My boyfriend (M38) and I (F29) have only been together for 2 months. We became “official” pretty quickly and are even Facebook official. We both have kids, and our kids have already met each other.
This morning really upset me and I’m sitting here crying while he gets ready and I genuinely don’t know if I’m overreacting.
We were supposed to go to church this morning together. I tried waking him up multiple times but he kept going back to sleep. I got myself ready and went into the room and said, “Hey babe, I’m going to leave soon.”
He immediately got mad and said, “What? Why the hell didn’t you wake me up?”
I told him I tried multiple times and he wouldn’t wake up. Then I asked if he was going to get up because I wanted him to come with me.
He then told me, “Get the fuck out of my face.”
I said, “I don’t like when you talk to me like that.”
And he responded with, “I don’t like when you’re in my face bitching. Leave me the fuck alone.”
For context: I never yell at him. I’ve never told him to shut up or cursed at him like that. But when he gets angry, he yells and says really hurtful things. This isn’t the first time he’s spoken to me like this.
What’s messing with me is I already struggle with feeling like I can’t make relationships work. My parents make comments like “you can’t keep anyone,” and I’ve had a lot of shorter relationships. Now I feel embarrassed that my daughter already met him and I’m scared I messed things up for her by introducing someone too soon.
This feels wrong to me, but part of me keeps wondering if I was being annoying and somehow caused this. Is this normal conflict in relationships, or is this a red flag I shouldn’t ignore? I don’t get it, he used to be so sweet and emotional with me up until a week ago or so, when we started fighting more and I think he’s just frustrated with me still?
Any honest advice would help because I feel really confused right now.