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So I (20 M) and my husband (21 M) got into a nasty fight in session with our couples therapist.

For context: my husband’s dad hates me because I am “different” and personally I don’t mind that he can hate me all he wants however, one week I was in town with my husband‘s siblings and he doesn’t regularly spend time with him so I invited them to dinner a full five course meal that I’m preparing by myself, which is totally fine for me I invited everyone a week in advance just for everyone to clear their schedules (my husband has two brother brothers) while the days got closer his dad who is a stickler about organization and management suddenly announced to his kids that he wants them there for Father’s Day which is fine for me I didn’t care about that because it was the day before my dinner. Later that day he canceled and rescheduled it to the next day (the day that I have my dinner planned) and he was fully aware that I had a dinner planned later that day. But whatever I didn’t wanna get into a fight about it because it seemed useless so I just postpone the dinner to later that day at night time it was supposed to be at 5pm. I pushed to 8pm. And notified everyone about it they all agreed that they’d be there

Later my husband went to see his dad for Father’s Day ( even though they don’t have a relationship since it is very strained He just wanted to go there because he felt obligated.) I wished him off, and I started cleaning. Cooking, washing dishes, rearranging furniture (I was staying at an Airbnb) every hour or so I would check in with my husband by sending him a text to see if he’s still on for dinner and he said he’d be there 7:30 PM just to help me clean up. So 7:30 rolls around. I’m tired my back hurts. My husband isn’t here and he’s not answering my text or calls. I got mad and shut everything down. Then I texted my husband that “I’m leaving” I meant to say that I just wanted to leave for a walk, but that was an accident from me and I apologized for that afterwards. I went to the riverside and powered off my phone and then suddenly my husband is right behind me lecturing me about scaring him. I proceeded to tell him I didn’t mean it like that and apologized in a calm way. Later, we went home and didn’t talk about it.

The next day we talked about it for a bit and said we’d talk about it in couples therapy later that day. Night time rolls around, therapy was HEATED I got blamed for storming out and wording things horribly (which I apologized for) then got lectured about how my husband needed to place more boundaries with me (which didn’t make sense to me because this had nothing to do with boundaries, his dad purposely sabotaged my dinner to get everyone busy and not come, and I’ve confirmed this with my husband) and then got lectured more about boundaries while I was explaining the situation. Later I found out that while my husband was on his way to look for me he was thinking about offing himself by driving off a bridge. When he told me that I am embarrassed to say that I started talking about myself and my experience with that instead of apologizing, which I didn’t realize until I said it and I instantly regretted it. My husband when on a tangent about leaving to stay somewhere else and I started crying about him leave (due to past trauma) I begged him to stay until I started having a panic attack and blurted that I’m thinking about offing myself. He called the non-emergency hotline and paramedics came a couple minutes later with my husband. And he decided to stay for the night to keep an eye on me. I regret a lot of things and this is one of them. Please, I need your guidance and advice. I don’t know how to feel or what to do…

Ever since I can remember, whenever my husband and I sit down to watch a movie together, the same thing always happens. I’m the one who gets emotional over everything, tearing up at even the smallest moments, while he just sits there completely unfazed. It doesn’t matter if the scene is supposed to be heartbreaking, inspiring, or super meaningful. I’m over here trying not to cry, and he’s just watching like it’s any normal scene. Honestly it’s kind of impressive, but also a little frustrating.

We have watched all kinds of movies together, from romantic dramas to emotional true stories that are basically made to make people cry, and still nothing gets to him. At this point I’ve started to wonder if there is even a movie out there that could actually make him show some emotion. I’m not even asking for a full breakdown, just a tear or him getting a little choked up would feel like a huge win.

It has honestly turned into a personal mission for me to find that one movie that can finally make it happen. I want something that can affect anyone, even someone who seems completely immune to emotional scenes. I am looking for a movie that feels real and builds up naturally, something that hits you when you least expect it instead of trying too hard.

So at this point I am open to anything. I just want a movie recommendation that could finally make my husband cry, because in all the time we have been together, I have never seen it happen, not even once.

PLEASE I NEED HELP GIVE ME RECOMMENDATIONS!