u/CZD1

I’m so annoyed my so called boyfriend has been so busy with work and starting new business that he can’t even ring or text me for days see him once a week, we havnt had sex in about two months. I rang him today and he was busy, and he said he was ment to be at a family birthday party which I have met none of his family. I sent him a message after this saying “Hi I was ringing to ask Do you mind if I start dating other people? Since you have no time for me and you don’t take our relationship seriously.” He hasn’t responded yet but I am so sick of feeling left out and unimportant. I’m like what spell should I do the make him change this ways, or should I do an obsession spell and do another to cut my feelings off for him. Then he would know how I feel!

Me (F33) partner (M48) relationship is nearly 1 year

My partner is a good man but just bores me he just wants to watch tv, he is very busy with work. Also we have not had sex in about 2 months his choice. He says he’s just so occupied with his business and keeps telling me it will be better in two months am I the problem for not being just happy with being at his watching tv. I want intimacy. I want to just go upstairs and lie down on the bed and just be me and him and talk. Instead of staring at a box, and he mainly picks the shows. I don’t watch tv at home, I couldn’t care less if I never watched tv again.

I’m 33 and my father died recently we hadn’t been really speaking in previous years, he was found in a river he was a alcoholic, abandoned my mother when she was sick (MS) I have all this trauma not physical or sexual but like neglect, father wound, abandonment wound. Caused me to get into a abusive relationship when I was young. I have met someone who is pretty amazing but I am driving him away with my irratic reactions sometimes, and if I don’t like something il up and leave, I get anxious aswel and I start telling myself all these things in my head. My partner (M48) has pulled back and it’s killing me to a degree I think more so because I know my shit behaviour has caused this. I’m embarrassed by my upbringing and childhood because he had a normal upbringing. I have blocked out most of my childhood, like I can’t ride a bike how messed up is that. What I am trying to ask is what have people done to deal with their trauma to try face it and resolve it, all suggestions welcome if you found it helpful please.