u/ParticularPrimary364

does physical appearance matters when it comes to dating?

Problem/Goal:

I want to know if my concerns are valid regarding my boyfriend's past relationship and whether I'm overthinking the age gap.

Context:

My boyfriend recently told me that when he was 17, he was in a relationship with a 26-year-old woman. They were together romantically and also did some sexual acts. The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I feel about the age difference. A 17-year-old and a 26-year-old seem to be in very different stages of life.

Previous Attempt:

I tried talking to him because I feel like concerning siya, he also said na parang tinake advantage siya that time ng ex niya.

Problem/Goal: I’m feeling frustrated and undervalued in my current role. I want to know if my feelings are valid and whether I should continue pushing to step down from my coordinatorship or negotiate for better compensation.

Context: I am a full-time college instructor earning ₱16,000 per month. Aside from my teaching load, I was given a coordinatorship position, which is why my teaching units were deloaded. However, the coordinatorship comes with a lot of responsibilities. I observe teachers, coach and mentor them, onboard new hires, conduct trainings, and oversee operations for one of our campuses. In many ways, I feel like I’m doing managerial and leadership work on top of my academic responsibilities. To make things more challenging, I am currently pursuing my master’s degree as well. What frustrates me is that despite the additional responsibilities, my salary has remained exactly the same. Meanwhile, some of my colleagues who have fewer responsibilities are earning more than I do. It’s hard not to compare when I feel like I’m carrying a much heavier workload.

Previous Attempt: I already spoke to my supervisor and told them that I wanted to step down from the coordinatorship because the workload is becoming too much, especially with my master’s studies. However, my supervisor asked me not to step down yet and basically encouraged me to stay in the role. At this point, I’m feeling stuck. I care about my work and the people I support, but I’m starting to feel resentful because the compensation doesn’t seem to match the responsibilities.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way? What would you do in my situation? Should I keep pushing to step down, ask for a salary adjustment, or start looking elsewhere?

is this genuine or nah?

Naappreciate pa rin kaya ang handwritten letter as a gift nowadays?

My ex told me na mas nappreciate niya ako physically nung wala na kami, he said na maganda at sexy daw ako.

Problem/Goal: I’m F24 working as a college instructor and helping support my family. My BF (M23) and I have been living together for 4 years under my mom’s roof, and he’s currently a 2nd year college student. Since summer break ngayon, I was hoping he could get a part-time job para makatulong man lang sa bahay, pero most of the time mobile games lang siya and hindi rin niya maasikaso valid IDs or job applications. Hindi naman siya tamad, pero parang kulang sa initiative and napapagod na rin ako kasi ako halos sumasalo sa responsibilities. Context: Live-in kami and dito siya nakatira with my family while I work full-time and help with our expenses. Student pa rin siya kaya naging understanding naman ako, pero I expected kahit konting effort to help financially ngayong bakasyon. Attempts: I already opened this up to him several times and encouraged him to process valid IDs and apply for part-time jobs, pero hanggang ngayon wala pa ring action and mas focused pa rin siya sa mobile games.

Been talking to this guy and ayoko mag assume if gusto ba niya ako or hindi.

Problem/Goal: Nawawalan ako ng interest sa ka-talking stage ko kasi parang ang bilis niya mag-commit at sobrang attached na agad, kahit di pa kami ganun kakilala.

Context: May ka-talking stage ako ngayon na sinasabi na gusto na raw niya mag-commit sa akin kahit hindi pa kami masyado nagkakaintindihan sa deeper level. Araw-araw sobrang dami niyang messages, tipong parang kailangan ko mag-update palagi kahit wala pa naman kaming label. Sa una okay lang, pero habang tumatagal, napepressure ako at nawawalan ng gana kausap siya.

Attempts: Sinubukan ko mag-reply nang mas chill at hindi sabay-sabay, pero ganun pa rin siya ka-intense. Hindi ko pa siya directly nasasabihan na nao-overwhelm na ako.

Any advice kung paano i-handle ‘to? At kung paano sabihin na ayaw ko na?

Bakit nawawala yung interest kapag ramdam mo na sobrang attached or in love na siya sayo?