u/BunnyMoonLover

My AC stopped working after visiting Take 5 today for an oil change. They didn’t have the air filters in stock and showed me the old one before replacing it. The AC briefly worked on the drive home and then stopped. What could be the cause of this and is my car going to be damaged by driving it more until I can get in touch with a shop?

What is the most likely thing that happened?

I am not mechanically inclined at all. I really need to not have damage to my car and have no funds for a repair.

The AC has never had issues prior and blows cold cold air typically.

2013 Honda Accord V6

fuzzy soft kitten

i love you so endlessly

you are my whole heart

ive lurked here for a little while but haven’t had the courage to post. it’s been feeling lonely with even my good friends not understanding why we go no contact. so just feels like no one really gets it.

this post will get heavy so please do not read further if you are easily triggered

some backstory...

i was a victim of a random crime incident (CSA) in elementary school and had to go to court etc. my perpetrator was arrested and sentenced. after that incident i was then regularly molested by my stepfather, who married my mom the previous year. this went on for years taking different forms but always sexual abuse in some way.

when i was 17 i told my then bf who said i needed to tell my mom. i was too afraid and he ended up speaking for me since i could not. she didn’t believe it. she continued to not believe me for years and years. she gaslit me in front of therapists even

instead, she convinced my medical providers that i had bipolar and had me heavily medicated. i experienced cognitive decline as a result of being over medicated for years. it turns out that i have autism like my father.

this woman used to tell me when i was young that she always wanted a sister. or that she saw me like a sister or as her best friend. she also told me on more than one occasion that she felt like she “lived vicariously“ through me. when i grew older she would start to tell me inappropriate information about things that happened between her and my father before i was born or vent about other family members endlessly.

i have been enmeshed with her and she behaves like a teenager. she finally admitted to me that she “should have never married (pedo stepfather)” and that she was lonely. bravo wow. what did she expect me to say ?

when i bring up that i still struggle with trauma from childhood she is so quick to mention the criminal event but when i bring up that she married and had a predator in my house and bedroom, it’s always a flavor of “i wish you would let that go.”

she feels entitled to my time and energy. with my therapists suggestion i removed the family group chat and made all alerts for her calls and texts silent. her calls and texts finally stopped. i think the family is still using the group chat but i don’t see the messages anymore.

it’s not as though one major thing recently happened to stop contact. we did go on a trip together just the two of us last month for a week. and i felt small around her and uncomfortable. I didn’t even want to eat near her. she also insulted my brand new shoes that i was excited about for no reason when i showed them to her. but that was really it. I just don’t want to be involved in a world where i feel the FOG of being in constant communication with her. she honestly failed at the very basest form of what a mother needs to do for her children: protect them. sure, she tried to give us fun days and whatever. the fun mom. but my childhood was fragmented from her choice of husband after an already tragic and life altering event.

im reclaiming my space. im going to mother my own inner child. im going to let her go.