u/Living-Still8172

My girl friend was on her way home from the library in LIC. And she got approached by a random guy, told her she was beautiful and saw her around the area even from before a few times. Is this something she should worry about? She’s not from here originally.

Nasabihan akong bida bida sa trabaho kasi ginagawa ko trabaho ko. Nasabihan akong tamad nung hindi ko na masiyado sinisipagan. So ano ba talaga?

Problem/Goal: Am I overly sensitive or is this work place bullying?

Context: I’ve been working in a clinic sa US. And was caught in an issue with my long term ex. We broke up and I dated another guy fast so I looked like a cheater kahit hindi naman talaga. Hindi ko alam na magkakilala pala yong dalawang lalaki (my ex and the guy I dated immediately). Fast forward while I was dating the new guy I had just started in my new work where in we are a mixture of ibang lahi and pinoy. During my first day, mga coworkers ko kahit ibang lahi pinaparinggan ako that I was a cheater even our supervisor na pinay. I told them upfront na may pagkaintrovert ako and I really am just a quiet person. This pinay supervisor made fun of me and would insult me along with other pinoys pati TCL tv ko nilalait at ginagawang joke kasi ano daw ba yong tcl mura lang daw na brand at di kilala. She would also embarass me in front of the whole team and patients. I never retaliated. I tried to be friendly naman, nagdadala ng food, and help out sa ibang kawork ko with the workload but some of them took it as pa-maincharacter energy ako at pa-bida where in I know na hindi yon ang intention ko nahirapan lang ako magreach out for help cause they made me feel super uncomfy even on my first day so I did my best to work independently. Despite their bullying, I never reported them to HR nor our clinic manager. My profession here and the community where I live is quite small so chismis spreads fast so I know the consequences of my mistakes. I was diagnosed with anxiety and I tend to overthink a lot so nanotice yon ng mga kawork ko na pinoy to which they used it as a weapon para asar asarin ako at ipa-overthink ako. There came a time where in they would literally sabotage my work but good thing I always double check kaya di natutuloy. May kawork din ako na may edad na sinabihan ako na gusto kitang makita na walang damit sa halloween. That was the last straw and I told him, Kuya hindi ko nagustuhan ang biro mo. Dagdag ko din yong paulit ulit nila na sinasabi na RBF daw ako at laging nakasimangot well for me alangan naman ngumiti ako na para akong baliw for no reason

Previous attempts: My coworkers reached out but in a sarcastic manner na alam mong hindi sincere even on my bday, they tried to invite me but since then nong time na una nila ako binully I can never forget it. Till this day patients would berrate me and bully me tell “get the fuck outta here” also even my coworkers na anak ng supervisor would bully me give me a fuck you sign also my other coworker din na pinoy ganon din. They are compromised of bisaya na pinoy and I’m the only tagalog. Also, pinaparinggan din nila ako na masiyado daw akong mataas and during my first week they saw me as intimidating. Never ko nagets why they made that remark. Maybe because I help out so I toned down helping out and worked in silence instead. Now my mom lost her patience with them so minessage niya yong kawork ko also my supervsior asking them ano ba nagawa ko para mabully ng ganito.

Ayoko magresign because I love my work and what I do. Also mahirap din mawalan ng trabaho sa dami ng bills

Context: I’ve been working in a clinic sa US. And was caught in an issue with my long term ex. We broke up and I dated another guy fast so I looked like a cheater kahit hindi naman talaga. Hindi ko alam na magkakilala pala yong dalawang lalaki (my ex and the guy I dated immediately). Fast forward while I was dating the new guy I had just started in my new work where in we are a mixture of ibang lahi and pinoy. During my first day, mga coworkers ko kahit ibang lahi pinaparinggan ako that I was a cheater even our supervisor na pinay. I never talked back cause I know consequences ito ng pagkakamali ko. I told them upfront na may pagkaintrovert ako and I really am just a quiet person. This pinay supervisor made fun of me and would insult me along with other pinoys pati TCL tv ko nilalait at ginagawang joke kasi ano daw ba yong tcl mura lang daw na brand at di kilala. She would also embarass me in front of the whole team and patients. I never retaliated. I tried to be friendly naman, nagdadala ng food, and help out sa ibang kawork ko with the workload but some of them took it as pa-maincharacter energy ako at pa-bida where in I know na hindi yon ang intention ko nahirapan lang ako magreach out for help cause they made me feel super uncomfy even on my first day so I did my best to work independently. Despite their bullying, I never reported them to HR nor our clinic manager. My profession here and the community where I live is quite small so chismis spreads fast so I know my consequences of my mistakes. I was diagnosed with anxiety and I tend to overthink a lot so nanotice yon ng mga kawork ko na pinoy to which they used it as a weapon para asar asarin ako at ipa-overthink ako. There came a time where in they would literally sabotage my work but good thing I always double check kaya di natutuloy. May kawork din ako na may edad na sinabihan ako na gusto kitang makita na walang damit sa halloween. That was the last straw and I told him, Kuya hindi ko nagustuhan ang biro mo. Dagdag ko din yong paulit ulit nila na sinasabi na RBF daw ako at laging nakasimangot well for me alangan naman ngumiti ako na para akong baliw for no reason.

My coworkers reached out but in a sarcastic manner na alam mong hindi sincere even on my bday, they tried to invite me but since then nong time na una nila ako binully I can never forget it. Till this day patients would berrate me and bully me telling me “get the fuck outta here” also even my coworkers na anak ng supervisor would bully me give me a fuck you sign also my other coworker din na pinoy ganon din. They are compromised of bisaya and I’m the only tagalog. Also, pinaparinggan din nila ako na masiyado daw akong mataas and during my first week they saw me as intimidating. Never ko nagets why they made that remark. Maybe because I help out and work so independently? So I toned down helping out and worked in silence instead. But may nasabi pa din sila despite that. Hirap lumugar sa mga pinoy na ito. Now my mom lost her patience with them so minessage niya yong kawork ko also my supervsior asking them ano ba nagawa ko para mabully ng ganito.

Ayoko magresign because I love my work and what I do. Also mahirap din mawalan ng trabaho sa dami ng bills.

Problem/Goal: how to stop attracting men who are just being flirty without good intentions?

Context: i have this girly friend, single and medyo masungit aura niya but the masungit aura sinasadya niya yon. Para hindi siya lapitan ng mga manyak. Tanggap naman niya na single na siya for life because of her past relationships na panay cheaters at mapang abuso. Pero problema tuwing lalabas siya she would always get advances from men who are flirty and would instantly strike up a conversation to her and joke around. Dahil sa mga past experiences niya she knows right off the bat that these men have no good intentions

Previous attempts: 8mos na siyang single, wala siyang dinate. May naka-talking stage lang but tinapos din niya. She’s undergoing therapy. Btw, maayos naman siya manamit and she’s not friendly kasi may pagka-introvert din

I have this girl na friend na sinasabihan siya na nakaka-intimidate daw siya.. she’s trying her best to smile more and tinatry din niya maging friendly, may pagka-introvert din siya. May solusyon po ba dito?