u/BiomedBabe1

Hey everyone. This is the first project I've run, and a lot of my team is remote but a number of them are on-site

We are closing in on completing the Phase 1 (of 3 total phases) of a complex project that everyone has seriously been kicking ass on. It's taken us about 17 months to get to this point, probably will be at about 19 months when final documentation routes and we can "close" out this part.

I really want to express appreciation to the team and celebrate this milestone. It's a project that the company has put off for years, so even getting one part done is a huge achievement. How can I celebrate all of the team, including those off site?

Like everyone else in this sub, when I was pregnant I got so many of the “just wait for…” statements that made me so scared to face the newborn trenches. You think you’re tired now, just wait until the baby is here. You think you’re hungry now, just wait until you’re breastfeeding. You think you’re stressed now, just wait…

I am 1 year PP now and I am happy to report that there are so so so SO many positive “just waits” that I would like to share.

Just wait….
Until your baby smiles for the first time
Or until they chuckle or giggle for the first time

Just wait until they start to recognize their own reflection, or when you can see in their eyes that they’re recognizing you

Just wait until they learn how to grasp things and start reaching for their favorite toy

Just wait until they squeak with joy when they see your dog or cat. Just wait until they start reaching their arms up for you to pick them up

Just wait until they start making hilarious facial expressions and start babbling.

Just wait until the first time they try ice cream or pancakes and their face lights up

Just wait until they start crawling around and exploring, bc the whole world is so fascinating and new to them

Just wait until they start bouncing and grooving when you put on their favorite music

Just wait until the first time you put them in a kiddie pool or a splash pad, just wait until bathtime becomes the most fun part of their day bc bath toys are actually pretty fun

My baby boy will be 1 year old next week. I wish more people had told me how magical being a parent is. This year has been full of so many firsts, so many beautiful moments, and so much love. I wish more people had hyped me up with this knowledge to help me look forward to motherhood.

So I’ll do it for y’all. Just you wait, you think life was good before, it’s about to get so much better.

Ive been fighting off a hypomanic episode for the last week now. I thought it was relatively under control, but today it kind of has come to a head. I sat in the work parking lot for 30 minutes, deciding whether I should just go inside or if I would drive away and go spend the day at a state park. I was starting to reschedule all my meetings until I realized being outside all day wouldn’t be fun with the current air quality.

I thought about just driving up north and staying up there for the week, regardless of cost. But we only have one car right now and I can’t leave my husband and son without a car. It also wouldn’t be fair to leave my husband with my son with 0 warning. The urge is so strong tho… but I’m proud of myself for having enough sense to not drive up north. Not blow off work. I’m sitting at my desk now, and while I’m not being super productive, I at least showed up.

I’m struggling. I guess I just wanted to vent to people that would understand.

I guess I just need to vent and feel understood, bc I hate myself and hate that this happens so often.

I'm BP2, diagnosed 7 years ago. I'm on three meds that have definitely helped with the impulsive thoughts. It was certainly much worse before I was medicated. I've been with my husband for 11 years and we have a beautiful baby boy. I also have a fantastic therapist.

But I can't even bring myself to tell my therapist about this because I'm so ashamed. I think about cheating, a lot. I think about how much I want somebody attractive to find me attractive, to TELL me that they want me. I get hooked on the dopamine bump I get from thinking about it. For a couple of years I was able to keep the thoughts at bay but after having my son, I'm desperate to feel desirable. I'm desperate for fun sexual tension. The worst part is my husband tells me every single day that he finds me beautiful. I know he wants to have sex, I just ... don't want sex with him (which is definitely a separate issue).

I have never, and would never, cheat on my husband. He's a fantastic guy and a fantastic dad. We're going through a bit of a rough patch, which does make the impulsive thoughts worse; but I would never actually go through with it.

It just feels like a pressure building in me. It fades after some time when I'm feeling more stable, but then it comes right back. I want it to go away, but I'm not actually ready to let go of the mood high I get from thinking about it.

Please tell me I'm not alone. Please tell me it'll be ok. Please give your advice for how you cope with this. I feel like a shit person. I don't want to be a shit person.

Hi everyone,

Just looking for some advice! I absolutely love camping, it's my favorite part of summer. Nothing crazy, we just set up shop at a state park and vibe for a weekend.

I have an 11 month old and would love to be able to take him with me, so that I'm not leaving my husband with him every time I go, or so that we don't need to find a sitter for a whole weekend when we go together.

Any advice on how to make it work?? Anyone have any experience camping with youngins?

ETA: We're in Southeast Wisconsin

Ive been told to “relax” and “chill” my entire life and it always feels bad, man. I have big feelings and big opinions and I feel like it makes people uncomfortable. And then I feel like I can’t really be myself in front of people, like I have to be a diluted, quieter version of myself.

I had someone at work tell me to “chill bro” when I was complaining about something. The interaction was small, but it just brought me back to that feeling of being too much.

How do you guys cope with being “too much”? Has anyone gotten to the point where they’re confident enough to face these situations with a “I’m not too much, this is just who I am” attitude?

I’m so tired. I hate meal planning. It’s the bane of my existence at this point. Hubby and I both work full time and have an 8 month old baby boy, and im just having such a hard time keeping up with meals and chores and work and spending time with baby…

What do you guys do for simple healthy dinners? My go-tos right now are baked salmon and veggies, rotisserie chicken and a salad kit, air fried chicken thighs and veggies, lazy shepherds pie (ground beef, spices, frozen veggies).

Help a tired mama out 🥲 I’d love to hear your ideas

Genuinely looking for answers here

Why am I so tired??

We have an 8 month old baby boy. We had a bumpy start when we was born but now he’s such an easy baby. Most notably, he sleeps through the night very consistently. Like, he goes down at 7:30, he gets a sleepy bottle at 9:30, then Hes out until 6am. So we’re a full nights rest almost every night

So why am I still so exhausted 😭 I’m so burnt out. Every day feels like a marathon and I’m just desperately trying to get to the end. And I just feel guilty bc I know there’s so many parents out here who aren’t getting sleep, and still get up every day and kick ass and get shit done, I feel like a subpar parent for still feeling so burnt out even when we have such an easy baby

I guess I’m looking for any other parents out there that are tired, no matter how much sleep they get …