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I’ve always had tendons rolling off my hands/feet since i was young. Its one of those thibgs you think is normal until you mention it to someone 😭

Basically i ran for the first time in a long time the other day, and i felt one of the ligaments on my left foot (i think big toe) ping. It went back after a few seconds, however last night it rolled off again, and hasnt really sat back right since. Its been almost 24 hours, and usually it resolves itself within minutes. I think i may have stretched it out, so now it is almost constantly not in the right place (very painful). I cant put a lot of weight on my foot at the moment. Does anyone have any idea what i can do for situations like this as i presume it will happen again. Its hurting to touch the tendon so its definitely not a bone thing. Bracing? Tape? A prayer? I feel like i dont really see others talk about this kind of stuff.

Update: its been a few hours. It settled down but as i stood up to walk back from the pub it PANGED right back out of place again. The most painful one yet and its still out of place.

I didnt do enough research and bought a second hand no fear board off ebay. After googling ive discovered they are considered a toy bc of how bad quality they are? Is there anything i can do, because ive kind of wasted my birthday money on this now

Does anyone have any recommendations for chair cushions to help with back pain? It gets to the point where i have to keep leaving class to lie down because the pain is just too bad to stand. Im also conscious it needs to be easy to stuff in a bag so i can take it classroom to classroom.

I have absolutely terrible posture - forward neck, hunched back, exaggerated curvature in my spine in general - does anyone know of any ways to improve it a little bit? I find that i struggle to put myself in the straightened position, let alone hold it whilst going about my day. Im open to pretty much anything, as its basically my biggest giveaway to having a physical disability. I look odd whilst stood and sat, but especially whilst walking.

Following my hEDS diagnosis, i was referred to physio. The guy did a full body assessment (minus my back, which im annoyed about sinceits one of my main problems), and came up with strengthening excercises for me. I was very straight with him and told him i had done this kind of thing before and it wasnt helpful for me - my main problem is my knees so thats what the exercises are targeted at. He asked me what i wanted out of the session, and i said i was open to exercises however i wanted to explore the possibility of orthotics. He later started explaining to me and my mum (im too scared to go alone lmao) about how orthotics and braces would be completely detrimental to me. I am already fairly dependent on crutches, and i told him i wantedto see if braces would possibly mean i could walk without a crutch, or at least take some more of the pain and fatigue away. He said although they might take the pain away, i will become dependent on them.

I am now booked in for an exercise session with a trainer guy at the hospital, and am feeling a bit put out. All of the appointment he was making comments like ‘youre not any different to anyone else, just a bit more bendy’ and he kept ‘reassuring’ me hypermobility is normal and loaddds of celebrities have it. I dont know how to take any of this. Is physio genuinely going to be helpful for me, and are hard knee/ankle braces definitely a no go?

So i have been diagnosed with hEDS for a few months now, and have been experiencing moderate pain in both of my knees for it for the past year, which has resulted in my use of mobility aids. Over the past 4 ish months ive started noticing this odd symptom i cant find an explanation for.

Essentially this is the timeline:

-i will have my legs either completely straight and go to bend them, or completely bent and move to straighten them.

-during the movement, an uncomfortable stretching sensation will occur across my kneecaps. This will continue to happen every time i try to bend or extend my legs for a few minutes after. The sensation feels above bone level but below skin level.

-immediately after the stretching sensation, i will start to feel tingling on my knees. This is also sometimes accompanied by a tensing/cramping feeling. The only way i can describe the cramp is by comparing it to static. If uou were to take visual static and make that a feeling.

-then, dark red blotches appear on my knees. They are hot, and these i think are the parts that have the tingling too. Its almost identical to what your knees would look like after kneeling on wooden floor for too long, and then you stand up and theres an imprint.

-when pressed on, the red patches do turn white, however when released they immediately fill with colour again, very quickly.

This only lasts a few minutes at a time.

I have searched and searched and i cannot find anyone with this symptom its very baffling to me. If anyone has experienced this or has suggestions for a possible explanation id love to hear it! Thanks.

Right, before yesterday i had no clue what a civic service was. Ive been invited through connections to perform at my villages mayors civic service.

I play baritone uke and do higher harmonies/backing vocals, whilst my duet partner does lead vocals (baritone).

From what ive seen online, most civic services have music played purely by brass bands and stuff like that so im a bit stuck. Ill be playing in the middle of the ceremony.

Also, i have to make a good impression because we are having afternoon tea with the mayor afterwards (i am absolutely TERRIFIED).

Additionally, the venue is a methodist church however im not sure it is going to be particularly religious? I mean, it will be a little bit, i dont really know because as i said i only heard of this thing yesterday.

So, i accept any and all song recommendations. The organiser said she needed to know what *pieces* i would be playing, so im not sure if shes under the impression that ill be whipping out orchestral music on the uke?? Please i need suggestions from people who know what they are talking about this is nerve wracking 😭

This sorg of thing has probably been asked a million times before so i am sorry about that.

My dog is a sprocker/bulldog/staffy mix, 10 months old and male. Im not sure of his weight, but hes small-medium sized. He ate easily 6-10 grapes around 8 hours ago. Then ate maybe 4 or 5 more 2 and a half hours ago.

My mum is trying to convince me that he is fine, and that nothing will happen. I cant take him to the vets, so i SERIOUSLY am in need of some advice.

Is there anything at all i can do to reduce the risks?? Im worrying a LOT and i feel absolutely terrible that ive let this happen.

Im going to try and summarise this as best as j can, but itll probably get long.

For context, i am autistic and suffer from depression.

Back in January my only friends ditched me on the spot. 3 days later but completely unrelated, my partner left me, however we hadnt been close for a while so it was only a bit of a shock at the time. My mental health completely plummeted and i was entirely alone.

This girl (M) was a friend of my friend group. She was the nicest person I had ever met. We started talking, after only a few days of me being alone.

Things escalated very quickly, and we were flirting with each other quite obviously. I was trying to be careful though, because i knew i wasn’t in ANY state to start a relationship. One thing led to another and we got together - within days. It felt a bit rushed but i wasnt really bothered. I did make a point to let her know i was not in anywhere near the right state of mind for a relationship, and i hadnt even started to pick myself up yet. She kept telling me it was fine, so i gave in.

Just under a week later i agreed to come round her house. She made her intentions (g rated) quite clear the days leading up to it, so i knew what i was getting into. I am a very anxious person, and social interactions are NOT my strong suit. For some reason when i was with her everything seemed easy though.

Sex became a big thing between us, and every time we would see each other(which was every day) she made that quite obvious. I did notice though, that she was quite open with her friend about our sex life, even though she claimed to not be close to her.

Fast forward about a week, she tells me suddenly her ex has passed. I am obviously shocked, and give her time to process, although she acts completely fine which is VERY strange. She is the type of person to cry over dropping a pen lid. That evening i was really struggling, but i did try to stay independent regarding that. She insisted i tol her what was going on and i eventually explained that my ex best friend was on my mind. Something switched in her, and she started ranting about how my friend group ‘dropped her first’ and insisting that if i keep thinking about it, it will impact our relationship. I sort of just broke down, and she continued lecturing me for a good 10 seconds before grabbing me and hugging me saying it was going to be okay. We had reached my house, so she told me to go think alone for a bit.

The next day she has told at least 3 people about the little event the day before.

i will now summarise the rest if that week:
- started copying my autistic traits and stims.
- started putting on a baby voice sometimes and putting it down to being ‘vulnerable’
- started ‘withdrawing’ daily, and warning me the day beforehand when she ‘knew’ she was going to ignore me. Then after being withdrawn for long enough she would come back and make me feel amazing.
- started frequently asking to vent in the evenings, specifically about topics i struggle with
-contacted my ex friends to talk about me secretly. I never found out what was said as she refused to tell me.

This became routine. Over the next couple wees i started to become very tired, so i asked we ended the relationship. The ending was very rough.

After one week of no contact she came back. I dont have a lot of memory of this time, apart from that this is when my insomnia peaked and i was basically barely alive. We were ‘talking’ for like 2 days, before she told me she was having violent fantasies about my only friend.

3 weeks later she asked to start talking again. This time she was just as nice as the first time, but she spoke with a lot more familiarity, like we had known each other for years.
We got back into the dating but unlabelled phase, and she revealed a lot of secrets about herself, one of which was that she cant help but lie when it gets people on her side.

I will summarise the next 4 weeks:
-for multiple days at a time she would now ‘withdraw’. She would come round and barely speak to me, but she would be in a good mood. She would jokingly say she was ‘social distancing’ from me but then genuinely ignore me whilst with me for hours. It felt like she found amusement in my confusion and frustration. It made me want to leave her really badly.
If i tried to talk about ny feelings she would IMMEDIATELY compete andthen ‘withdraw’, becaude she believed she has iit worse than anyone else. However she was ofered therapy more than once and rejected it every time, because they apparently arent good enough.
-she would then come back to me and giveme loads of love and affection. She would engage LOTS in my interests, and i later found out she was faking this (she genuinely told me). It made me feel like we were meant to be together forever. Also, i have a disability that means i need a crutch to walk. She would baby me along with everything else and refuse to let me have independence.
-she tried indefinitely to turn me against my only friend, who she had fallen out with. This one cause a lot of friction between us.
-when things were going well and i was happy, mid conversation she would suddenly stop talking, and not tell me why. She made me play guessing games and made me doubt myself. She would wait for me to say something and take it out of context. For example, on more than ine occasion she would purposefully irritate me for jokes, and then i would joke back telling her to stop trying to annoy me, and she would ‘withdraw’ until i realised by myself that i called her annoying by accident.

This is the big one. I explained to her that because im autistic i cant manage my tone of voice like normal people do. We have had full conversations about it, and she fully understood. Within the last two or so weeks of our relationship, she would wait unil we were both speaking normally and i was happy, and then she would start acting weird with me, like touching me repeatedly when i said i needed some time to think or repeatedly asking me if i needed help (patronisingly) because i work slower due to my processing differences etc etc. if i ever tried to enforce a boundary, or ask for a couple of minutes to get my work done, she would ‘withdraw’ and then later accuse me of ‘snapping’ and being ‘agressive’. She later told me that i was impacting her mental health by telling her when something was bothering me, and she would rather i kept it to myself instead of making her overthink.

She did all of this in cycles, repeatedly.
Just about a week ago she asked for no contact, because i confronted her about spreading rumors about our sex life. Throughout this week i have felt fine without her. Now its gotten to a week, i am starting to feel the pull towards her again, like its built into me. Its like a desperate loving and comforting feeling mixed with an anxiousness about her being gone.

Im sure ivemissed out absolutely loads, but to be honest its 1am and im tired 😭
The only reason i started to realise in the fist place was because my friends and my mum pointed it out to me.

Idk, someone smarter than me analyse this and tell me if im making it up.

Im trans (ftm), for context.

I like the name alec, and i am keen on the name james as a double barrelled first name along with it.

My mum likes elliot, because it is similar to my deadname. I dont like it lots, but its a decent name, and i do like that my family would be able to still nickname me ‘el’ without my peers getting suspicious. I havent found any more ‘el’ names that are any better, either.

Bearing in mind my surname begins with an A, I am considering Alec James, Alec Elliot, and Elliot Alec.

Opinions and advice greatly appreciated