u/BumbleBee727

FINALLY seeing some results with potty training!

I’m over the moon. So damn proud of her. Just had to share something positive for those who are in the same boat with their toddlers right now.

MY 3 YEAR OLD FINALLY WENT PEE IN THE TOILET. This is huge for us. We have been struggling hard with potty training. I thought I screwed up. Felt like a failure for not having her potty trained before 3. After a crazy day of two pee accidents, and one poo accident, she asked to go pee in the toilet and ACTUALLY DID. She went AGAIN that night before bed. Incredible.
Husband and I were actually freaking out and I think we scared her a bit with our excitement. Lol

If you are going through hell with your 3 year old too, keep going. Try all the things. We tried all the stuff. It wasn’t until I asked my husband to grab some Hershey kisses at the store and decided to use them as a reward for going in the potty, that something really clicked with her. Bribery is great, folks! 😂
Don’t get discouraged if the progress isn’t linear. Don’t give up if they have multiple accidents in one day. Everyday will be different until they really get it and become consistent.

You’ve got this 👍🏻

Daughter just turned 3. She has never pooed on the toilet but has peed only 2 times during our entire potty training journey. We started lightly introducing the potty probably around 2. (I honestly don’t remember I just know it’s been about a year since we first sat her on the toilet.)
She has withholding issues with poo. She has been on MiraLAX for probably a year now. She stills seems very uncomfortable with poo and will go off by herself somewhere and stand straight up, and tells us not to look at her. She gets really upset if you ask if she wants to go to the potty while she’s in this position.
She will sit on the toilet willingly (for the most part) but she seems to not understand how to actually pee or poo while there? She sits for a long time sometimes yet nothing happens.. we read to her or play w/ small toys.

I’m wondering if her poo withholding is contributing to the potty training difficulties. She’s also done that thing where you sit them on the toilet for like 10-15 mins and they do nothing then they get up and 5-10 mins later they pee all over themselves/the ground.

Any and ALL tips are welcome. I’m just feeling like a failure right now that she is already 3 and not using the toilet.

I feel alone. Everyone seems to have had great midwives and I didn’t. My all natural birth center birth, (turned hospital and c section birth) was honestly traumatizing for me. I’m having a really hard time accepting it, even years after it happened. Looking for solidarity..

I’m honestly afraid to go into detail. Just feeling really alone. I spent 8 days in a psych hospital a few days after my baby was born.
I’ve never really felt like I could talk about it.
I was having incredibly scary intrusive thoughts.
I still feel extreme guilt over not being there for my baby during that week.. missing out on that early time with her..

I had a c section before I got to that part so I’m very curious what it ~actually~ feels like to have a whole ass human come out of your cooch lol

Do you have pain still at your incision site? And if you do what have you done to reduce it? I am 3 yrs pp and it’s still very painful and numb at the same time.

I am wanting to try for a vbac next pregnancy as a one time c section mom and was wondering if there are moms in my area that had one and had a positive experience with a supportive doctor. Would love to hear what OB you went to and were they supportive of your vbac decision? What hospital did you deliver at and was it a hospital you would recommend?
Thank you!

I am not currently pregnant but when we do have another I would want to try for VBAC. I feel I am a good candidate because everything with my first labor/birth went well and my body was doing exactly what it needed to. The problem was that my baby was in a funky position, (her head was basically jammed into my right hip so she was sort of sideways I guess) and no matter what we tried she would not move so that’s why I ended up with the c section.

But everything else was fine - my water broke naturally at 40+5 and I was already at 6cm within like an hour of it breaking. I was fully dilated before even laboring for 24hrs and my body was even doing the fetal ejection reflex. My stubborn little babe was the only issue! 😂

So do you think a vbac would be a good choice for next time?

I’m looking into surrogacy but worried I won’t be accepted because of my mental health background. Curious what potential parents think.
Thank you