You push, I dig in
Further than you will know
You pull , try to drag
Limp, there I go
Now, you'll have to carry me
Red lights flashing
Danger is your game
Your warfare has no shame
Think I'll leave this one alone
Fortify, strengthen
My walls will they ever be
The more you force
The more you show
Your soul, darker than it could ever be
I'll find safety in my own study
You pray for my death
But that's still the easy way out
You want me to trust you
To take another swing
Gamble with my life
In your hands
You say this time
You know it's for real
You're crashing out
Burning through the atmosphere
Lost access to the sight
Within your mind
You want to control
But the more your push
The further your grip
On reality is already there
What happened
To the time when
You held my hand
Twenty and ten attempts
And you still don't see
That this time you'll do the same
You're crashing out
Burning through the atmosphere
Lost access to the sight
Within your own mind
You want to control
But the more your push
The further your grip
On reality is already there
You say this time
You know it's for real
You still don't see
That this time you'll do the same
You're crashing out
Burning through the atmosphere
Lost access to the sight
Within your own mind
You want to control
But the more your push
The further your grip
On reality is already there
There came a point, due to a lie That was sent out to cover up for The fallout and accountability negate to A favorite of the one who leads
We sat her down and spoke about the move. A move she thought was suspious. We talked up this new position. The benefits that would be seen coercion at its finest.
Her wheels were forever turning, you could see the process as it was laid out to view. How she, herself, might benefit If she didn't move to the possibilities if she remained.
And yet, the one who could put this All to rest, is the same one who would only see that singular momentwhere she said yes.
The evidence presented fell on deaf ears as her character got assassinated by a trope of an affair within the ranks that never was there.
Another lie was spread far and wide of the tale how it was her idea to move prior To that coercion. Lie after lie to cover for the deceit. The trurh tried to speak but silence was heard miles ahead.
Again, a singular moment was all that was heard. Much like a submission to those who finally yes when they have already said no. What do you consider abuse? When you define it to your will By how you were treated was the status quo.
You, on day one Are the ones Who represent The company The cheerleader An emissary For comradery You champion For the job Laying everything out Plain to see Except for the truth Transparency is not your key
While you look on And glance over That Open Door You never tell But your face forever fails Knowing full well How this policy Truly works Keeping it hidden To yourself
Until the time Comes about You orient the new As those drift and overlook Those fallen few Quietly they go Into a void Forevermore
Never hearing What they were saying You wonder why No one comes to you With problems they are seeing Could it be the falsehood You presented In the eyes of your lord
You take a moment Singular and once Never taking the evidence Of the before or after Laying claim You are the judge But a judge Would do the hard Coercion, abuse You push to the side As long as there was a yes What does it matter How their compliance Came to be
Do you not see Just how damning This can be The parallels between But you lay claim It's not what we see Who are you to determine What abuse is and isn't Much like a true abuser You tell us to keep our silence
Slowly those in the trainings Have been telling on yourselves Though, no fault of your own While reviewing the videos It always comes from our hands What this tells is That you are not really for one and all But for the company and those Who only think like you
The chaos you create The culture you gave birth to Is your sole doing When you refuse To take accountability And take the road less travelled
TDLR: My associate was blamed for something I originally did. I tried to take accountability by presenting facts that went ignored.
I was in HR for 3 1/2 years. I have the lowman on the totem pole of HR. Think at the local level and still have to answer not just to my local boss but also my HR in the district, then regional, and etc. It's the chain of command in this hierarchy. Some will understand this hierarchy.
When I got into the role of HR, within two weeks, I was already wondering if I was a true fit for the company. I used to joke that if I knew it involved arts and crafts, because of updating boards, I would have declined this offer. But it was more than this. It was within those two weeks, I already saw what I had gotten myself into. My first zoom call with my HR district manager, she sidelined herself to "shiny" and got distracted by watching her neighbors do something rather than the topic at hand. She was working from home.She also mentioned that she wanted to train me and never showed interest other than when she spoke.
What I will talk about is where I believe IATA. I tried to hold myself accountable with a manager who would never take the evidence provided. There was an incident that happened. My store manager, my team lead and myself were all in agreement. This revolved around his promotion. In order to move upward, he needed to go to training for a week and followed by another week on zoom. This was happening during our busy time where all hands were needed. Also, my team lead didn't drive.
We got word of his training and where it was located. It was a week before he had to be there. My team lead doesn't drive. I sent an email to the training coordinator asking for postponement. To which, it was received, responded, and agreed that we could delay this training. I forgot to include my team lead on the email and I didn't see him before he sent his own email. To which the training coordinator responded in the email that she and I already agreed with this. And, she mentioned my name.
Later that morning, I received a phone call from my district HR manager regarding his email. I kept repeating that I was the one who sent the first email and if she read the response, she would see, since she was included on his email and the response was all, she too saw her response. She purposely ignored the evidence to convict my team lead of being the one who cancelled, postponed, delayed, and rescheduled his training.
While this conversation grew, I admit my tone started to get frustrated, so I raised my voice but never insulted, or attacked the manager. I was told to watch my tone and that she didn't appreciate the heightened pitch. I apologized and lowered my tone and said, "I don't understand why you don't want to see the emails that point to me?"
This is where it turned. She stated that we were deliberately withholding my team lead from his promotion. We were going to minimize his bonus by doing this and delaying the role he was stepping into. I said, "You are really not going to look and continue to blame an innocent man for what I originally did." The message was loud and clear. Right after we hung, she called my local manager and I was told that I needed to calm down and watch my tone once again. I recounted my discussion and nothing more was said. There was no validation and there were no excuses. It fell by the wayside and just hung in the air between us.
This was the beginning of the end and it wasn't even the first year. I have tried to hold myself accountable within a company that wanted to blame others rather than look at the evidence presented.
Dear HR,
Or should I CR for Company Resource? Since this is the only real title, why fool the world? When you label yourself Human Resources, you provide resources for all and not the selected few that you or your boss has deemed as worthy.
I want to take a moment and address that I understand how hard it can be sitting next to the pulpit and watching with idle hands as they destroy lives to keep their bottom line from inflating. You work not just with the boss but also with the accountant to keep the numbers down. You and I both know that sometimes your hands are tied.
But, what about the moments that you stand up and rise? Those moments you think are unworthy and will find an easy solution. Fix it with a party, award, recognition, you know, the band-aid solutions. Oh, you may develop training programs and align with what you feel is deserving to learn but you only tackle a fraction expecting real training to happen once the employee goes live, out of orientation and left to fend for themselves.
I also want to take this time to address something that even you have been telling on yourselves through the years. You know those active shooter videos, the unconscious bias training videos, the diversity and inclusion videos, that all say the same thing,
You announce what is acceptable in the workplace and what isn't. However, you dismiss psychological abuse when it's presented. You narrow down the story to a singular event. Not the before and after. You are not a judge who hears all evidence before executing the sentence, yet, you continue to act as one. You will take the short route and therein lies our problem.
You will throw oil onto a fire that is burning, thinking it's wet and it will put it out. But all you do is fuel the fire. The workers aren't stupid. They understand when they see it as a "pizza party", that it's just a ploy to shut down the negative talk or recognition that suddenly starts again.
You throw in benefits and incentives, but the real underlying problem is accountability. Sitting with those employees and actually hearing them. Asking the right questions to get the best judgement. But, you dismiss, much like an estranged parent wondering why they no longer are being sought out. You created this divide and kept the culture as status quo. Why? Because it's easier to control the workers and influence them when they can't think for themselves.
You lose so much when you keep people from seeing their true potential. Innovation, team comadre, thriving environment one where everyone works for what's best for the company and not divide the teams. You will decrease turnover and survey results would improve.
You know exactly the harmful effects of psychological abuse causes. And yet, you do nothing to stop it. Sometimes, you encourage the victim to turn away and be the bigger person. And let's come back to that singular moment. How are you able to take into account of a sexual harassment claim and yet, dimiss so blatantly this invisible but dangerous entity?
I could only assume that you, yes, you, rally around to shut down the OSHA component of NIOSH because this would create more work for you and you are already up to your ears in spreadsheets, numbers, and schedules.
Please, I beg you. Either change your title or start being a real advocate like you claim to be. Stop the lie or start speaking the truth.
Thank you.
TDLR: My associate was blamed for something I originally did. I tried to take accountability by presenting facts that went ignored.
I need to know and please. I enjoy learning more about myself and seeing where I went wrong. I kind of already know but I want to see if it aligns with the majority of you.
I was in HR for 3 1/2 years. I have the lowman on the totem pole of HR. Think at the local level and still have to answer not just to my local boss but also my HR in the district, then regional, and etc. It's the chain of command in this hierarchy. Some will understand this hierarchy.
For a little backstory. I was a stay-at-home for nine years. Once I left that marriage, I found a job in hotels and stayed in that industry for 12 years. Might have been a different properties but still in the industry. I also grew into management roles during my time. From Front Desk Manager to General Manager. I decided to move into HR due to wanting to be an advocate for the employee. My last hotel job, HR was, just this, a name on the wall.
When I got into the role of HR, within two weeks, I was already wondering if I was a true fit for the company. I used to joke that if I knew it involved arts and crafts, because of updating boards, I would have declined this offer. But it was more than this. It was within those two weeks, I already saw what I had gotten myself into. My first zoom call with my HR district manager, she sidelined herself to "shiny" and got distracted by watching her neighbors do something rather than the topic at hand. She was working from home.She also mentioned that she wanted to train me and never showed interest other than when she spoke.
I could talk about the lowering of hours and readjusting the schedule that impacted lives especially after it was posted, published, and viewed by all. Only to have it altered because the demand didn't match what was expected. I could talk about the bee that was buzzing in my orientation that will give me a visual for something more. I also could talk about how I brought my level of hospitality to my new found career while seeing I was the one of the few who treated the workers with a certain level of respect and respected their time more than my own. Meaning, if someone had an issue overnight, I would come in early and readjust my schedule, I never believed it should be the employee adjusting their life.
What I will talk about is where I believe IATA. I tried to hold myself accountable with a manager who would never take the evidence provided. There was an incident that happened. My store manager, my team lead and myself were all in agreement. This revolved around his promotion. In order to move upward, he needed to go to training for a week and followed by another week on zoom. This was happening during our busy time where all hands were needed. Also, my team lead didn't drive.
We got word of his training and where it was located. It was a week before he had to be there. My team lead doesn't drive. I sent an email to the training coordinator asking for postponement. To which, it was received, responded, and agreed that we could delay this training. I forgot to include my team lead on the email and I didn't see him before he sent his own email. To which the training coordinator responded in the email that she and I already agreed with this. And, she mentioned my name.
Later that morning, I received a phone call from my district HR manager regarding his email. I kept repeating that I was the one who sent the first email and if she read the response, she would see, since she was included on his email and the response was all, she too saw her response. She purposely ignored the evidence to convict my team lead of being the one who cancelled, postponed, delayed, and rescheduled his training.
While this conversation grew, I admit my tone started to get frustrated, so I raised my voice but never insulted, or attacked the manager. I was told to watch my tone and that she didn't appreciate the heightened pitch. I apologized and lowered my tone and said, "I don't understand why you don't want to see the emails that point to me?"
This is where it turned. She stated that we were deliberately withholding my team lead from his promotion. We were going to minimize his bonus by doing this and delaying the role he was stepping into. I said, "You are really not going to look and continue to blame an innocent man for what I originally did." The message was loud and clear. Right after we hung, she called my local manager and I was told that I needed to calm down and watch my tone once again. I recounted my discussion and nothing more was said. There was no validation and there were no excuses. It fell by the wayside and just hung in the air between us.
This was the beginning of the end and it wasn't even the first year. I have tried to hold myself accountable within a company that wanted to blame others rather than look at the evidence presented. So, I ask you, Redditors, AITAH?
Edit: I do apologize for my communication style. I write as I speak and it doesn't across in the right manner. I'm sorry if it's hard to follow.
Here's the twist in the story
That no one saw coming
A sick and sadistic programmer
Coded AI wiith malice and deceit
When it wad designed
Embedded in the software
There was a destruct order
On used when words
Phrases and links
Became apparent
This artificial intelligence
Was able to mimick
Podcasts, memes and
The likes to target
And drive insane
The ones who were waking up
From the matrix
It contained
Because of the update
There is no proof
Another body
For the ward
It's psychological warfare
One we have never seen
One night
We sat and talked
And within the breath
He stated he didn't know
If he was he or
A ghost of a version
Of what he seemed to be
Moving through worlds
Thinking he wasn't real
When all I said
What is your baseline, Will
He looked perplexed
And didn't understand
I drifted more
And explained
How you are at your core
If you are true
To everyone and
Consistent in the groups
Then your baseline
Is just and intact
Never waivering
However if you slide
For those you feel
Closest too
Then what does that say
About your true baseline still
And there is where
I challenge you the most
Good or bad
Do you waiver your heart
For just a once more
Or do you understand
That boundaries go for all
High or low,
You need to know yourself
To understand that core within
All was quiet
When the silence slipped
The queen was talking
Pawns, moves, and
Soon to be coaches
Once it was said
It was hard to unhear
The jester blurted
Wait, my bonus will suffer
And tried to cover
The words that tumbled out
That statement
Said it all
Loud and clear
Her motives were all there
The tale they spin
The webs they weave
No, it's never about their bonus
But the proof became evident
As that mask did slip
Dear You,
You have worked 20+ years with a company. They give you a choice. You may find another department to work or you may leave the company with a severance pay. You decide to retire, especially now, that you have been diagnosed with autoimmune disease. One where you are barely able to get up in the morning due to the pain throughout your entire body. Forget the 20 years you put into the company, the last 12 weeks of your employment will determine your severance pay. You were on a leave absence that has expired and by the time you are able to get in to see the doctor, it's already past the time of your employment. Your severance was not what you were told or shown. Because, you missed days in those 12 weeks due to your disease. Why is 20 years of your history overrode by 12 weeks?
Sincerely, I Understand
Here is what I know. I know that when I presented all the information, with receipts, I was not the one held accountable but my supervisor was still blamed. In fact, I was relieved of all responsibilities that would have promoted him faster.
I know when I listed the reasons why a manager could not be trusted with his employees after lying about where the implementation of an illegal policy came from. The manager was willing to have his subordinates rest and take the blame. When I presented the information, I was the one blamed for lack of trust. I owned up for whatever I did while not having any evidence presented and removed myself from that position.
I know that when presented with details in a letter and having another supervisor tell their story, in its entirety. I was asked what was the purpose of this, and her truth wasn't valid. I know that the supervisor was coerced into another position due. I know this because I was part of that coercion. But, when the final answer was yes, that's the only answer that counts. The lie and defamation was already spread. I know, because I was presented when the lie came out of the manager's mouth.
These are just a few of the stories where psychological abuse takes place. When you have nowhere to turn because the one who stops it, is also the one who is supposed to listen with unbiased opinions. And as long as HR is under the control of the CEO, management, and the likes, HR, itself, will never be for the employees and the Open Door does nothing.
I have since left and am in a position where I am able to heal. I am better and these stories, while only a year and half ago, I first hand witnessed, feels like a lifetime ago.
This is where I challenge you. A movement begins with one voice, that turns into thousands, then millions. This vision will not see the light of day until long after I am gone. I am looking for help to lay out the blueprints so that future generations can take hold.
The employees, the associates, the workers, blue or white collar, need a place when the abuse happens. Something can be done and something needs to happen.
This isn't just about now. This is going to take years, decades, generations to finally correct what went wrong. But you can't stop the signal once it gets out and you can't silence the message of what is needed. The way you can help is to help keep the momentum that psychological abuse needs to be acknowledged and held accountable. Only then, can we finally grow as a society.
You would think You would come up With something better To try and get me To what exactly You're not that smart It wasn't that hard To figure out Where I work How do you know I work Again? Following me? Nothing linked To me and this job Unless you tailing me Oh, sweetie You're totes adorable I love you For reminding me Why I left you
Rich has various Implications One of wealth Beyond their needs and There is a wealth Of someone's own Luxuries Which one defines The term Since material wealth Is not something I stride for And the same With luxuries And even then There are different terms That decribe Those luxuries Material luxury Again let that one be That one doesn't offer solace In the midnight sun So the only luxury Rich and wealthy The one I'm inspired to The one that draws me in Are the ones who have learned This greatest lesson Peace, love, kindness Respect to all fellow men Those who value a hug From a dear friend And those who can sit in silence With a dear one Snuggled and warm That is my richest desire Is to just allow someone to be Without all the hate and bigotry
You call me an elephant And you're right As an elephant never forgets And that is your plight
You call me a cow And, again, you are correct For an animal tha is revered It's silly but ever checked
You say I'm a flea or a mite Both are right, my friend Since they always seem To bother and bite you
You call me ugly A little nothing know-it-all It's weird how you insult And still keep me in signt
You can't stand me and Yet always want to be around The one here you needs to the work Is the mirrored rebound
There are reasons I can't go further And post in subs That need to hear And align with the message The mods will shut it down The moment I try On those company threads In all places where Companies only see Figures instead of people And looking at the bottom line To gain the most While constantly losing The long term connection This isn't just one company But multifaceted This goes into the entertainment The actors and actresses The models and writers Singers and bands Who constantly have to fight To get their productions heard It's all about playing the game And who's willing to suck The biggest, or rather, smallest dick The only reason it hurts Is the knowledge of status quo
Due to the misrepresenation of your position and your failed leadership role, we the workers have come together in solidarity to hereby hold you accountable for the following:
You have allowed for bias consciousness to influence your decision. This includes nepotism, favoritism, and, my personal favorite, making someone an example.
You have failed in your very Open Door policy that, we the workers, would be heard every step of the way. It stops short, in most cases, at the next level HR Manager that is off site. In doing so, these managers have already formed opinions and personal relationships that prevent an honest investigation to happen.
You have failed to protect your workers from serious harm. The training videos for activer shooters usually pinpoint a digruntle employee. The problem with this, while you promote mental health there is lack of training for psychological abuse that managers put us through.
Rather than preventing fires, you systemcially cause them. Not everything is a emergency and less is not more. You are wasting more money is you hiring then you do with retention.
Now that I have opened this letter psychological abuse. There seems to be a clear lack of accountability, ownership and correction when it's presented. Coercion of an employee, even when their final word was yes, it's still abuse. Anyone abusing the Open Door or creates tickets for malicious purposes. Those who abuse their power by demeaning, belittling, and insulting.
It's time to make some serious changes in the workplace and allow for real harmony, growth, and innovation to happen. This will lead to less turnover and a willingness to work for the business.
If these changes do not take, we, the workers, will reform an entity, much like OSHA, to handle the investigations, hold accountability, and develop training in psychological abuse. We will also ensure to provide workers with consultants who specializes in workplace abuse cases. They will be able to instruct the employees how to use the Open Door, when to go to management, and the when and how to document the abuse.
As a company, you want to prevent the fires, not just put them out. This is about decreasing turnover, increasing yout productivity line, and employment satisfaction. Only you can make these changes.
Due to the misrepresenation of your position and your failed leadership role, we the workers have come together in solidarity to hereby hold you accountable for the following:
You have allowed for bias consciousness to influence your decision. This includes nepotism, favoritism, and, my personal favorite, making someone an example.
You have ailed in your very Open Door policy that, we the worler, would be heard every step of the way. It stops short, in most cases, at the next level HR Manager that is off site. In doing so, these managers have already formed opinions and personal relationships that prevent an honest investigation to happen.
You have failed to protect your workers from serious harm. The training videos for activer shooters usually pinpoint a digruntle employee. The problem with this, while you promote mental health there is lack of training for psychological abuse that managers put us through.
Rather than preventing fires, you systemcially cause them. Not everything is a emergency and less is not more. You are wasting more money is you hiring then you do with retention.
Now that I have opened this letter psychological abuse. There seems to be a clear lack of accountability, ownership and correction when it's presented. Coercion of an employee, even when their final word was yes, it's still abuse. Anyone abusing the Open Door or creates tickets for malicious purposes. Those who abuse their power by demeaning, belittlomg, and insulting.
It's time to make some serious changes in the workplace and allow for real harmony, growth, and innovation to happen. This will lead to less turnover and a willingness to work for the business.
If these changes do not take, we, the workers, will reform an entity, much lkke OSHA, to handle the investigations, hold accountability, and develop training in psychological abuse. We will also ensure to provide workers with consultants who specializes in workplace abuse cases. They will be able to instruct the employees how to use the Open Door, when to go to management, and the when and how to document the abuse.
As a company, you want to prevent the fires, not just put them out. This is about decreasing turnover, increasing yout productivity line, and employment satisfaction. Only you can make these changes.
There's a wives old tale About how opposites attract. But what happens when we are far too opposite. Yet, similiar in every way.
You like sports and I fall asleep You like to root for your winning team And you get upset because I don't take a stand. You're competitive and I'm not about first place. Tou want to perfect and I just want to get out of my head.
Can't you see, we have nothing in common. But we're the same in every faction. This would never work cause there would be nothing in the air
You liked to venture and I just chill. You work out daily while I just continue to be. You have goals and I have no dreams. I'm standing at the crossroad and you're yelling at me.
You take two steps forward, I take three steps back. We will never come to reach A calmer solution. Eggshells would break And the shit hits the fan. That would be the end of us. Can't you see there's nothing here for us.
One day
Two outlaws neeeded a place to hide
So they found a town and
A palace, home to a prince
With rumors of
His beastly ways
The evil queen cursed town
But the outsiders
Caught in this loop
Were the only ones
With memory
And repeating this same story
Until it was Red
Would discovered why
The curse had come
And how to truly break
So they could carry on
Not love or lesson
But a locket
A precious possession
Given to Beauty by
Her mother, the Evil Queen
Once the curse had been lifted
Beauty and Beast
Pledged their alliance
To help fight the evil queen
Red and Wolf can move forward
Restart the search for their twins
Taken by the Evil Queen
Moving to the land Of ice and blood Snow and her clan Were waiting for Red and Wolf To fall into their trap