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For the past week or so, my anxiety has gotten really bad and I’m not completely sure what triggered it.
I’ve started getting extremely anxious about leaving the house, going to university, travelling somewhere, etc. The main thing I’m scared of is feeling nauseous or throwing up while I’m outside.
Last Wednesday I was on my way to university in a cab and halfway there I suddenly felt extremely nauseous and like I was going to throw up. I panicked and asked the driver to take me home. Once I got home and calmed down, I was completely fine.
Since then, I feel like my brain has latched onto the idea of it happening again. I have class on Wednesday and I’m already dreading it days beforehand. Just imagining getting into the cab and going to university makes me feel nauseous.
I’ve also barely been going out. I can go downstairs near my house, but I haven’t been to the gym, properly gone anywhere, or socialised with friends recently. I’m mostly just around my family. I’m also struggling to sleep because I keep overthinking everything.
The strange thing is that there isn’t really anything particularly stressful happening in my life right now. I don’t even know exactly what I’m anxious about. It feels more like I’m scared of getting anxious/nauseous itself and then embarrassing myself or not being able to get home.
I’ve always been an overthinker, but this feels much more intense because it’s now affecting university, sleep and my willingness to leave the house.
Has anyone experienced something similar, especially anxiety that causes nausea or a fear of vomiting/being sick in public? Did avoiding places make it worse for you? And what actually helped you break the cycle?
I know Reddit can’t diagnose me — I’m mainly looking to hear from people who have dealt with something similar and what helped them.

For the past week or so, my anxiety has gotten really bad and I’m not completely sure what triggered it.
I’ve started getting extremely anxious about leaving the house, going to university, travelling somewhere, etc. The main thing I’m scared of is feeling nauseous or throwing up while I’m outside.
Last Wednesday I was on my way to university in a cab and halfway there I suddenly felt extremely nauseous and like I was going to throw up. I panicked and asked the driver to take me home. Once I got home and calmed down, I was completely fine.
Since then, I feel like my brain has latched onto the idea of it happening again. I have class on Wednesday and I’m already dreading it days beforehand. Just imagining getting into the cab and going to university makes me feel nauseous.
I’ve also barely been going out. I can go downstairs near my house, but I haven’t been to the gym, properly gone anywhere, or socialised with friends recently. I’m mostly just around my family. I’m also struggling to sleep because I keep overthinking everything.
The strange thing is that there isn’t really anything particularly stressful happening in my life right now. I don’t even know exactly what I’m anxious about. It feels more like I’m scared of getting anxious/nauseous itself and then embarrassing myself or not being able to get home.
I’ve always been an overthinker, but this feels much more intense because it’s now affecting university, sleep and my willingness to leave the house.
Has anyone experienced something similar, especially anxiety that causes nausea or a fear of vomiting/being sick in public? Did avoiding places make it worse for you? And what actually helped you break the cycle?
I know Reddit can’t diagnose me — I’m mainly looking to hear from people who have dealt with something similar and what helped them.

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I’m F20 and met a guy M20 on Hinge. We’ve been talking for around 20 days now.
This is a story of our first date/meeting.
We moved to Snapchat and for the first few days he was very interested, calling me “baby,” saying he wanted to kiss me, complimenting me constantly, and seemed excited to meet.
We eventually met at his place. We had a nice conversation at first, he complimented my outfit, nails, etc., and he initiated kissing. We made out for about an hour (no sex). But afterwards the vibe completely changed. He got quiet, barely made conversation, played with his dog/cricket bat, and didn’t really ask me anything. When I left, I said, “Hope we see each other again,” and he replied, “Yeah, of course, I had fun.”

The next day I sent him a normal Snapchat. It’s now been 3 days and he still hasn’t opened it. I finally sent him a chat saying:
“Hey, everything okay? I just wanted to check in because I’m a bit confused. I feel like the vibe changed after we met, and I’d rather know than guess.”
It’s now been 2 days, his Snap Score has gone up multiple times so I know he’s active, but he still hasn’t even opened my message.
For context, he did tell me from the start that he wasn’t looking for anything serious, just something casual but also monogamous. He’s sent his snap SS when I asked him just once whether he sent me the wrong snap because he gave me a compliment out of nowhere. And he was being very open saying stuff like “ I’d never replace you” etc also

Am I overthinking this, or does this sound like he’s just slowly ghosting me? I’d really appreciate honest opinions because I’m struggling not to blame myself.

I’m F20 and met a guy M20 on Hinge. We’ve been talking for around 20 days now.
This is a story of our first date/meeting.
We moved to Snapchat and for the first few days he was very interested, calling me “baby,” saying he wanted to kiss me, complimenting me constantly, and seemed excited to meet.
We eventually met at his place. We had a nice conversation at first, he complimented my outfit, nails, etc., and he initiated kissing. We made out for about an hour (no sex). But afterwards the vibe completely changed. He got quiet, barely made conversation, played with his dog/cricket bat, and didn’t really ask me anything. When I left, I said, “Hope we see each other again,” and he replied, “Yeah, of course, I had fun.”

The next day I sent him a normal Snapchat. It’s now been 3 days and he still hasn’t opened it. Today I finally sent him a chat saying:
“Hey, everything okay? I just wanted to check in because I’m a bit confused. I feel like the vibe changed after we met, and I’d rather know than guess.”
It’s now been 12 hours, his Snap Score has gone up multiple times so I know he’s active, but he still hasn’t even opened my message.
For context, he did tell me from the start that he wasn’t looking for anything serious, just something casual but also monogamous. He’s sent his snap SS when I asked him just once whether he sent me the wrong snap because he gave me a compliment out of nowhere. And he was being very open saying stuff like “ I’d never replace you” etc also

Am I overthinking this, or does this sound like he’s just slowly ghosting me? I’d really appreciate honest opinions because I’m struggling not to blame myself.

Hi everyone, I’m (20F)looking for advice or to hear from anyone who has experienced something similar because I’m honestly confused and a little scared.
I recently met up with my ex again and we tried to have sex. For context, I don’t really finger myself — when I masturbate (maybe 1–2 times a week), I only stimulate my clitoris or use a pillow. I’ve always been scared of inserting anything because I’m worried it’ll hurt or that I might have vaginismus.
The confusing part is that when my ex fingers me, it’s possible. He can insert two fingers with enough lube. It’s not exactly comfortable, but it doesn’t hurt badly. However, when we tried penetration, it hurt a lot and we couldn’t really continue.
I’m trying to understand why this is happening. If I can tolerate fingers, does that mean I probably don’t have vaginismus? Or can someone still have vaginismus/pelvic floor issues even if fingers are okay?
I also think part of it might be anxiety because I’m genuinely scared of the thought of penetration and I tense up, but I don’t know if that’s causing it or if something else is going on.
Has anyone had a similar experience where fingers were okay but penetration wasn’t? What helped you? Should I see a doctor/pelvic floor therapist or is this something that can improve with relaxation and time?
Thank you ❤️

Hi everyone, I’m looking for advice or to hear from anyone who has experienced something similar because I’m honestly confused and a little scared.
I recently met up with my ex again and we tried to have sex.

For context, I don’t really finger myself — when I masturbate (maybe 1–2 times a week), I only stimulate my clitoris or use a pillow. I’ve always been scared of inserting anything because I’m worried it’ll hurt or that I might have vaginismus.

The confusing part is that when my ex fingers me, it’s possible. He can insert two fingers with enough lube. It’s not exactly comfortable, but it doesn’t hurt badly. However, when we tried penetration, it hurt a lot and we couldn’t really continue.
I’m trying to understand why this is happening. If I can tolerate fingers, does that mean I probably don’t have vaginismus? Or can someone still have vaginismus/pelvic floor issues even if fingers are okay?
I also think part of it might be anxiety because I’m genuinely scared of the thought of penetration and I tense up, but I don’t know if that’s causing it or if something else is going on.

Has anyone had a similar experience where fingers were okay but penetration wasn’t? What helped you? Should I see a doctor/pelvic floor therapist or is this something that can improve with relaxation and time?
Thank you ❤️