u/BettyGraceStudio

my husband keeps talking about wanting to have sex with other women and it's like a thousand daggers in my heart. my heart is just shattered into a million pieces. I used to be so independent and self-sufficient as a woman, and the old me would have walked out the door and immediately filed for divorce. But the last 10 years I've been slowly dealing with more and more health problems and surgeries... I would always work hard to recover between them but they kept accumulating... and then the last 2-3 years things got really bad and now I'm considered disabled. I haven't been able to work the last few years so I am completely dependent on him. I have a lot of chronic pain and fatigue and mobility limitations and I've never felt more weak and vulnerable and it's becoming increasingly clear that he's gonna leave me and I don't know what will become of me, I don't know how I will survive, the panic is so bad it's hard to breathe. I think I had a nervous breakdown two days ago when he was sharing how excited he was to hear that his best friend is getting a divorce and how is his best friend is now free. my husband keeps talking about how he would have more freedom if he were single and how he would have more money if he were single. He says quite openly that he wants to have sex with other women, he says it as if he wants me to agree to it. My heart is ripped into shreds that he's not attracted to me anymore he doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. I know I've had health struggles but I'm still relatively young I'm still relatively attractive for my age there's no reason why we couldn't but it's like he doesn't see me as a real person anymore just a burden that he resents. I know things are uneven in his now but I thought we were partners and there were times when I bigger burden. Around 2008 2009 he quit his job and then couldn't find a new job for a very long time about a year and a half I was running six figures and he was job hunting and applying but he didn't have any work for a very long time . He did one freelance project for about $1000 and eventually I into giving a part-time job at Home Depot just for the healthcare and just have a little bit of income while he continues to job hunt. And when we got married I owned a house with a lot of equity. So I know I haven't been able to work much the last few years but I've done everything I can to help us save money through discounts and shopping and working on our taxes and getting refunds. I also did all the work to help us find a very affordable house to lower our cost of living. And in the last few months I've started an art business and in the last hundred days I've sold 100 tiny paintings. I'm still not really making hardly any profit yet with my art business but I'm trying so hard I'm working on it 12 hours a day seven days a week. I'm doing everything I can to try to take burden off his shoulders but he just seems to resent me more every day and care about me less every day he's just so cold. I just feel so emotionally exhausted right now I'm just at my breaking point physically and emotionally

UPDATE: I just had a delightful conversation with Sophia at eBay and she helped me out so much. It turns out I can't restrict a certain number of quantity is per person or per order that is not possible, however she helped me solve the problem in another way by showing me how I can modify the weight and generate more than one shipping label for more than one package with unique tracking numbers so I am able to divide the order into two packages which brings the weight below the threshold and restores my profit margin for this item. I offer free shipping so if the shipping is unexpectedly high it can wipe out my profits, but dividing the order solve the problem and I learned something new today!

Question has been answered (see update above): hi I am wondering if there is a way to restrict a certain number of quantities per customer so that one person doesn't wipe out my entire inventory? I can't just artificially reduce the entire inventory because then other customers won't be able to purchase as well, I just want to limit it per customer or per order

UPDATE: I just spoke to eBay on the phone and they answered my question: it is not possible to limit quantities on an item per transaction or per order or per customer. However, they helped me solve my shipping issue by teaching me how to purchase a second shipping label with unique tracking number so that I could divide the weight of the order between two packages to stay in the shipping tier where I can make profit. So all my questions are answered and the problem is solved! 

THANK YOU to everyone who kindly took to time to reply to a new seller 🙏🏻

Questions answered/problem solved (see update above). Original post below:

I offer an add-on product in my store that's designed to go with my primary product and I expected people to just add one add-on per order but somebody ordered my entire inventory. Which messed up my pricing model because normally I could do it in an eBay standard envelope for $.74 or $1.03 but shipping my entire supply bumps it up above 3 ounces and I'm gonna have to pay six dollars in shipping and I'm gonna lose money with this order. Now I can divide it between two flexible mailers for $1.03 each which would be a total of $2.06 shipping so that would be helpful but the problem is because this person ordered all six and one order eBay only wants to sell me one label.

QUESTION: can I use the "get another copy of a label" to create two labels to ship this into packages to keep the weight under 2 ounces per package? I don't imagine that would work because I would only be paying for once so after it scanned the first time I think the second package wouldn't travel.

QUESTION: is there any way to divide this into two separate orders? Then I could buy two separate shipping labels?

QUESTION: If I can only get one shipping label for eBay can I get a shipping label from someone else or somewhere else for the second package? I guess maybe through hostel service? It wouldn't have tracking your insurance but at least it wouldn't destroy my profit.

LAST QUESTION: How can I prevent this from happening again? How do I limit to three items per transaction/order but still maintain a quantity of 18 total? I don't mind if one person buys all 18 just as long as each set of three is in its own order for postage reasons

Where can I post my ACEOs so collectors can find them? I am suppressed or shadow banned or something here in r/ACEO sub. Everything I post here gets exactly 0 votes or comments (besides the one automated upvote by the system). I can post the same thing anywhere else and get engagement but here I am invisible. After months of trying to fix it to troubleshoot the situation, I need to give up and find somewhere else to post. But I can't find any other subreddits about posting ACEOs for sale. Where can I post so collectors can find me? Thank you for any advice or tips 🙏🏻

This is been a rough week for my art business with a lot of setbacks and disappointment and lack of sales and wasted effort and all kinds of struggles. I think because art is such a personal endeavor that lack of sales feels like rejection. it hurts. What makes it worse is that I've been open and vulnerable on social media (I struggle with chronic illness and disability) and it hurts that the series that were inspired by the biggest milestones that were the most deeply personal the ones that I was most open and vulnerable about on social media...are the ones that sold the worst.

The conventional wisdom is to "share the story behind the art and personal things about you as an artist because people buy art based on emotion and if they connect with the artist they will connect with the art" etc. etc. but I haven't seen that translate into sales for me. I've sold work sure, but not the deeply personal work. So I'm beginning to think that oft repeated advice is a load of crap.

i'm just feeling really down and definitely want to go back and be less open online. Maybe someday I will have the luxury financially of creating art that's meaningful to me but unsellable. But at the moment, I have bills to pay so I just need to figure out what people want and make that I guess. Although this week I dropped a series that I was so sure other people were gonna want. But it did not sell well. So yeah, honestly I just don't know what to do.

What do you think? Better to not be vulnerable online?

I made art cards in landscape orientation before I realized that no one wants to collect them. So now I have all of these art cards that I worked hard on and some of them are really nice but I don't know if anyone will want them. Which is fair — I get why collectors prefer portrait orientation: it fits better into a binder. So I get it, and if no one wants to trade landscape that's OK. But if anyone is interested, I have a huge selection. Seems a shame to throw 30-35 pieces of art in the garbage so please let me know if you are open to a trade where you would receive a landscape orientation artwork.