u/BumbleBee727

I am not currently pregnant but when we do have another I would want to try for VBAC. I feel I am a good candidate because everything with my first labor/birth went well and my body was doing exactly what it needed to. The problem was that my baby was in a funky position, (her head was basically jammed into my right hip so she was sort of sideways I guess) and no matter what we tried she would not move so that’s why I ended up with the c section.

But everything else was fine - my water broke naturally at 40+5 and I was already at 6cm within like an hour of it breaking. I was fully dilated before even laboring for 24hrs and my body was even doing the fetal ejection reflex. My stubborn little babe was the only issue! 😂

So do you think a vbac would be a good choice for next time?

I’ve always gone back and forth between LL and HL. I don’t need a lot but my husband and I rarely have sex and that didn’t used to be a problem. But within the past few years it’s like a switch has flipped for me and I no longer feel fine about occasional sex. I want to feel desired and seen sexually again. I know he loves me and loves having sex with me but he never makes the move. I also just feel like we aren’t very compatible sexually but like I said, in the beginning of our relationship it didn’t matter to me. I was in love with him as a person first and foremost and the sex was secondary. I hate that I’ve changed and now I don’t feel that way anymore. I wish it could go back to how it was. I’ve never felt like we had amazing sex anyway but again, at the time, it didn’t matter to me. I want to feel turned on by my partner again..I haven’t felt like that in a long time and I feel so stupid and selfish that I don’t feel like that towards him. It makes me sound so horrible but he’s not very big and I feel like it’s become an issue for me..not feeling satisfied..I’m sorry for the rambling I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve expressed these feelings and he’s already made it very clear to me that I’m a horrible person for even considering ending the marriage over sex.
Sorry for the rant.

Edit: I should have mentioned I am F29 and he is M28. (I wasn’t really thinking coherently when I wrote all this out, I apologize.)

I’m looking into surrogacy but worried I won’t be accepted because of my mental health background. Curious what potential parents think.
Thank you