The guy I was seeing said we should be just friends. I accepted but now he is acting cold towards me. I am the one reaching out sometimes by texts and all I'm getting is 2 word replies or a emoji reaction in the message I send. Could he really just be waiting for me to fade away? I'm so upset as I don't want to lose him, I already lost someone who I deeply had feelings for and now I have to lose him as a friend.
Had great sex with this guy (a family friend) also shared intimate moments then he decides he wants to be just friends as he enjoys life on he's own. I think about it and decide I actually love he's personality so would like to be friends. I have initiated every bit of contact since. All i get back is short messages to the point or just reactions on my messages. Sent him a picture of me and my friends with the caption wish you was here bestie. He just put a heart reaction on it so i stopped initiating contact and haven't heard anything from him at all in weeks. Did he ever really want to be friends. Why do guys do this, if they don't see it going further just say so. Now I feel I have lost a lover and a friend.
Hi guys if someone could help me understand from a man's point of view what this could mean? Me (35) and this guy (55) We live around 3 hours apart and have known eachother for a year, We had a fling and i slept over with him at he's place for 6 nights after we had sex it turned more casual just lots of flirting, we was still really close. The texts and calls when I returned home turned to one word awnsers, short and brief. So I really wouldn't like to message and ask him, I haven't messaged him in over 2 weeks as I'm trying to move on. When I asked why he had gone quiet he said we will always be friends but he can't commit and has too much going on..
If anyone could give some insight into this I would greatly appreciate it, we got on so well!
Thank you x
I know this guy (I'm 34 he is 55) I texted him a video of a holiday we had a few months back, he instantly replied saying thanks so I thought I would shoot my shot with him. Things turned very sexual straight away where he said he didn't know I fancied him. After a few texts we were sexting and arranged to meet up to stay at he's apartment but not to tell anyone as he is going through a tough time trying to sort out the money with he's ex regarding the apartment, he didn't want anyone telling her incase she would start trouble. I agreed and went out there we spent 6 nights together, When I got there he picked me up from the airport, He was all over me, kissing, cuddling, holding hands. We had a few drinks, not that many just a couple then we were in bed having the best sex. He apologised as the sex wasn't too long, he said he hadn't had sex since he broke up with he's ex. I didn't mind as I enjoyed it a lot just being with him. The next day we was out having meals, drinks, going to the beach, we had oral sex that night. The next few days after we was still cuddling watching TV but no sex, when we was getting in late he was falling asleep, he said he had to see the Dr as he's always so tired from working so much, he has hes own business back home, we live around 3 hours apart. He would talk about having sex again but we never did. It was more cuddles and kissing ect. It was getting near the end of our trip and I noticed him pulling back a bit, he would call me bestie and say friends with benefits ect. I just thought he was making jokes tbh. Anyway he dropped me back to the airport and said he had such a great time with me and will miss me, He carried my luggage to the departures gave me a big kiss and did a sad face as I walked through then he was gone. He wasn't due to fly home till a few days after. He texted me once when I was home a picture of a beer on the beach. I texted him a few times but was left on read, I texted him sexy memes with no response so after a while I panicked and called him, he was really sweet on the phone which confused me more so I then asked him if he would like to meet up more just us, he said he would like to be friends if that was ok with me. I took it as he had made he's mind up so tried play it cool, I agreed. My ex has been trying to get back with me too, I told this guy and he said get rid of him don't settle for second best and we will always be friends ❤️ x, I have been trying to see how he is but he is very distant now, I texted to ask why he was being so distant and did I do anything wrong on our trip, it took him ages to reply but he said no honestly he has to much going on and can't commit. I then left it a few days and invited him to my mums birthday party she is having over in spain in October (I even called him bestie to show it would be as friends) I said i hope you can make it. He just put a 👍🏼 reaction and never replied. Now he has gone really silent and I feel like I have lost him. I did catch feelings for him and now I miss him like mad. He friendzoned me but when I reach out as a friend (which he wanted) he doesn't respond. All I keep thinking is what I did wrong. It's so painful a lot worse than missing my ex of 13 years surprisingly. I know it's because this guy was soo lovely to me over the 6 days. Now I'm feeling broken, I don't want him to fade away. Even if we just have to stay friends. I'd rather him in my life as a friend than not at all. I'm also nervous about bumping in to him out there where we have apartments near eachother. It's going to be very awkward. Thanks for taking the time to read.