancé mad. I gave in and cried when she left. I thought I saw people in the house trying to come for my child and so on. I did get mental help because I do have a list of mental illnesses (diagnosed by professionals). I was told what I was experiencing was postpartum psychosis.

Fast forward to when we started bringing him around family members, I have had many issues. To my grandma saying she could die tomorrow because I didn’t let her hold my son. My fiancés grandma smoking around him after I explicitly sent out a text saying not to do so, and aunts and uncles just grabbing him from where he is. At this point I don’t want to leave the house or go to family gatherings because no one respects the boundaries.

I’m at a loss. What do I do?