u/Bucketh3ad92

Neulich habe ich mit meiner Freundin über Geschlechtspartnerzahl usw. diskutiert. Wie die meisten Frauen findet sie es unfair dass Männer für eine hohe Geschlechtspartner zahlgefeiert werden und Frauen als Schlampen gelten. Sie war der Meinung dass ich bestimmt mindestens 1-2 neue Frauen pro Monat hatte, woraufhin ich lachen musste weil sie sich um den Faktor 10 verschätzt hat.

Um das mal in Perspektive zu Rücken:
In meinem Freundeskreis gelte ich als “Aufreißer” der super erfolgreich mit Frauen ist. In der Praxis sieht dass so aus dass ich im Jahr vielleicht 20-40 Matches über alle Datingapps verteilt hatte, davon haben 10 zurückgeschrieben, davon widerrum haben mich mindestens 5 geghosted und mit 2-3 kam es zum date und eigentlich auch immer zu einem followup date oder GV. Alternativ hätte ich sicherlich auch immer noch etwas mit 1-2 Arbeitskolleginnen haben können, soetwas vermeide ich aber.

Nach meiner Erfahrung ist das ziemlich erfolgreich für einen Mann. Freunde von mir die tatsächlich jeden Monat mindestens 1 neue haben sind meist sehr manipulativ und abwertend was Frauen angeht oder besonders attraktiv und extrovertiert oder gehen oft in clubs oder ähnlichem.
Auf der anderen Seite haben viele meiner Freunde seit Jahren keinen GV mehr gehabt ohne super unattraktiv oder charakterlich uninteressant zu sein. Für die meisten ist es grosses Glück auch nur 1 Frau pro Jahr zu daten.

Meine Freundin hingegen hat erzählt dass bei ihr eigentlich so gut wie jeder rechts swipe ein Match ist. Feiern gehen ohne angebaggert zu werden ist unvorstellbar für sie. Und natürlich hatte sie auch immer einen Typen am start oder welche auf die sie zurückgreifen kann wenn sie will. Für den durchschnittlich Mann eher selten nach meiner Erfahrung.

Ich habe das Gefühl Frauen haben eine falsche Vorstellung davon wie dating heutzutage für eine Mann ablaüft und dass dir allermeisten Männer überhaupt nicht so promiskuitiv leben können wie Frauen selbst wenn sie es wollten.

Neulich habe ich mit meiner Freundin über Bodycount usw. diskutiert. Wie die meisten Frauen findet sie es unfair dass Männer für eine hohen Bodycount gefeiert werden und Frauen als Schlampen gelten. Sie war der Meinung dass ich bestimmt mindestens 1-2 neue Frauen pro Monat hatte, woraufhin ich lachen musste weil sie sich um den Faktor 10 verschätzt hat.

Um das mal in Perspektive zu Rücken:
In meinem Freundeskreis gelte ich als “Gigachad” der super erfolgreich mit Frauen ist. In der Praxis sieht dass so aus dass ich im Jahr vielleicht 20-40 Matches über alle Datingapps verteilt hatte, davon haben 10 zurückgeschrieben, davon widerrum haben mich mindestens 5 geghosted und mit 2-3 kam es zum date und eigentlich auch immer zu einem followup date oder Sex. Alternativ hätte ich sicherlich auch immer noch etwas mit 1-2 Arbeitskolleginnen haben können, soetwas vermeide ich aber.

Nach meiner Erfahrung ist das ziemlich erfolgreich für einen Mann. Freunde von mir die tatsächlich jeden Monat mindestens 1 neue haben sind meist sehr manipulativ und abwertend was Frauen angeht oder besonders attraktiv und extrovertiert oder gehen oft in clubs oder ähnlichem.
Auf der anderen Seite haben viele meiner Freunde seit Jahren keinen Sex mehr gehabt ohne super unattraktiv oder charakterlich uninteressant zu sein. Für die meisten ist es grosses Glück auch nur 1 Frau pro Jahr zu daten.

Meine Freundin hingegen hat erzählt dass bei ihr eigentlich so gut wie jeder rechts swipe ein Match ist. Feiern gehen ohne angebaggert zu werden ist unvorstellbar für sie. Und natürlich hatte sie auch immer einen Typen am start oder welche auf die sie zurückgreifen kann wenn sie will. Für den durchschnittlich Mann eher selten nach meiner Erfahrung.

Ich habe das Gefühl Frauen haben eine falsche Vorstellung davon wie dating heutzutage für eine Mann ablaüft und dass dir allermeisten Männer überhaupt nicht so rumhuren können wie Frauen selbst wenn sie es wollten.

I've followed the UAP topic almost religiously since the Bob Lazar Joe Rogan episode.

Like many of you, I've consumed an absurd amount of information over the years: witness testimony, military encounters, radar data, leaked footage, government reports, whistleblowers, documentaries, podcasts, books, and countless online discussions.

At some point, there's so much information that it's actually difficult to form a clear conclusion. Every case seems to point in a different direction. Some look compelling, others fall apart under scrutiny. It's easy to get lost in the sheer volume of claims.

Over the years, I've tried to distill everything down to what I think is the most likely explanation. It's a bit disappointing compared to the popular narratives, but I think it fits the evidence best.

My conclusion is that UAPs are real, in the sense that there are genuinely unexplained objects or phenomena being detected and tracked. Since the late stages of World War II and especially throughout the Cold War, improvements in radar, sensors, satellites, and aviation technology have allowed militaries to observe things they cannot fully identify.

The key point is this: if the United States has been seeing these things and cannot explain all of them, then Russia, China, and every other technologically advanced nation has likely been dealing with the same problem.

What we have strong evidence for are sightings, pilot reports, radar tracks, infrared footage, sensor data, and government investigations. What we do not have strong evidence for are recovered alien spacecraft or successful reverse-engineering programs.

For decades, despite countless leaks and investigations, the evidence consistently points to observations of unexplained phenomena rather than confirmed extraterrestrial hardware.

The recovery and reverse-engineering narrative only really entered the mainstream through recent whistleblower claims, most notably David Grusch. That's also where I think the possibility of deliberate disinformation begins.

If governments know that some UAPs represent technology or phenomena beyond current human understanding, then every major power would desperately want to understand them first. The ultimate strategic advantage would be convincing your rivals that you've already cracked the code.

In that scenario, the bluff is incredibly valuable.

Imagine you're China and the United States is allowing stories to circulate that it possesses recovered craft and has reverse-engineered exotic technology. Even if those claims are false, China has to take them seriously. The same logic applies in reverse.

So my final verdict is this:

The phenomenon is probably real.

The mystery is probably real.

The sightings are real.

The data is real.

But the crashed saucers, recovered bodies, and secret reverse-engineering programs may be the very place where the disinformation starts. Part of this could also be the remote viewing and other psionic things that mostly came up more over the past years.

Not to hide aliens from the public—but to gain an advantage over rival nations competing to understand whatever these objects actually are.

Of course, I could be completely wrong. But after years of following this topic, this is the explanation that requires the fewest assumptions while still fitting most of the available evidence. I really wish there is recovered craft and bioligics though. I let chatgpt help my with the text, bear with me.

Ive been with my current girlfriend since almost a year. Ive had a 10 Year relationship(my first) before, that ended because she couldnt stop the contact to guys she hooked up with before. It already started being a problem in year 1 of the relationship but i kept my hope up because it was such a simple thing to ask for considering it was a hookup between a 16 year old girl and a 26 year old neighbour from her village and some other questionable things. It never stopped for 10 years until i finally ended. It fucked me up for a while.

After i finally healed after a few years and i had my single experiences, i met someone new and felt ready for something serious again. I tried to avoid even finding out anything about her past because i knew how it might end. Nevertheless i still found out early on she had a FFM threesome before and obviously some other things. The moment i heard that, my heart sunk to my stomach. I knew this could be the beginning of the end. Because otherwise she was really a jackpot(beautiful smart Latina with a PhD) and i myself also had a ton of crazy sexual experiences, i thought i can handle it and told her about the main problem of my last relationship and why it is super important for me that there is a clear cut to all the guys in her past(im really not bothered about girls she hooked up with at all for some reason). I dont want to know when where why how and how many, it can only end badly. She agreed because she also didnt really wanna know what was going on in my sexlife. Id consider myself a „slut“. I love sex, i couldnt be with a woman thats bad in bed and therefore its expected shes also experienced. Im not slutshaming, i just dont want to know, just harvest the fruits of it so to say :D.

I told her multiple times during the relationship how important the cut is for me. She always agreed and was like she would never do that and that she is not my Ex. I trusted her. 

Last friday, we had a little discussion about the topic, she then told me she had to confess something.

Apparently the guy she had a threesome with works at the uni she is also working at and thats why she sometimes sees him. She promised that she never spoke to him. I told her that even him being at her workplace is normally a NoGo for me and a reason to breakup or not consider this a serious relationship anymore. But still, the relationship was too good to give it up because of something like this, so i just accepted it and took it as a growth opportunity since i trusted her.

We had a great saturday and went to the gym together on sunday. After the workout we both went to our home. When i was home, she suddenly rushed into my flat and told me that she needs to confess something and that i might break up. She was visibly stressed. She then told me that she actually met the guy from the threesome a few times and went out with him the same week and weeks before and that he bought a videogame for her in january that she apparently didnt play. She promised she did that because she felt alone on a friendship basis and that she always got along well with him. She also confessed that she knows him since almost 4 years and before we started dating used to hook up with him every now and then. She promised several times that she did not cheat, never cheated on anyone and would never cheat on me. She said how much she loves me and all that.

Of course i was very disturbed by that and didnt really know what to do now. I couldnt think clearly anymore. I should also add that i just smoked a fat after workout joint, so that didnt help at all. 

I said that i dont think i will be able to handle that and that she deeply broke my trust and basically did cheat on me even if supposedly nothing physical happened. It all seemed very fishy, hard to believe she didnt cheat. But still she promised that she would do anything for me and dont want to loose me. I took the offer and that moment and fucked the shit out of her. Its my way of coping sometimes…

She went home and i couldnt sleep. I called in sick at work on monday in order to manage my thoughts and talk to her again to ask some questions.

She came over in the afternoon and i started my interrogation right away. She could answer most questions more or less plausibly but some things were still off, she evidently lied multiple times and knowingly hid something from me. I asked her for the history with the guy but she said she deleted it so that i dont see his name. She offered to ask him for the chathistory, i declined because i found i lt awkward in that moment. Logically in my mind the content of the history must be worse than the name, why else delete it?

She desperately cried like ive never seen a woman cry before. And swore over and over again that she did not cheat. She admitted she made a terrible mistake. She said she loves me, would do anything to earn my Trust back and cant be without me and so on. 

I decided to give it a try although i felt terrible and just couldnt believe her. It was all just waaay too suspicious. But i felt like im actually not that invested and the risk to reward ratio is pretty good. We dont have kids, use condoms(mostly), dont live together and are obviously not married. I decided to be more careful though. Either she is actually telling the truth or she is an absolute psychopath to play such a game and blatantly lie that often and that brash. She begged me to give her one last chance, that she wouldn’t disappoint me and promised that she would prove her loyalty and love.

After all that she cleaned some of my flat, went and got groceries for me with some sweets and cooked for me. She would basically not let me do any labour. She stayed at my place overnight. I need to get up at 05:30 in the morning, she can more or less work anytime and anywhere she wants but she got up got up with me and made me breakfast for work. 

When i came back from work, my whole flat was clean and there were flowers and a „I am very sorry“ card with a text.

That is basically where im at right now.

Here some of the imo relevant details and happenings that make me suspicious:

• She texted with him basically since the start if our relationship but only met him after she was in her homecountry for a month. She came back in the beginning of april
• They hung out at the uni beergarden twice.
• They went to a bar/club together, she only drank alcoholfree beer and cola.
• He is living near her place and thats why they sometimes bumb into each other on the bus.
• When she went to the city to buy shoes, she bumbed into him and they did something together, i dont remember, that was mid last week. I had vacation that week, live in the city center and was home, she could have easily hung out with me instead of him but she didnt text me.
• There were moments where she was supposed to come to my place but was unusually late.
• In late April her pussy was burning, she seemed unbothered and thought its probably just a yeast infection but it got worse and worse, i didnt have anything. I was scared it could be a std, she seemed more convinced as it worsened but was all in all rather chill. She went to her doctor, not a gynaecologist because its hard to get one here. He instantly said its probably gonorrhea and she freaked out. She texted me that we need to have a serious talk andthat i should better not smoke before coming. She sat me down and seriously asked me in a very pedagogic way if i have cheated (she used to be a kindergarten teacher) i declined and she told me what the doctor told her. But she als told me that she thinks he might have judged her and that he seemed like an idiot. She got an appointment for a gynecologist the next day after she desperately searched and asked the whole city. This doctor then said its just yeast infection, so all was good.
• On Sunday she said he didnt try anything at all on her like flirting. On monday she admitted he tried once. She still hung out with him.
• She said she exitedly told him about me that he has seen my picture and that i have a problem with her seeing him. He said „why? im not a threat“
• I cant really give examples but all in all some things were not consistent over the talks and also if you take some things i heard over the year into consideration

There was never any distrust from my side at all until lately. Everything was super smooth and peaceful. I never would have guessed anything if she wouldnt have told me. I felt super comfortable and had 0 suspicion or the need to look at her phone or something.

The main problem is imo the deleted history and her personal history with that guy. The fact that she met with him instead of me when she could very easily hang out with me. Knowing i dont tolerate it. Doing it multiple times, constantly texting.

She said the last time they hooked up was sometime in 2024 but after that she wasnt interested anymore and was looking for a relationship. Romantically they were according to her together for 2 days after their second date but realised that thats not it and after that it was off the table romantically. She admitted it was just stupidity because of some problems they both had at that time like being freshly single and both in a new country to study, loneliness, desperation and so on.

I hope you can help me, i probably forgot some things though. Should i trust again or am i blind from love?

Edit:
I talked to some of my friends about it. Today, i will ask her for his phonenumber to talkwith him personally or that she asks him for his chathistory like she offered. This should give some clarification.

Ich nutze manchmal ein Gedankenexperiment, um mir Statistiken besser vor Augen zu führen:

Ich stelle mir vor, ich würde in einem Dorf mit 500 Einwohnern leben, in dem mehr oder weniger jeder jeden kennt. Natürlich ist das rein statistisch nicht 1:1 übertragbar, weil ein Dorf nicht die gleiche Struktur wie ein ganzes Land hat. Treffender wäre eigentlich die Vorstellung, man kennt 500 „durchschnittliche“ Menschen aus Deutschland.

Trotzdem hilft mir dieses Modell, Größenordnungen greifbarer zu machen.

Femizide Deutschland

Ausgehend von groben statistischen Raten komme ich bei Femiziden auf etwa:

ca. 700–1200 Jahre, bis in diesem „500-Personen-Dorf“ statistisch ein Femizid passiert

Andere Beispiele:

Allgemeine Körperverletzung (ohne schwere Waffen)

Deutschland: ca. 200–250 pro 100.000 Einwohner/Jahr

→ im 500er Dorf: etwa 1 Fall pro Jahr

Gewaltkriminalität (Raub, gefährliche Körperverletzung etc.)

Deutschland: ca. 180–220 pro 100.000/Jahr

→ im 500er Dorf: etwa 1 Fall pro Jahr

Messerbeteiligte schwere Gewalt (grobe Schätzung)

Deutschland: ca. 10–30 pro 100.000/Jahr

→ im 500er Dorf: etwa alle 7–20 Jahre ein Fall

Tötungsdelikte insgesamt

Deutschland: ca. 0,8–1,0 pro 100.000/Jahr

→ im 500er Dorf: etwa alle 200–250 Jahre ein Fall

Diebstahl

Deutschland: ~5.000–6.000 pro 100.000/Jahr

→ im Dorf: 25–30 Fälle pro Jahr

Alkoholbezogene Gewalt Ein großer Anteil der Gewaltkriminalität

→ im Dorf: ein relevanter Teil der 1–2 Gewaltfälle pro Jahr

Suizide statistisch etwa 1 Suizid alle 20 Jahre in einem 500-Personen-Dorf