u/ParticularPrimary364

Hi to all gurlies out there, how can you say na pogi talaga yung guy? Like ano basis ninyo, im talking about the physical appearance.

I had it with my partner and he is very gentle. Kapag alam niyang nasasaktan ako, tumitigil siya. I just appreciate him.

I had a convo with my bf, I asked about his past rs and idk why nahurt ako nung nagask pa ako. Then I asked him why di siya nagtatanong or iniiwasan niya magask sa akin dahil daw mahhurt din siya kahit past na ‘yon.

Now ko lang narealize na, sobrang bilis ko ba talaga bumigay? Anyway, 2 months na rin kaming magjowa. LDR kami and we do it every magkikita kami.

I’m a full-time college instructor earning around ₱15k/month. Aside from teaching, I was given an additional role that involves coordination, monitoring, coaching, onboarding, and other responsibilities that feel more managerial than entry-level.

Because of this additional role, my teaching load was reduced, but my salary remained the same. I’m grateful for the opportunity and the experience, but lately I’ve been questioning whether the trade-off is worth it. I’m also currently taking my master’s degree, and our capstone season is coming up, so I’m already feeling burned out. I’m considering stepping down from the additional role and focusing on teaching and finishing my master’s.

For those working in PH: Is it reasonable to feel that the compensation doesn’t match the level of responsibility? Would you step down in this situation, or stay for the experience and career growth?

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam kung ano ang dapat kong gawin. Kaninang umaga, nahuli ko mismo ang uncle ko na binoboso ako habang nasa kwarto ako. Pagbukas ko ng kurtina sa sliding window, nakita ko siyang nakatayo sa labas at unti-unti niyang binubuksan ang sliding window namin. Nabigla ako at pakiramdam ko hindi iyon aksidente.

Context: Nakatira kami sa iisang bahay. Pagkatapos ng nangyari, sinabi ko agad sa nanay ko. Ang naging sagot niya lang ay protektahan ko raw ang sarili ko at ayusin ang pananamit ko. Nasaktan ako sa naging reaksyon niya dahil pakiramdam ko ako pa ang sinisisi kaysa harapin ang ginawa ng uncle ko. Ngayon, hindi na ako komportable sa sarili kong bahay at natatakot akong maulit ito.

Previous Attempt: Sinabi ko agad sa nanay ko ang nangyari. Wala namang naging aksyon laban sa uncle ko. Ang payo lang sa akin ay mag-ingat at ayusin ang pananamit ko.

May kaso ba ito sa Pilipinas kahit hindi niya ako nahawakan? Ano ang pinakamagandang gawin para maprotektahan ko ang sarili ko at magkaroon ng ebidensya kung sakaling maulit? Salamat sa sasagot.

Problem/Goal: I'm feeling really anxious about the possibility of getting pregnant even though we used protection.

Context: My partner and I had sex 5 rounds, and we used a condom every single time. He also pulled out before ejaculating each time. We checked the condom afterward, and it didn't break or slip off. According to my Flo app, the day we had sex was considered a "low chance of getting pregnant." Even with all of that, I can't stop overthinking. I've been reading stories online, and it's making my anxiety worse. I keep thinking, "What if something still went wrong without us noticing?"

Previous Attempt: I already checked my Flo app and read articles saying the risk is very low when condoms are used correctly and don't break. I also asked for advice, and I was told the chance of pregnancy is very low based on what happened. Despite that, I'm still feeling anxious and looking for reassurance or advice from people who've experienced something similar.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you deal with the anxiety while waiting for your period? Any advice would really help. 🥹

Like,

does physical appearance matters when it comes to dating?