u/Bitter_Compote_602

Not sure what I’m even looking for here, maybe just a space I can share my thoughts without judgement.

No longer working NHS as they refused as any help due to POI diagnosis. No ovary stimulation, IVF etc. We have sought private help, and tried some meds and although I didn’t expect miracles today, I went for a cycle day 12 transvaginal ultrasound to see if there was any activity.

First of all she REALLY struggled to find my left ovary, when she did eventually, she said it’s half the size it should be and no activity.
Fluid sac could be seen but she obviously couldn’t say what that was
Uterus lining 4mm
Right ovary found with 1 follicle around 17mm

I keep telling myself I need to try everything before accepting I will biological never have my own children but days like today, I really question if I’m strong enough

Sending hugs to all those going through this awful journey xxxx

Hey all
For context, UK based, NHS refuse to help so seeking private help. 34F and husband is 36. Been trying for 3 years. Had private testing in March 2025, and they believe I have POI. Prior to this I was having periods every month and strangely, from February 2025, my periods decided to start disappearing. I know have a period roughly every 3 months if that. AMH is very low and FSH is very high. We’ve finally found a consultant who has worked with POI patients, and although we know chances are very slim we would like to at least try IVF with my own eggs (not getting my hopes up at all). We have a consultation with him Monday, travelling 5 hours as it’s not near us.
I have my test results from the last year and my husbands SA results. I’m beyond overwhelmed, scared and nervous.

Is there anything you guys would recommend asking or reiterating in the consultation? I always prep for these things but ALWAYS leave and later think of things.

Sending lots of love in these tough times xx

Hi all 😊

Visiting Napoli in the summer for the weekend with my husband. I’m 34 and he’s 36. We enjoy a few drinks and the odd late night dancing.

If we are staying central, can you recommend any nearby/short taxi rides to good bars for dancing? We like a bit of pop, commercial music, R&B, dance

Tried using chatGPT but it’s thrown up some odd responses.

Thanks in advance.

Hi all ♥️

I have tried just searching for answers but as you can imagine a LOT of results come back with different information for different situations.

34F, living in wales with POI/DOR diagnosis. We have been trying for 3 years and whilst we have been told our IVF chances are very low we would still like to give it a shot with my own eggs.

We are happy to travel, just wanted to reach out to those in same situation as me for any recommendations?

Appreciate everyone’s experience is different, just feeling overwhelmed.

Sending lots of love xxx

Just want to start of my saying I do love and adore my in-laws and I don’t think there is deliberate malice behind this but in a world where this diagnosis can feel very lonely and it’s hard to talk to my husband, I feel the need to vent somewhere just to say out loud. I’m close with my in laws and my husband and I don’t hide our struggles. They’ve know we are struggling daily (3 years in) and that baby showers are a trigger for me.

My sister-in-law never knew if she wanted children then after hearing our news, decided actually she may do and as it can take time and be difficult she came off the pill. First month actively trying, she conceived and it’s twins. Boy and girl. Regardless of our rubbish situation I would never let that taint my sister-in-law’s beautiful news. I’ve shown happiness, asked questions and made it perfectly clear this is her time to have her happy baby bubble.

Today, I get added to a WhatsApp group by my mother-in-law. It’s just me, her and my other sister-in-law in. She typed up a big messages asking us to basically organise a 40-50 person baby shower for my pregnant sister-in-law.

It’s really really hurt me. I’m happy for my pregnant sister-in-law and regardless of my difficulties I would have gone to the baby shower but to ask me to organise it?

I feel my mother-in-law could have decided to plan it herself and fair enough ask me for some sort of help or carried out the same actions but send me a separate message to maybe say “it’s ok if you don’t want to, I just want you to feel included”. Just the expectation when she is fully aware of what I’m going through has beyond hurt me

My husband felt the frustrations for me but then also said as I’ve been selfless and shown happiness, it was provably his mother trying to include me. I struggle with this as I felt it could have been handled very differently whilst still including me. They are also far from stupid and I feel it’s an obvious situation to read. I can be happy for my sister-in-law without that equaling to me wanting to organise a huge bag shower? The two things don’t go hand in hand.

Thank you if you got this far xxx