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Serious question, I ask because it’s kind of interesting how almost all of them have them. Like why?

Okay so basically today I was driving and my brain for some reason either zoned out or panicked when it saw a whole line of cars plus a semi was merging into my lane. I tried to merge to the other lane but no spot available so I sort was unsure what to do as there was a whole semi merging towards me and idk why but instead of acting rationally my brain panicked and fucking kept going, not speeding up but just sort of accepting I was going to die? I can’t remember, my brain completely blacks out any traumatic memories so it’s very hard to remember what happened just 30 minutes ago.

Well the truck seemed to notice and fully braked and I copied, letting them merge in front of me. But idk, it’s stuff like this that makes me yearn for a walkable city where I can easily get 2 jobs. No such thing exists in the US though, so, I’m forced to drive even though I’d rather not.

I’ve been having to do 120 round-trip mile drives very recently because I just started a new job. Don’t get me wrong I’m moving much closer very soon so I won’t be driving nearly as much anymore after this week, but I feel like maybe I caused this even though I know I did not intentionally cause it. This doesn’t mean I wouldn’t have been at fault for the accident ofc but my brain for some reason is telling me that I should’ve known better or something I’m not sure what it’s trying to tell me actually idk I’m just panicking rn and my thoughts are all scrambled.

And how much did you make? Did moving to a lower cost-of-living state make it easier to get approved for an apartment application if you moved from a HCOL one?

I am her daughter, who is set to leave for college in less than 2 weeks. When I hear them argue about who’s getting her house/who’s getting how much of the house, it makes me wonder what’s gonna happen after I leave. We currently live under my grandma’s, and we’re lucky to have a roof over our head, but we’re really poor. My brother has severe Epilepsy which requires round-the-clock supervision and my mom no longer works for this reason. We have no income coming in aside from what I make at my jobs, and even then, I don’t have the degree yet. Plus, yknow, ya need a masters to make ends meet and that’s a long ways away from now.

I am 20 as of now and I figure I have 5 years, maybe 10 if I’m lucky, to get my finances in order and find an apartment of my own. It’s clear that I won’t be able to have a home to come back to within a few years. While my dad owns a home, the two of my parents are divorced and I figure in 10 years if I go to my dad’s house, I’ll just be destined to be a caregiver forever.

So my brother had a pretty bad seizure today at my dad’s house(my parents are divorced). My dad started ranting about how this “isn’t normal” because he’s having weekly grand mals, and that he’ll sometimes “hear” my brother having a seizure and wake up in the middle of the night panicked while running to his room even when he isn’t there.

Now of course, having multiple grand mals and absence seizures in a week isn’t normal, but my brother has literally been on 7 different med combos. There was once a time he went almost a whole month without a grand mal, but then he started having them again. I don’t have any hope that they will ever go away and I don’t think anything will work for his Epilepsy at this point. I’m not even sure if he’s a candidate for surgery. He’a also on the keto diet which doesn’t seem to have an affect on his condition. Well maybe it does as he has seizures when he eats unhealthy food, but I’m wondering if it’s more or so from his glucose spiking rather than the food itself.

Both of my parents panic a lot when he is having a seizure, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt anything except for the time he had one ruin his birthday. I am scared of potentially getting his condition, and would rather get Cancer if I had to choose, but aside from that since I’ve always seen him in this state, I know there is no solution. There is nothing I can do aside from be there for him when something happens and I know that of anything happens to his brain, then there’s not much I can do to prevent it aside from giving him emergency medicine. Plus, I’ve seen this happen to him for years, and it’s become “normal” at this point, unfortunately.

By “useful” I mean that they can double as a skill but yet don’t require you to earn money for them to be useful.

Ex. Cooking/Baking. It’s useful on its own because you can eat a cake. While you can earn money from it, you don’t need to do so for it to benefit you.

Another ex. Language learning. While this also provides you the ability to earn money, it’s useful on its own since you can overhear conversations that may include gossip. I get that sounds stupid but I’ve earned my Seal of Biliteracy in Spanish and that’s the only thing I use it for. However, I like this benefit as sometimes you’ll hear some really funny stuff.

No purely emotional beneficial hobbies please, my brain doesn’t give me the enjoyment for that.

Hello everyone, I recently got accepted for an on-campus job and recently finished my background check. However, it’s been a week since I got the background report and I haven’t received any further messages. They did tell me that onboarding takes around 3-4 weeks but I have no idea if they mean after the background check is finished or from the day you get the offer letter. Is this normal?

I’ve been picking for years and I’m now concerned that my BFRB behavior is splitting into self-harm at some points.

So basically my mom today was questioning me which church I wanted to go to since I had a silent panic attack where I randomly walked out of church for seemingly no reason. She kept asking me this question over and over again, despite me repeatedly telling her I don’t care where we go and asking for her to choose instead. During this, I’m secretly pinching the back of my neck really hard so that I can feel a pain response to relieve the stress. If picking were to be acceptable in public, I most likely would’ve either pinched my skin off on accident or started picking at my face for the same reasons.

Eventually I told her that I didn’t want to go to either and that sort of relieved me even though I kept pinching at myself. But I didn’t really mean that, I only said it because it would be easier to deal with disappointment than to keep going on in the question loop or make a decision.

I want to get a part-time job for the membership but idk if it’s as hard as Costco. Granted, it is just luck with some jobs, as they said Target was also hard to get hired at, but it was my first job. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve heard that apparently women have a lower metabolic rate when on their period compared to when they’re not. As someone with heavy periods, I just refuse to believe this. There’s no way the 2-5 tablespoon metric is accurate, as I go through overnight pads every 2-3 hours on most of my days. That’s assuming I get the only brand that works for my high maintenance body, cause if I don’t I’ll go through them every 1-2 hours. I also will pass clots around or slightly larger than the size of a quarter.

Okay, so back to the important part. My period is a LOT more intense than it used to be before I started a calorie deficit diet. So, the old metrics I’m referencing aren’t even accurate anymore. Taking ibuprofen used to decrease the amount of heavy flow, but it had no effect this time around. My cramps were also MUCH worse, so much so that I ended up eating much more just to soothe them. I also did not exercise nearly as much as I usually do because I was bleeding so much when I tried. According to CICO I should’ve gained around 0.6 pounds from this, but I actually ended up losing around 1.8 pounds the day my period stopped. I was also losing weight before this period started too, with there being no weight spike beforehand. I did see a spike of 0.2 pounds the day before my period stopped, but that’s still less than CICO said I would’ve gained.

Are there any women with similar experiences here? I feel stupid for doubting scientific studies but there’s just no way. I just refuse to believe that our bodies don’t need more food when we’re going through this part in our cycle.

So I’m not ex-Christian, I’m simply one coming over here to ask a question. No it isn’t one where I’m trying to debate, it’s more or so one that I feel like only an ex Christian could really answer. The church doesn’t really believe in mental health, which is why I say that.

I’m one of those people that can’t feel God’s presence whatsoever, however, there’s also a lot of other things I can’t feel. If it was just his presence maybe I’d think something was wrong, but I can’t even feel how sad or scared I am sometimes. I’m recovered mostly from MDD, but I still am very anhedonic due to the trauma I got from it. I have to force myself to maintain my hobbies, or else I will simply forget to engage in them. I won’t desire to do anything in regard to that hobby if I do not force myself, regardless of how many hours I spent on it or how much I liked engaging in it. “Like” for me in many cases is synonymous with not hating something, as I can’t really “feel” when I like something either.

When you didn’t feel God’s presence, was it more of a hopeless feeling for you, or was it more or so like this, where regardless of how well your life was going or how much so you felt connected to God, you just simply couldn’t feel him? I’m seeing these posts from
believers where they seem to describe something completely different, and I simply can’t conceptualize it because I’ve been anhedonic for so long that I’ve forgotten what that could feel like. If I were to be going through hard times and God “seemed” to not answer my prayers, I would maybe care for at the most an hour, and then move on cause I wouldn’t care.

By fast I mean not taking the entire day. I’m on day one of my period and I’ve bled through 4 pairs of undies and one pair of shorts when I usually only bleed through one pair of undies.

Hello everyone, I am a former RBT looking to become an SLPA. I’ve heard on this subreddit that both jobs tend to have the problem where you make $0 if a client cancels. As an RBT, that could mean getting $0 for the entire week if client goes on vacation/is sick, but since SLPAs tend to work with much more children(usually an RBT has 3 at the most), I was wondering how much cancellations impact paychecks.

Hello everyone, I’m moving soon for college and I was wondering what’s a good amount of Home Depot medium-sized boxes to bring with me to college. Obviously I get it depends on what you need, but realistically how much stuff can fit into a dorm before it becomes a problem?

Edit: I should mention I’m going into a student apartment.

Yo so I don’t work there anymore but it randomly popped up into my head how much people who weren’t even on a client’s case/didn’t know them would give me back-handed advice like “X does this because you do so and so.” They would not do this with anyone else, so I just regarded as workplace bullying and did not address it because it was at a level where I could ignore it and cause they would know who filed the HR report anyway 🤷‍♀️ If I thought their advice was stupid I would just not respond back. There were also times where this one BCBA would always butt in to give irrelevant advice when I had to keep demands with clients that weren’t even on her case. Like there was this one time I primed my client and told them “In 2 minutes video will be done but you can have (item) or (item) when we finish.” I gave them one more prime at the one minute mark, and then reminded them of their options as I took the video away. Client then proceeded to hit me which I expected, but BCBA tried to interfere and tell me I should’ve had him mand for “more time.” Sure I could’ve told him to say that, but more time was not an option in the scenario as I needed the tablet for notes, and I didn’t want to piss him off/confuse him by making him mand for something and then tell him it’s not available. And she never gave this advice to anyone else when removing items.

But yeah, I’m now realizing a lot of this could actually be considered micromanagement and that’s prolly why I felt so anxious 5 minutes before work on the dot. I had no idea why I felt this way at the time because I didn’t know the true meaning of micromanagement at the time because I was taking it very literally.

Okay so I’m at this stoplight and there are two left lanes to my left. This car gets over and is able to access said lanes while screaming at me to get out of the way. There was not enough space for me to move up for there to be a smooth pass for the cars behind me at the time, so I just stayed stationary. But even then, they were still able to pass me, so it’s not like I’m completely in their way. I just ignored them tbh cause I’m not about to become a road rage incident victim.

Even if there was a hypothetical scenario where I had enough space to move and they were completely stuck, I still wouldn’t have moved cause who are you to yell at me? If it was the opposite scenario and they were in my way the most I would maybe do is lightly honk, and if they don’t move until the stoplight turns green, then oh well, I guess I gotta wait a minute.

Point is, I don’t listen to road ragers. I’ve had a semi truck literally get mad at and tailgate me for not being able to drive faster on a junction where there was not enough space to do so and I still didn’t care. I’m prolly the reason that men like that think women are bad drivers, and that sort of gives me a little pleasure cause I like pissing off misogynistic men by just living my life.

However I realize this behavior is not courteous to others, so I must ask, how do yall not get petty with tailgaters/road ragers, especially those that sound like they do this to people everyday? It’s kinda hard for me cause there’s nothing better than pissing off a tailgater when you’re going 10 mph over the speed limit on a road and then choose to go a little slower.

Thank God it’s a rule not to give people medical advice on most forums, because I 100% mean that I HATE it.

Okay so basically I relapsed the day before yesterday, and my parents brought up concerns about my face swelling. They only say this after I have a night where I pick at myself, and I’ve told them each time that it’s just my acne and that I’m not feeling any other symptoms. My labs are also all normal so I have no need to assume something’s wrong. I remember the time I went down onetime already feeling ashamed of my picking, but knowing that some breakfast would make me feel better. My mom then proceeded to gawk at my face and said that it “looked like chicken pox.”

Basically in response to them bringing up concerns about my face swelling, I simply told them I had relapsed with my skin picking, which already took a lot to say than just saying “my acne flared up.” My mom then came into my room today and asked if I started to relapse after leaving work/school. I tell her no, and then she starts going on a tangent of “Well we have a lot of stuff around the house to do so maybe that would help your skin-“

And then, I come in immediately on the defense, tell her to stop, and tell her that if she needs to me to do something that she can just tell me to do it. She doesn’t need to bring my health problems into it, as that’s quite distasteful and why I’m working with a therapist and not her. I just can’t believe she thinks that’s an appropriate thing to say as if she doesn’t know that I’ve been struggling with this for years.

It also does not help that I have previous trauma regarding my family giving me unsolicited advice/“holistic cures” for severe depression which made me wait months for medication. During that time, I was laughed at and mocked for my feelings resulting of my depression, and it wasn’t until I was on medication that I was able to actually live my life. And just so yall know, I only received said medication after the police from 988 came to my house to do a suicide risk assessment,
aka I only got the meds because I was being annoying. 🙄

I’m truly at a loss here. I’ve done almost every preventative measure for dermatillomania and none of them work. I’ve had it for years so I guess that makes sense but yeah.

I’ve cut my nails, used fake nails(made problem worse), put pimple patches over big pimples(and while it does stop me from picking at those, my brain just redirects me to another area), used hydrocolloid rolls, kept the lights off in the bathroom, picky pads, wore long sleeves all the time to create a barrier, stopped watching skincare vids/pimple popping ones to avoid any potential triggers, kept fidgets nearby in case of potential picking. The only thing I have not tried is wearing gloves but knowing how hard my brain will motivate me to pick, I am pretty sure that the tops of the fingers of those are going to be covered in blood.

I’ve recently started up taking NAC gummies(think I spelled that wrong if so then oops) and am hoping that these maybe will make the urges easier to resist. I’m also thinking about emptying my savings for some therapy, but am worried I will be paying so much just for it not to work.

Today I picked at my inner thigh areas and ended up temporarily numbing my leg. I’m okay and so is my leg, but I don’t want to give myself permanent nerve damage from being impulsive.

Drove through LA today on a road with a sign saying “local traffic only.” How much will you typically get fined for this?

If you’re wondering how I did it accidentally, it’s my first time EVER seeing one of these signs along with multiple other things unique to driving in downtown LA.