r/MayNagChat

Posted a gym selfie and received this… might be my first and last🫠

He texted me this on the night of our university's commencement. I was waiting to board the train that would take me halfway across the country (US based kami), knowing I'd probably never see him again. Best believe I cried my eyes out for the entire train ride.

For context, both kami ni bf ay introvert na mababa ang self-confidence. Nagclick talaga kami sa isa’t isa kasi ganito na usapan namin. Hay i love you bebe ko hinding hindi kita pagpapalit kahit kanino ikaw lang rawrawrawrrr!

*almost late 20s na yan sila HAHAHAHA*

Ang hirap naman kasi makatagpo ng tamang tao. And apart from that I’m still working on myself. GAHAHAHA eme

unhinged talaga ibang guys dito, no? walang preno-preno, ask agad ng boob pics e lmao

I matched with this guy on Tinder back in May 2023. We talked for a couple of months, and eventually I asked if we could finally meet in person. He said he was "too shy," so I ended things right then and there. I wasn't interested in talking to someone for months with no intention of ever meeting, so I unfollowed him on Instagram and removed him from my following list.

About three or four months later, he started randomly liking my Instagram Stories on different occasions. I shrugged it off.

Then, in January 2025, he suddenly sent me an iMessage out of nowhere, trying to reconnect. I replied, but I kept my guard up. We were having a civil conversation until he randomly asked me to come over and check in with him in the wee hours of the morning. That instantly pissed me off.

Now, fast forward to today, and he suddenly sends me something on Spotify.

Para siyang kabute. 🍄 Bigla na lang sumusulpot kapag trip niya, then disappears again like nothing happened.

Sumahod ako nung Friday pero enough lang for my bills and grocery. Bumili din ako mga sabon (panlaba) ni mama, kind of guilty dahil yun lang nabigay ko sa kanya this sahod. Pinauwian ko rin sya ng ulam.

Never sya nag ask for more. She always ask ko may natitira pa sa akin. Kaya minsan kahit wala na, sinasabi kong meron pa para tanggapin niya perang i-aabot ko sa kanya.

Mahal kita lagi, mama. 🙌🏻

This convo was more than a month ago.

This is an example of how not to start a conversation with a stranger. Imagine bago lang kayo nag chat and he’s already trying to calculate my net worth. It makes the interaction feel deeply transactional rather than genuine.

Being an accountant means you handle corporate spreadsheets. It doesn't mean you lose the social awareness to treat a human being like a person instead of a balance sheet.

Everything happened in a blur. One moment, he was sure he’d go through lengths to make it work. A week after, he went chasing curiousity about another girl while making me wait in vain. I don’t know how to process this.

It's my sister's graduation next week. She's the second sibling among 7, who'll graduate college next to me. Also, I have been supporting her education since high school. Walang ambag nanay namin, iniwan lang kami eh. Wala din tatay.

Earlier today, she sent me this message. Di muna ako nag reply, hoping na may mauutangan ako. Pero wala talaga, that's why I declined. 3.5k lang mas-sweldo ko next week because of my absences and rent is 3.2k so wala na talagang matitira. Also, I recently just paid for her tuition fee. So wala, drained talaga including my emergency fund. I can't help her, I can't even come home to witness her milestone.

I am so proud of her for working so hard, despite being alone after her adoptive mother passed away. She basically raised herself because I wasn't there. Sana maintindihan nya na walang wala din ate nya.

take note 150 lang utang nya sakin pero di sya mapakali 😭 and i also assured her na okay lang bayaran anytime na keri na nya.

For context:

Screenshot 1: Tito ko ito na nakapag ibang bansa noon. Sobrang yumaman at sa lahat ng mga kapatid niya, si Mama ang palagi niya hindi iniinclude sa kahit na ano pag umuuwi siya Pinas. Pasalubong? Samin mapupunta lahat ng napagpilian pero ok lang. Sino ba naman kami para magreklamo? Kung pagsalitaan pa kami ay para bang may utang na loob kami sa kanya

Pero ngayon ay nasa Pinas na siya, ilan taon na din nakalipas. Walang ipon. Tinakwil ng pamilya. Walang sariling pera. Umaasa sa bigay ng mga kapatid.

Kami naman ng parents ko ay nasa ibang bansa na din lahat. This month ay uuwi ako after 4 years simula umalis ako. Alam nila na uuwi ako pero hindi ko sinabi kung kailan at kinukulit nila ako palagi. Wala naman dahilan bakit di ko sinasabi at wala din naman ako maisip na dahilan para malaman nila.

Itong chat ni Tito, isang halimbawa na sumasalamin sa kung paano siya mag isip noon. Nakakabwisit diba?

Screenshot 2: Dahil unang uwi ko sa Pinas, nagplano ako ng swimming at bayad ko lahat. Nacommunicate ko lahat sa groupchat. Gumawa pa ako ng poll at sinigurado ko lahat ng nasa groupchat ay makakasama. Sumasagot din naman siya sa chat nung mga oras na nagpaplano at book ako. 3 weeks na nakalipas, nag chat si Tita. Wala man lang hi/hello o good afternoon/morning. Straight to the point. Na para bang inutusan niya lang ako at para bang hindi provided lahat ng details sa groupchat.

Nakakainis lang sobra dahil may kamaganak akong ganito. Kung apihin at hindi kami pansinin noon, siya naman pagsisipag chat ngayon.

Bwisit po kayo 🙂‍↔️

Hi, I’m [23F]. Nakilala ko si guy [27M] online and we’ve decided to meet. A few days after, umamin na type raw ako at gusto akong ligawan. One night (walang isang linggo matapos magsabi na gusto akong i-pursue), nag-uusap kami and we’re sharing some fun facts about ourselves and he decided to share this weird scenario na he can’t forget daw, lol! I really admired his courage to speak in the absence of knowledge. Walang kalaman-laman si kuya 🥱

Makakalbo na ako sa bumble I think this is the last straw HAHAHAHA

PART 1

https://www.reddit.com/r/MayNagChat/s/SDALiZhpc5

PART 2

After he apologized, sinabi niya na kinukwento niya pala ako sa friends niya. Ang conclusion nila?

“Baka ine-entertain ka lang niya kasi bored siya.”

…Sir???

Imagine calling someone “bored” when they’re literally sacrificing sleep and free time just to make time for you. 💀

I was living abroad. Working long hours. Still made time to chat and VC with you almost every day.

Yung mga delayed replies ko? Kasi I was with my best friends na almost 7 years kong hindi nakita!

At eto pa..
You were confident enough to send me selfies???? insecure huh?