AITA for “ruining” my cousin’s pregnancy announcement because of what I wore?
My cousin (28F) had a big family BBQ last weekend and apparently planned to announce her pregnancy there. Nobody knew beforehand except a few people she told in advance.
Now here’s the issue: I (24F) recently lost a lot of weight. Like around 80 pounds over the last year and a half. It took a ridiculous amount of work and honestly I’m finally at the point where I feel confident wearing clothes I actually like instead of hiding in oversized hoodies all the time.
So for the BBQ I wore a fitted white sundress. Nothing insane. It wasnt super short, no cleavage, literally just a normal summer dress. I did my makeup, curled my hair, etc because I was excited to see everyone and for once actually felt good about myself.
The second I walked in, multiple relatives started complimenting me and asking how I lost the weight. I was answering politely but I wasnt making some huge scene about it or anything. Eventually everyone sat down to eat and my cousin made her pregnancy announcement. People congratulated her, everyone clapped, normal stuff.
Well later that night I started getting weird vibes from her. She was being super cold and barely talking to me. The next morning she sends me this massive text saying I “made the entire day about myself” and that I “clearly knew” wearing a tight white dress would draw attention away from her announcement.
I was genuinely confused because I DIDNT EVEN KNOW SHE WAS PREGNANT.
Apparently she thinks I should’ve “read the room” once people started complimenting me and redirected attention back to her somehow?? She also said wearing white was “basically attention seeking” because she wanted “soft neutral colors” in family photos. Again, nobody told me there was some secret dress code for a random BBQ.
Then she said the part that really annoyed me. She told me that after struggling with body image during pregnancy, seeing everyone “obsess over” my weight loss all day made her feel terrible about herself. Which I do sympathize with, but how exactly is that my fault?
Now some relatives are saying I should apologize “just to keep the peace” because hormones and pregnancy emotions are hard. But I honestly feel like I’m being blamed for… existing in a dress while thinner than I used to be?
AITA?