u/BitterNerooooo

I just realized that love language really matters, especially for women. Even if you genuinely love someone deeply, there will still be something you emotionally long for if it’s not being expressed in the way you need.

I know we’re all just same as humans pero u know there's this different ways pa din ng men to women, and I noticed that most guys I’ve asked don’t really think deeply about love languages. Usually parang “as long as attracted ako sa girl” okay na. Is this true?

It’s not that he’s a bad person or that he made me feel unloved. He’s actually a really good man. He makes me feel loved in so many other ways, and I know there are probably a lot of factors why things became like this. Maybe it’s because we’re in an LDR. Maybe intimacy just feels difficult through a screen. Maybe some people are just wired differently when it comes to those things. So yeah, I understand. I know I don't have the best body pa as of now. I am not yet in my best potential.

I'm a conservative person. It takes a lot for me to even take provocative/wholesome photos or videos. I only do those things kapag I feel deeply loved, emotionally safe, and close to someone. Most of the time, tinatago ko lang sila and I tell myself maybe I’ll send them someday when the moment feels right. But lately, I realized I slowly lost the enthusiasm to these things for him. I want to satisfy or make him happy but I know screen isn't enough. He get more aroused watching porn and idk also in soc med?? Idc.

We still spend time together. We still call for hours and play games together and sleep call. Pero bihira na kami mag video call now, its been more than 3 weeks since the last video call talaga and lately I catch myself hiding my face more often too. I became more shy, and idk.

I used to feel confident sharing that side of me na being vulnerable, being desired, letting myself be seen despite being naturally conservative. And now I honestly don’t know anymore. I don’t know if I still have that same confidence in showing vulnerability through my body right now na.

Thou my love for him still remains, and still deep. It just that it doesn’t hurt as much anymore like before when I initiate or wanted to be desired. Parang I already accepted it quietly, and because of that, a part of me just became idk. I love him, deeply. I just accepted lang talaga na our situation and he is also pagod din sa work kaya siguro he can't appreciate that much or maybe idk.

Since I already accepted things for what they are, I’m now focusing more on improving myself and rebuilding my confidence. I’ve been consistently going to the derma and following my treatment program, and I’m also trying to take small steps in fitness kahit sobrang hirap sometimes because of PCOS. I still get breakdowns lately because losing weight feels so frustrating, but one thing I’m sure about is that I want to become more confident in myself again.

My man got blamed at work by 3 managers for a costing issue and jokingly throw funny comments, bit higher tone voice and throw papers on his table but based on the situation, it really was not fully his fault because another senior staff failed to give complete information. And this senior who didn't give these information teamed up with another manager so they won't get the blame. What worried me kasi is that instead of defending himself, he just stayed quiet because he dislikes conflict and workplace drama.

I told him that if it was truly his mistake then correction is understandable, but if people are already being petty and unprofessional, he should learn how to protect himself too and stop always being the bigger person. Now I’m worried if I sounded too harsh or unintentionally hurt his feelings. If your partner told you this, would you feel supported or criticized?

He is very professional and respectful person, he always choose to be the bigger person pero it hurts me a lot talaga when I heard that yesterday.

Genuine question for the guys here. I’m confident naman with myself and okay with how I look — morena, round face, big eyes, around 5’0–5’1, and more on the simple/boyish side most of the time pero lately medyo naging concious ako sa side comments ng bf ko on what I read here. My boyfriend calls me “cute” most of the time, especially when I’m clingy, making faces, waking up in the morning, or doing little tantrums/lambing. He still calls me pretty or hot when I dress up, wear body-hugging dresses, bold colors, or put on makeup, but overall “cute” is the compliment I hear the most.

I jokingly opened earlier what I saw a Reddit post saying that calling a girl “cute” can sometimes mean she’s just ugly but saying it in a polite way while “pretty/beautiful” is for someone a guy finds genuinely attractive, and now napa-overthink tuloy ako. But he said having soft features is better than having like Angelina Jolie features. Now I'm thinking tuloy kasi we didn't meet in an in person organic counter but we met first here in Reddit so hindi physical kaagad ang naging unang basis. Going 11 months na tomorrow.

I just need to get this off my chest and maybe hear from anyone who’s gone through the same thing.

I’ve been prescribed Diane pills for PCOS since I was 19, (now 25) but I’ve never been able to take them consistently because of how they make me feel.

Now, this year one of my list is that to complete or consistently take it. Every time I take them, I feel like I’m not myself. I get really irritable, I cry easily, and sometimes it feels like I’m losing control of my emotions. I also experience palpitations, I get tired so easily, and there are times I feel nauseous like I’m about to throw up.

It’s been really hard to complete the 21 pills and continue to the next pack. There are moments I just want to isolate myself because I don’t understand what’s happening to me. I also don’t want to open up to people around me because I’m scared they’ll think I’m just being dramatic.

Right now, I honestly feel overwhelmed… I’m even crying while typing this. Pagod na ako, super pagod. I can't even socialize or what. ANG HIRAP MAGING BABAE!!