My 10month old is very attached and doesn’t like people since I work from home. I need to explore child care. Would any of you please tell me if you prefer nanny or child care centers? And why?
My 10month old is very attached and doesn’t like people since I work from home. I need to explore child care. Would any of you please tell me if you prefer nanny or child care centers? And why?
My dad is extremely religious to the point that he is abusive to my half siblings. Thankfully I didn’t grow up with him and didn’t have to endure the brainwashing beatings. My dad disowned me when I got pregnant with my first baby and came back around when my kid was 10. He refused to speak to my child as he considers my baby bastard. I thought he was coming back around to apologize and be apart of our lives but I guess I was naive. This man came back around to tell me I could marry my husband because he wasn’t Somali and refused to get to know him. He said he owns me and he decides what I do with my life. I laughed at his face after he called me names and I told him he doesn’t own me. I’m not a goat or property to own. He started using the religion saying that I’ll go to hell and he was more upset that it didn’t bother me. Little does he know that I don’t believe in Islam. Long story short, I was told to lose his name and family. Funny thing is I was never apart of his family and hypocrite fake religious loving children. Mofos party and go to clubs but he thinks they are holy and better than me.
Mother who gave me up at birth wants me to support her and her children in Kenya. I’ve been kind enough to send her $500 monthly even though she never cared to call me or have a relationship with me. I’ve only found out that I had different parents when I was 10 and she wanted to cash in her meal ticket who is going to America. She never called when I was here as young child or teen. She never called me when I nearly died of child birth and my baby was in the NICU for 5 months. She never cared when I was broken and could not afford anything. Now that I’m successful, she all of the sudden loves me and can’t live without me. My grandparents and family have guilty me into supporting her and her children and her husband. She calls me nonstop if I’m late one day of sending her money. She sees me as a cash cow and she sends me these sad videos on WhatsApp saying. “ you don’t love me and you don’t care about me. Did you stop loving me? My only daughter who made me a better woman compared to my peers.” My stomach turns hearing this considering that she has abandoned me and never looked for me or cared for me. I genuinely don’t love her because I don’t really know and I don’t care for her. I just feel manipulated and coerced into sending money to her and her family of 6. I get angry and extremely irritated to get these voice messages. I don’t want to blow up at her but I keep my mouth shut but it bothers me to hear that. I’ve only met her twice. Once when I was 10 and another at 13 which she beat the living crap out of me both times. As a mother myself, I cannot imagine abandoning my children or never being in touch with them.