u/ParticularPrimary364

I’m a full-time college instructor earning around ₱15k/month. Aside from teaching, I was given an additional role that involves coordination, monitoring, coaching, onboarding, and other responsibilities that feel more managerial than entry-level.

Because of this additional role, my teaching load was reduced, but my salary remained the same. I’m grateful for the opportunity and the experience, but lately I’ve been questioning whether the trade-off is worth it. I’m also currently taking my master’s degree, and our capstone season is coming up, so I’m already feeling burned out. I’m considering stepping down from the additional role and focusing on teaching and finishing my master’s.

For those working in PH: Is it reasonable to feel that the compensation doesn’t match the level of responsibility? Would you step down in this situation, or stay for the experience and career growth?

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam kung ano ang dapat kong gawin. Kaninang umaga, nahuli ko mismo ang uncle ko na binoboso ako habang nasa kwarto ako. Pagbukas ko ng kurtina sa sliding window, nakita ko siyang nakatayo sa labas at unti-unti niyang binubuksan ang sliding window namin. Nabigla ako at pakiramdam ko hindi iyon aksidente.

Context: Nakatira kami sa iisang bahay. Pagkatapos ng nangyari, sinabi ko agad sa nanay ko. Ang naging sagot niya lang ay protektahan ko raw ang sarili ko at ayusin ang pananamit ko. Nasaktan ako sa naging reaksyon niya dahil pakiramdam ko ako pa ang sinisisi kaysa harapin ang ginawa ng uncle ko. Ngayon, hindi na ako komportable sa sarili kong bahay at natatakot akong maulit ito.

Previous Attempt: Sinabi ko agad sa nanay ko ang nangyari. Wala namang naging aksyon laban sa uncle ko. Ang payo lang sa akin ay mag-ingat at ayusin ang pananamit ko.

May kaso ba ito sa Pilipinas kahit hindi niya ako nahawakan? Ano ang pinakamagandang gawin para maprotektahan ko ang sarili ko at magkaroon ng ebidensya kung sakaling maulit? Salamat sa sasagot.

Problem/Goal: I'm feeling really anxious about the possibility of getting pregnant even though we used protection.

Context: My partner and I had sex 5 rounds, and we used a condom every single time. He also pulled out before ejaculating each time. We checked the condom afterward, and it didn't break or slip off. According to my Flo app, the day we had sex was considered a "low chance of getting pregnant." Even with all of that, I can't stop overthinking. I've been reading stories online, and it's making my anxiety worse. I keep thinking, "What if something still went wrong without us noticing?"

Previous Attempt: I already checked my Flo app and read articles saying the risk is very low when condoms are used correctly and don't break. I also asked for advice, and I was told the chance of pregnancy is very low based on what happened. Despite that, I'm still feeling anxious and looking for reassurance or advice from people who've experienced something similar.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you deal with the anxiety while waiting for your period? Any advice would really help. 🥹

Like,

does physical appearance matters when it comes to dating?

Problem/Goal:

I want to know if my concerns are valid regarding my boyfriend's past relationship and whether I'm overthinking the age gap.

Context:

My boyfriend recently told me that when he was 17, he was in a relationship with a 26-year-old woman. They were together romantically and also did some sexual acts. The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I feel about the age difference. A 17-year-old and a 26-year-old seem to be in very different stages of life.

Previous Attempt:

I tried talking to him because I feel like concerning siya, he also said na parang tinake advantage siya that time ng ex niya.

Problem/Goal: I’m feeling frustrated and undervalued in my current role. I want to know if my feelings are valid and whether I should continue pushing to step down from my coordinatorship or negotiate for better compensation.

Context: I am a full-time college instructor earning ₱16,000 per month. Aside from my teaching load, I was given a coordinatorship position, which is why my teaching units were deloaded. However, the coordinatorship comes with a lot of responsibilities. I observe teachers, coach and mentor them, onboard new hires, conduct trainings, and oversee operations for one of our campuses. In many ways, I feel like I’m doing managerial and leadership work on top of my academic responsibilities. To make things more challenging, I am currently pursuing my master’s degree as well. What frustrates me is that despite the additional responsibilities, my salary has remained exactly the same. Meanwhile, some of my colleagues who have fewer responsibilities are earning more than I do. It’s hard not to compare when I feel like I’m carrying a much heavier workload.

Previous Attempt: I already spoke to my supervisor and told them that I wanted to step down from the coordinatorship because the workload is becoming too much, especially with my master’s studies. However, my supervisor asked me not to step down yet and basically encouraged me to stay in the role. At this point, I’m feeling stuck. I care about my work and the people I support, but I’m starting to feel resentful because the compensation doesn’t seem to match the responsibilities.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way? What would you do in my situation? Should I keep pushing to step down, ask for a salary adjustment, or start looking elsewhere?

is this genuine or nah?